I'm getting to old for this SH*#
 

Last weekend one the bruhs called me up and asked if I wanted to hang out with him and another bruh from his chapter who was in town from Tennessee. I met them at Friday's for some drinks. When I arrived the visiting bruh had some other young cats with him. These guys were in their early 20's I'd say. One of the guys was a trash talking short guy who liked to approach women with comedy lines. He asked me if I wanted to step outside and smoke a cigar with him. I didn't mind because I thought he was funny. So as this group of young ladies walked by he decides to pursue. I just sat back and watched. As I watched him make a complete ASS out of himself, A van pulled up next to him and these women. Out of this van came about 8-10 guys. One of the guys was apparently the boyfriend of one of these young ladies. The next thing I know is he jumps on this little guy and starts slapping him around. Immediatley I run over and push the guy off of him. At his point ALL of his boys start to approach. I grabbed the little guy and started to back up. As we turn to walk away they start talking Trash and insulting me. Had this happened about six years ago, I would have gladly stepped to him and taken a loss. Since I'm 6'3 and 285lbs, not to many people talk trash to me. But I had to walk away. In today's society,especially Oakland, These guys might be packing a heater (gun for the ebonically challenged). They don't care about their lives but I do about mine. I have a wife and child to think about. As a result my pride is hurting because I feel I let myself be disrespected. What would you have done or how would you feel in my situation?

You did the right thing
 

Like you said, things are different now, cats don't just box anymore. Your pride shouldn't be hurt. It took more of a man to walk away than to stand there and fight... for what?

Well said, Ideal08. Let it slide, Dex. As a man, I can feel your pain, but pride gets you shot nowadays. Cautious people are the ones who see their own grey hair.

Glad you walked away
 

Dexter, if you hadn't of walked away you might not have been here to write this post. What you showed was true maturity and the real meaning of manhood!

By walking away makes you more of a man to me then staying there and possible getting shot. Plus you thought about your wife and child which makes you the bigger person. Good for you! :D

As stated, times are changing but more importantly so do we - - - especially when we turn 30. I'm trying to see myself in a fight at a public place at 30+. I'd make the front page in my hometown -lol. I'm almost afraid to have a drink in a local bar casue I always run into someone I don't want to see. But I feelya on confronting the young guys.

Re: Glad you walked away
 

Well said, soror!

Well spoken everyone! A wiser man asses a situation and knows when the fight is right or he pulls back to gain a better position later.

So now we have you here to continue to post!

Sphinxpoet

Lemme at em!!!
 

Yo Chuck, rumor is the bros. are planning a trip out that way soon. Just say the word and turn your head. The rest is Dom P!

On the real, you knew the answer to your own question when you posted this topic, that's why you did what you did!

It's a good thing that this incident occured in Cali, because I am just as sure as you are of what could have happened if you were still at home!

Dexter, you punked those people on a level they can't even comprehend....they are so unimportant, their comments didn't deserve a response.

maybe if they GROW UP, they will remember the lesson you taught them...

being a man growing up in chicago i find myself walking away from alot of situations that im faced with. sometimes i feel less of a man but then i look at it this way, im a black man who's about to graduate from college with a double major and has the potential to buy the lives of these punks :). these guys dont mean anything to me, personally i thought that gang banging and what not was played out. you have walked away from a situation but you where also able to walk home to your wife and kids

I feel all of you on ther maturity of walking away. But like Fato said, If I were single and Back in the DC metro area, I might have reacted in a different way. I'm an educated black man who has a bachelor's degree and about to achieve a masters. But yet and still I feel like my manhood was challenged. I know the brothas can feel me on that. When you know you've done the right thing but still feel violated.

Dexter, I feel what you are saying. I can join the chorus and tell you that you did the right thing. However, I can understand where you are coming from with feeling like your manhood has been challenged in some sort of way. I can't say that I know what that feels like for a man, but I can SYMPATHIZE because I KNOW how it feel to be a woman.

On a daily, women have to deal with that feeling. There are men out there that feel like they can step to you any kind of way. Some men feel like they can put their hands on your body just because. When we try to check and/or turn down their advances, we are verbally assaulted and called EVERYTHING but a child of God. Life is not like in movies where women straight up stand up to the disrespect and slap a man's face or kick him where the sun doesn't shine, etc. We have to suck it up and move on. Where I am from, men have NO PROBLEM shooting women or even physically attacking them.

I know what you might be feeling. You are wondering if you did the wrong thing. You try to think of if there was a better way to handle the situation. You wonder if you should have just gone ahead and whipped his a$$. You ask yourself, "what if he didn't have gun and I could have taken him in a fair fight?" So many scenerios must be playing in your mind. However, your BETTER judgment took over and told you to walk away. DO NOT regret that decision.

Some people like to look for confrontation. Why else would he just hop out and start a fight with the little one? A RESPECTABLE MAN would not have been phased by him talking to a GROUP of women. But he had to show his "manhood" for his friends and try to clown. He only did that because he was in a group. It could have been that they were just cruising to start trouble. I don't know of many people that are going to challenge a guy of your size unless they know that their boys have their back or they have some other form of assistance (in this case, a gun).

You are entitled to have some time sulk, but don't let it consume you. The devil would have LOVED to make a statistic of an educated and intelligent husband and father. But you shamed him! Hold your head up and KNOW that you are BETTER than that madness. If someone would have told that to those brothers, the situation would have never happened.

You know!
 

You did the right thing, bruh. Besides; you know how yo knuckles woulda felt the next day!:D

ICE! ICE!

The imporant thing is that you didn't disrespect yourself or your family and showed a respect for LIFE.