is there even a chance..
 

decided to attempt and delete this, thanks yall for the advice.

No one here can tell you what your chances are.

okay thankyou, i guess i should have phrased it as how competative..instead of do i have a chance.

As far as grades, you will have to be judged on some level to be admitted to schools. The school should be able to tell you how your classes and reviews will translate into something resembling a GPA.

As far as the rest...no one can tell you what your chances are or how women are/were chosen. Yes, it is very competitive. It's like trying to get into Harvard instead of into SUNY Brockport. Whether that is something you want to/feel confident enough to pursue is something only you can answer. That goes for the college atmosphere in general, not just Greek life. I would ask your recently graduated classmates about the challenges they've faced if they've gone to a competitive school.

Choosing schools based off of how competitive their Greek life is, is like choosing a car based of the colors it comes in. Plus unless a school guarantees you a bid there is still a chance you might not get one regardless of how "easy" their recruitment is.

You should go to the school that is right for you in terms of ACADEMICS and WHAT YOU WANT TO MAJOR IN/DO WITH YOUR LIFE. Ideally, that school should also provide an overall living environment that you feel comfortable with.

Greek life is an extracurricular activity...it comes in at least fourth when I look at my little list here, and probably below that, actually. It is NOT what you are in college for and NOT why you should choose or not choose a college.

Again, your best bet is to talk to alumni of your HS and ask them how they've fared in college after such a relaxed HS environment.

Is Greek Life really the make or break decision in choosing a college? Why not chose a college (which has Greek Life) for academics, location, etc. then going through recruitment and affiliating with a chapter you enjoy and who wants you too? Unless you only want to join the organization you are a legacy to, no chapter is so terrible that your going to hate the rest of your life! At worst case scenario, you will be in a chapter that isn't the top ranked on campus and you will face what ever adversity that comes with that like trying to make quota, but as the saying goes "a calm sea does not make for a skilled sailor". That's the WORST that could happen. At best, you join the organization of your dreams and meet the friends who will be by your side forever! Are they competitive? Absolutely, but your life won't be ruined if you a few less houses to chose from. Go in with an open mind because the girls in the houses will see that and will be happy to welcome someone who want to be as passionate about their organization as they are.

Yeah, I know that. I really just would prefer not to be stuck in a situation where I will be miserable because I didn't get a bid at a greek dominated school. I choose those schools for reasons entirely unrelated to greek life, because like you said it is an extra curricular activity.

I do a lot of recommendation letters for girls going through recruitment, and have especially done so during the past three years. I have done them for out-of-state girls at every SEC school you mentioned.

Some had legacies, some did not. Most went into recruitment knowing zero, or only a few, sorority members. All received bids. So yes, out-of-state girls with no legacy can and do receive bids at competitive, southern schools!

All my out-of-state (and in-state) girls had a common thread, though, and it was not daddy's money.

1.) They all heeded the advice to "keep an open mind." They were willing to give all sororities a look, and keep the focus on finding the sisterhood that was most right for them -- not necessarily the biggest house or the one they "heard" was best -- but the one where they most fit in.

2.) They maximized their options. When it was time to sign pref cards, they did not say it had to be their first pick or nothing. If they were invited to three pref parties, they attended three pref parties and indicated they would accept a bid to any of the three. I have several rec girls who received and accepted bids to their number two choices and -- as far as I know -- would not change a thing!

3.) They had letters of recommendation to all the sororities at their schools. They are crucial, not optional, at the schools you are looking at. Do some searches around Greek Chat about "rec's" or "letters of rec" and you'll find information on what they are and how to get them.

Good luck!!!