ok girl in bar situation
 

So I got out with my Fraternity Brother for one drink at the local watering hole.

These girls are there that I have seen before and that work in a local hooters restaraunt (just threw that in there because there was a thread about it).

So they are with a bunch of guys and hanging out while I am drinking a beer with my Bro.

One of them sits next to me and we start talking . . . she's ready to go home, but her friends want to stay. We have a few drinks and start a wide ranging conversation. We play some songs . . her friends want to leave, but she stays anyway. My friend wants to leave, so I tell him goodbye.

We close the bar, its now 4:30AM, we're the last two left. I am being chivalrous so I walk her out to her car and begin to walk away.

She gives me a nice hug and asks for my phone number which she then proceeds to put in her cell phone. I get hers also.

Problem: this was a week ago and I have never called because I have the FLU and feel awful . . how can you call someone you barely know when you are sick?

Also, I didn't realize but I am having cell phone problems and my voice mail and phone have not been on all week. So I have no idea if she tried to call. Or worse she called before it went it down lol. :(

Now normally I would say the person was at least transiently interested . . . if someone else were telling me the story.:cool:

But looking at Trideltgal's thread, where from a guy's viewpoint she totally led him on (not that that is a bad thing).

Which makes me wonder if our situtations are the same.:eek:

And also given the sheer amount of time, I am reluctant to call and say, "hi I have been sick but wanted to call". Kind of random.

Also, I can't help thinking that after al this time what little interest that can be generated over a few drinks probably has faded.

I can't speak for women, but guys tend not crush long on a girl and time makes it fade rapidly. (depends on the guy).

So now I am stuck, I would like to call, but I'm still sick so bad company.

So i am thinking that my own insecurities and fears of rejection are going to prevent me from calling. :mad:

I would tell someone else: what do you have to lose? Just call and tell the truth, you can't change the past.

And if they kept protesting, I would respond: What is the harder thing to do? Call or not call? Usually the hard thing is the right thing.

And besides why not risk a five minute (possibly painful)phone call that might lead to an indefinitely long good time?

But hey its easy to take the high road with other people!lol:D

Did I mention that in addition to being traveled and a good conversationalist she was quite atractive even to my exacting standards?;)

Ok I invite comments, criticisms, questions, and advice.

I also wanted to illustrate another situation where a boy doesn't call but is not game playing.

James,

Take your own advice. It's generally pretty good.

Put on your best, "God, I would have called you, but I would have had to feel better to die," voice and call the woman.

The worst she can do is say, "who?"

James,
Call her or you really are a heartbreaker! My sister got a call a few days ago from a guy who hadn't called in months. His message said, "What is the statute of limitations on not calling?" Just call!

James, call her, we appreciate honesty. Just tell her you've been sick and wanted to wait til well to call so you could be in a good mood--but you're still sick and didn't want more time to go by.... then if she mentions she tried to call you and your phone was out, you can address that problem.

Call her. I offer the following excuses for help:

1) I was so sick I was knocking on Deaths door but the bouncer wouldnt let me in because I wasnt cool enough.

or

2)I bet you were about to start checking car trunks for my ass.

James..youve gotta call her...girls really appriciate honestly just let her know you were sick..it cant be that bad!!

Nichole

James,
Unlike my situation, it doesn't sound like she was forced to stay and hang out with you. I definitely think you should call her and tell her honestly why you waited so long and the predicaments that caused it. If she is a nice and mature person, she will understand and honestly, would you want to see someone who is nuerotic enough to get mad at you for not calling right when you got the number. In addition, like I said, a girl would not stay at a bar with a guy she was not interested in alone until late at night if she didn't like you. She had nothing to lose like me i.e. making my house look bad. Besides, if you call her and she is weird about it the chances are you will never have to see or talk to this girl again. So what do you have to lose; you never know what may come about if you do call her...

P.S. Did I really lead him on a lot? I was just trying to be nice and friendly to him. Maybe I did allow it to go to far but this guy. But honestly, he was so chill in the beginning and then on the bus he suddenly started getting "friendly" when everyone else started to hook up. Now, I feel really bad; his house is going to ostrasize my house and me. :(

James, I'm going to add to the resounding responses and say call! It sounds like you had a good time together and even if she's suprised to hear from you, I guarantee that she will be like "wow, a guy who calls and is honest." Better late than never.

Oh for Heaven's sake, James. Call the girl! (and if she happens to be a DZ, then DEFINITELY call her! ;) )

Just call her! We'd rather hear from you later than not at all.. especially since it's seems like she liked your conversation!

have to agree with that... just call and like they always say better late than never!!!

if you are well enough to get online and post things i think you are well enough to give this girl a phone call! if it has been a week there is a good chance this girl is sitting there wondering what is wrong with her because you havent called. drink some water - clear your throat - and call her. tell her you are sorry for not calling earlier but that you have had the flu all week and would love to get together after you get better. the longer you wait, the greater the chance is she has moved on to someone who did call.

hmmm....she may be thinking you gave her your old cell phone number or something...

i've heard that some people do that.

haha:D

ditto
 

Just call the girl. For all the reasons everyone else has posted.

And PS, I don't know how the other girls will react to this one, but my friends and I would prefer the guy to call the next day or day after, rather than the 3 day rule. It takes a real man to call the day after you meet just to say "I had a really great time talking to you last night..."
Keep that in mind gentlemen...:)

Tara

---to pratice day by day
love, honor, truth---

Call.