Cheaters
 

Do you agree or disagree with the following statement: Once a cheater, always a cheater??

I don't agree with that. I think we all go though differ phases in life. Sometimes it takes us along time to find someone that we want to settle down with. :D

I believe there is a such thing as a reform cheater. You can always teach a old dog new tricks. :D (no pun intended)

Can a person change? Yes, I do believe he can change.

Just because someone was a cheater at one time. Does not mean he will always be a cheater.


Now, there are different types of cheaters. I know there are more
The everyone-else was doing it cheater.
The Oo-I-thought we broke-up cheater.
You-knew-about-me cheater. (the worst)
Begging-and-pleading cheater.
You-weren't-around cheater.

It is humanly impossible to reform those cheater. Now, if you reform your cheating man.

You are definitely one strong sister.

since i've been a cheater
 

i definitely have to say that one can change. i think we are different people at different times and in different relationships. i was a cheater but i was a very immature freshman in college when i cheated. i dont want to sound like i'm making excuses so i wont go into details. but i can say that i know i will not make the stupid mistakes i made as a freshman with the man i am with, and hope to stay with, right now.

i'm a reformed cheater, so i don't believe that once a cheater, always a cheater. some people can change for the "better".

From my personal experiences I tend to agree with this statement for the most part it's true that once a cheat always a cheat. You may go through long periods of monogamy but one day something or someone will lead you back to your old ways. Than there more than one way to cheat and different things are considered cheating so although you may not be out sleeping with other people outside your relationship, few of us are ever 100% faithful mind, body and soul to our partners, spouses etc.

Can any of the cheaters out there explain how you can cheat but still proclaim your love for your partner? This is not meant to say that it's not possible - I'm just having a hard time wrapping my brain around it. Any insight would be GREATLY appreciated during this time in my life!

Honestly.....
 

I don't think that once a cheater always a cheater.
But I am a firm believer in:
If he hurts you once shame on him
If he hurts you again shame on you.
And personally I wouldn't give him another chance to hurt me.
To me once someone cheats on you, they have betrayed my trust, and when trust is an issue, everything else flies out of the window.

With God ALL things are possible... Even reformed cheaters!!:D

Re: Honestly.....
 

I agree with you completely! I think that the respect and trust that is need to have a relationship has been lost once someone has cheated. I think the best thing for both parties to do is to move on!

Although it hurts to be cheated on, I believe that if a guy or girl truly loves their significant other and is dedicated in reforming their relationship, a cheater can change... ONLY if they inted to show dedication and monogomy through love.

ONCE a cheater...ALWAYS a cheater. I am speaking in terms of the present relationship and not of the subsequent ones the reformed cheater might have.