twin guilt?
 

Hi I am new to a sorority, and we have been given twins! like bigs/littles, but girls in the same pledge class. I made a bunch of cute home made things, like a photo frame, a beautiful small pin box that i painted and wrote our letters on and wrote her name inside in script and put a beautiful glittery flower on tip, a plaque with our open motto on it that i painted and wrote in script on, painted her initial and decorated it and got a set of wooden and glittered letters for her to hang on her wall... the only thing is, when I gave her one of those things today she gave me something so much bigger in return! I worked really hard, and for a long time on these things but i still feel really guilty how much more expensive hers must have cost, and the fact that my first gift was so much smaller. I plan on writing out some letters to her and our songs, but i can help but still feel guilty for the size comparison.
These gifts were supposed to be from the heart, yet I feel bad about how much smaller everything is. I Know it is okay that my things are smaller, but has anyone else experienced this? I would like to get an opinion or what you think...

Being in a sorority is not about the swag or how much they cost. I truly prefer to have something very thoughtful or homemade over any thing some one can buy me. You gave her a gift from the heart and it sounds like your other gifts are lovely too. Enjoy it and your new sisters and stop worrying that you didn't spend enough money. Money can not buy friends, friendship or sisterhood.

Hi I am new to a sorority, and we have been given twins! like bigs/littles, but girls in the same pledge class. I am a complete klutz when it comes to art projects and would have been mortified to have to make something for my twin. So, I went and got a store bought item for our first gift exchange. ...

the only thing is, she gave me bunch of precious, cute home made things, like a photo frame, a beautiful small pin box that she took the time to paint herself. She wrote our letters on and wrote her name inside in script and put a beautiful glittery flower on tip, a plaque with our open motto on it that she painted and wrote in script on, painted my initial and decorated it and got a set of wooden and glittered letters for me to hang on my wall... She worked really hard, and for a long time on these things and I feel really guilty that I didn't spend any time at all on her gift and the fact that my first gift was so much more impersonal.

Relax. You did fine. Not all of us were born with the crafty gene and yes we do sometimes try to compensate by going larger on lame-o store bought things. Let her know how much the gift means to you and stop overthinking it. Your friendship and sisterhood is so much bigger that a few gifts.

Blondie, that was a wonderful way to show how the other twin might be feeling!!

krosiok, do not sweat the small stuff!! She will love the things that you have made for her :)

I LOVE receiving handmade items! I'm sure she loved what you made for her...she's a very lucky sister :)

I have two - exactly two - items I received (in the 70s) that I have kept. BOTH are handmade. Everything else has passed out of favor, worn out, or gone missing. Those handmade items are too precious to me. You did fine. Cost =/= importance.