Juniorgrrl
 

Just wondering how everything is going? Have you heard back from that chapter yet? I wish you nothing but the best, and hope that you get your wish of becoming greek http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif Please keep us all posted!

Bid day is tomorrow, according to their website. At the party, they were *really* unspecific about what came next, so I have no ideas if there were parties this week that I wasn't invited to. After tomorrow though, I'll know for sure

Just for an update ya'll...Its 3:05 PM on "Bid Day" and I haven't heard anything. I don't know what time bids were to be distributed, so there's still hope. But very little...

Good luck Juniorgrrl - you probably said in other posts but what sorority(s) were you interested in?

I didn't name the house. I'm not sure why - maybe not to jinx it, maybe because I didn't want any actives from the chapter to come here and see my posts...

Email me (juniorgrrl@hotmail.com) and I will let you know http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Just to give an update to the situation: the sorority that couldn't call me enough last week to make sure I was coming to the party didn't make the simple effort to call me and let me know that they had decided not to extend a bid. Because bid day was Friday and I haven't heard from them since the party last Sunday, I can assume that I did not recieve an invitation to join.

I'm sorry if I sound a bit soured by this whole experience, but it is very disheartening to be called out of the blue by a group and invited to their party, called at least twice a day for 3 or 4 days by members making sure you are coming to the party, and then never hear from them again. I think it would have been polite for them to at least call me and express their regrets rather than have me wonder.

juniorgrrl...

I am so sorry you had to go through this. But look at it this way. Now you know for sure that wasn't where you were meant to be. How many girls were at the open bid party? They should at least call to let you know. Take care and keep your chin up.

I'm not sure how many girls were at the party - 20 or 30 maybe? At the party, they didn't even tell us when selections would be and when their bid day would be. I found out that Friday was Bid Day all on my own by checking out their website.

Ohhh that is terrible!! I am so sorry I don't know what to say...maybe you could contact that groups national org or an advisor from that group if they are listed on their website?

What good would it do to contact the nationals? Did they violate some sort of rule?

At first I wasn't going to comment, but.. what the hell. Juniorgrrl - I am soo sorry about how things worked out for you. From reading your posts, I can't help but want to cry foul. I just think that it is wrong to informally rush someone that you don't have room for. I don't know what org this is, but I would ask some questions. Granted, I haven't been "on the inside" of rush yet, but that just seems mean. Especially since you've been through it before.

But always remember, if the group doesn't realize what a great person you are, why should you bother with them??

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I doubt they broke some kind of rule but they definitely treated you poorly. It would be one thing if they had called once or you had responded to a flyer or something but instead you were called multiple times and you were there for a half hour and then completely ditched. It is no wonder this chapter has trouble rushing if they treat PNM like that!

I think that as an advisor I would want that sort of feedback.

I agree with the last two posts--Juniorgrrl, you got treated so badly! Somebody needs to know!

As a veteran of MULTIPLE open bid parties, we did not call a woman back over and over unless we were very interested in her and planned to give her a bid...multiple invites were usually to quell whatever doubts she might have had about joining and keep her interest up.

Something that may have happened is that there is some kind of internal chapter conflict - half the girls wanted to bid you, half didn't, and you got stuck in the undertow. If that is the case, then dammit, they should call you back and give you a REAL explanation, not this cut once cut again business. It sounds like they are doing things in a very unorganized way and are not unified.

If you feel close enough to your friend who is a member, I would go to her and ask her. Tell her you realize she can't violate the secrecy of voting sessions, but you were confused by the sorority's actions. If I was in that situation and a rushee confronted me, I would be honest.

Just to clarify a few things: there was only one party, but I was called by no less than 5 different members making sure I was coming and asking if I needed a ride. I had 1 call last Tuesday, 1 last Wednesday (I called both back on Wednesday) 2 Thursday and 2 Friday. The party lasted 90 minutes and I was rushed by 2 different girls. The second one and I got along pretty well - she even gave me a hug as I left.

I ran into my friend yesterday, but we acted like nothing happened. I dont even think she was at the party on Sunday. I feel a bit wierd calling her about it, because last time she was so ambiguious, and then this time she didn't even know that I had been invited until I asked her about it.

I don't know if it was the cut once cut again this time. It could have been many things - I'm too old, I dressed wrong...who knows.

Really, I don't think that Greek Affairs here cares very much. The system is so very cliqueish its hard to get an answer out of anyone. They would probably just tell me that I can't know why I was cut, end of story.