Re rushing as a sophomore
 

So I rushed my freshman year and was caught drinking in my dorm so I got dropped from recruitment because of the dry week rule. I want to re rush as a sophomore, but I am wondering if the actives know what happened to me and if I should I lie about it to not look bad? Any advice helps!!!! I'm really nervous.

They probably do know and I would never lie if asked. You don't have to share it though if not asked....

What should I say if the topic of me rushing again comes up?

Honestly, I would say "it didn't work out." Keep it simple. IF they do know you may be looked at as a potential risk management problem. If they bring it up, I would be honest, admit it was a stupid mistake, and tell them what you have learned from it.

one problem old people like me see in your generation is oversharing. You do not need to vomit out every negative thing about yourself.

If in the HIGHLY unlikely situation where they would address the situation directly (but only then) I would say you didn't take the rules seriously and got caught up in the moment. You moved passed it, maintained excellent grades, was involved with x y and z things and are now really looking forward to adding sorority membership into your life. And then move on!

One thing that you need to consider: are there sorority members on your dorm floor/in your dorm who know what happened? That alone is a strong reason NOT to lie.

I second the "oversharing" observation. Concentrate on having a strong spring semester, a summer full of positive events that you can talk about during recruitment, and I wish you the best of luck!

We all make stupid mistakes.

I agree with all of the great advice above. Don't lie about what happened if asked but don't volunteer this information. Focus on what activities you've been involved with. Highlight the positives that have been occurring, for example if you made Dean's list last semester be sure to point that out. If in the off chance they do ask admit you made a mistake and what you have learned from it as a result.

Best of luck!

OK, this is a total hijack, but I have a fairly overweight young friend (college sophomore) who is trying to lose weight. She just started some cleanse diet program so every day on Facebook she is posting a selfie wearing yoga pants and a sports bra, showing her fat rolls. She is posting a new pic each morning to track her progress. I can understand wanting the accountability that comes with sharing your weight loss goals, but this is gross and inappropriate. A few of her older FB friends kindly suggested that the pictures were a bad idea, and she flipped out at their "negativity," posting that she is an open book with nothing to hide. The oversharing can be pretty shocking.

I am going to suggest that outright lying should NEVER be the answer. You don't have to spew every little detail of your life. You DO have the right to keep some things private. Find a way to answer questions honestly, but without blabbing details of moments that you might not be so proud of.