Need Rush Advice...please?
 

Lately I been really wondering which sorority I wish to pledge, if of course I get a bid. Well anyway, here's the situation.
I'm stuck between two sororities ABC and XYZ (we only have 5 main sororities). ABC has one of my best friends in it, plus I already know a good number of the girls. These girls though, are the down-to-earth kind of girls in which can be (except for a small number of them) intimidated by other people (they have told me). But there is a big difference comparing this to XYZ. XYZ are the party girls who are not the intimidated ones but yet the strong girls who ABC is intimidated of. I know a couple girls here. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif
The main point to my problem is which one do I want to be in. ABC I know a whole bunch of girls-that are really cool and all, but I feel as if I don't want to be with girls that are not so confident and are scared to go places because XYZ will be there. The reason because of this, is that I have spent all my life making myself stronger in the sense I don't care what others think of me. I want a bunch of girls to make me stronger, help me as well as having sisterhood. I feel XYZ will help me grow---be a WOMAN!! what should I do> someone help!? http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/confused.gif

I would suggest that you go through rush with an open mind, ask questions, and see which sorority you get along better with. Another thing to keep in mind is to pick the sorority that is most like you now, not the one you want to be most like. You will feel so much better if you pick the one you feel most comfortable in. And as for ABC sorority...just because they are intimidated by the other girls doesn't mean that you have to be intimidated too. Choose the one that your heart is telling you to pick. You will be so happy that you did.

As I was told during rush, go where you feel at home. You will just know when youre at the right place!




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I agree. Go through rush and don't narrow the field down to just two sororities. I did that before I went through rush, and I regret that now. What do the other three sororities at your school have to offer? I also agree that if you do join ABC you don't have to be intimidated of XYZ. All that matters is that you will feel good being in that house. Go where you feel the best. Good luck! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

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By the light of the lamp, by the light of the lamp, by the bright shiny light, by the light of the lamp...if you are a DeeZee, you're the best that you can be, by the bright shiny light of the lamp!

When I went through rush there were only two nationals to rush. I had friends in one, who were seen as the more studious group, and the other were more of the party-girls and I also knew a few of them. But when I went through rush and actually spend time with each, it was hard becasue they were both a great group, but I just felt a lot more 'at home' with one. Even though I really thought I wanted to be in the 'party group'. But I pledged AOPI and never for a moment looked back. Just remember, this is what Rush week is for. This is your chance to see the ladies for what they are, and decide who you are more comfortable with. Just remember, these ladies are your sisters for life, and no matter who you choose, they will love you!
Good luck!!

AOPIHottie

"there are those who did,
and those who wish they had"
Alpha Omicron Pi

Look at it this way - maybe you and your pledgesisters would be the ones to make ABC stronger. I know this is what happened in my chapter...myself and several of the other girls who pledged around the same time really didn't care about the older sisters' saying (mainly out of insecurity) "Oh, we only hang out at so and so fraternity", "we could never compete with so and so sorority" and so on. We just flushed all that and did what we wanted to do and didn't let any preconceived notions stand in our way. We opened a lot of people's eyes up to what our sorority was really like - fun, independent, wonderful women.

It sounds like the girls in ABC are already the ones you like and feel comfy with. I felt when I chose a sorority, not only did I want them to help make me a better person, but I wanted to feel like I helped improve the sorority too. If it's really down to the 2, I would go with ABC.

Hey Dreamer... I went through about the same thing you did. You should take the time at look at the two sororities and see which one you can benefit the most from as well as which one you can give the most too. You know that in sorority ABC you could be a leader, showing them how not to be so scared.. and plus you already get along well with them.. but on the other hand sorority XYZ would be great too, as you could further yourself, and perhaps make those girls in sorority ABC feel not so intimdated by sorority XYZ as you will be in it. I spent a lot of time after preference debated over two houses, there are 7 on my campus.. but I really analyzed my options, and I don't regret the choice I made! Good Luck!