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Originally Posted by DeltaZeta09
(Post 2041654)
I am considering dropping my sorority... here is the basic rundown of the pros and cons. and a bit why.
PROs:
- Alumni relations for life
- Greek life can be fun, especially all-greek events
- Leadership opportunities that I have taken advantage of
- I am close with some girls especially my big and a few girls from my PC
CONs
1- our chapter fines so much I can barely afford it
2- My adviser is horrible to me - she has mocked my intelligence, told my sisters to not vote for me when I ran for a position, and tried to get one of my friends to stop talking to me. I have one of the highest GPAs in the house though, and this same adviser will come to me for advice when dealing with recruitment/other events
3- There are some girls in our chapter that are so disrespectful and quirky that I am embarassed to be aligned with them. I will never judge a girl on looks, but these girls are not close to being women and barely represent our pillars for our sorority.
4- My grades are always close to suffering because it's so time consuming
5- We don't excel during recruitment - we always have to spend extra time recruiting and it takes time away from other activities
6- There are two girls dropping that I am so close to
7- I feel very stigmitized in the chapter; pnms literally tell me during recruitment they would not like to come back to our house/tell me they've heard we're weird. When I wear my letters, I try to do so with pride, but it is hard when many other girls on campus will literally sneer at me
8- The chapter I joined was my third to last choice. My Rho Gamma told me that if I didn't join, I probably would never get into a chapter via COBing because she thought all chapters may be at total. I didn't undersatnd anything about greek life, and actually every chapter had spots. The chapter I wanted to be in so badly told me the next day that they had accidently cut me on the third night and they were going to bid me had I waited 24 hours.
Idk what to do.
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Okay, I numbered your cons so that I can address them more easily.
1) Chapter FINES or DUES? If it's dues, then you can probably set up a payment plan with your treasurer. We could do that. But if you're being fined for something (non-attendance, grade issues, whatever), then that's your own fault.
2) Not everyone gets along with their advisor. I know a lot of people that thought their advisor was overbearing, making things "not fun", or just being "old" and whatnot. You can either choose to sit down with her and see what problems she has with you, or you can continue to think that she's against you for some random reason and be in the same position. Or talk to your President or someone else in leadership about it.
3) Do you have a standards board? If these girls are disrespecting what your sorority stands for, then there are ways to address this.
4) It sounds as if you're an all-or-nothing type of person. You can still be active and study at the same time. Participate in study hours in the house or in a cafeteria or somewhere else. There are hundreds of thousands of girls and guys that strike a balance every single year. Exercise good time management, because believe me, you will need that skill even more when you're out of college.
5) Please explain what you mean about taking time away from other activities.... Why do you suffer during recruitment? Apathy from other sisters, like you're projecting?
6) So what? I had a lot of friends outside of the greek system. There is nothing that says you can't be friends with non-greeks.
7) I find this kind of hard to believe. But in your previous points, it seems like you think that people have it out for you.
8) What's done is done, and that's all in the past. You can either think about what could've been and be miserable, or you can make it what you want. There are plenty of people that don't get into their first or second choices, but they make the best of it and a lot of the times make the sorority better by the time they left than when they joined.
But it seemed like you just joined because you only wanted letters across your chest. If you don't want to make an effort to change what you don't like about it, then quit, because otherwise you will be miserable and you will be bringing your sisters down with you.
