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sunflower84 08-16-2010 10:47 AM

Feeling a little uneasy
 
I am going into my sophomore year as a transfer, and spent my fall and spring at two different schools. So this will be my third. I am extremely nervous about how this will look in recruitment, as I know there "where did you transfer from" question will come up. I feel like I will look like some sort of a quitter though I had personal reasons that required me to transfer from my first school.

It would be really helpful if someone could offer some advice on how to broach this topic..

Will it likely affect my chances negatively?

AlphaFrog 08-16-2010 10:53 AM

Well.....why did you transfer thrice?

We cannot help you eloquently express a sitution of which we have no knowledge.

sunflower84 08-16-2010 11:08 AM

I wasn't very happy at my first University, so I transferred to one a little closer to home and it gave my time go through my options for the Fall. I wasn't really planning on staying at the second one, it was more of a detour and gave me a chance to focus on my grades and such

AlphaFrog 08-16-2010 11:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sunflower84 (Post 1969659)
I wasn't very happy at my first University, so I transferred to one a little closer to home and it gave my time go through my options for the Fall. I wasn't really planning on staying at the second one, it was more of a detour and gave me a chance to focus on my grades and such

I don't see any reason why this isn't a good answer. The rusher probably *shouldn't* ask, but be prepared to give some reasons why you didn't like your first university.

Alumiyum 08-16-2010 11:16 AM

You can say that, then, if it comes up.

ree-Xi 08-16-2010 11:21 AM

Just list the most previous place you transferred from. If asked why, tell them the truth - you were going to school closer to home until you figured certain stuff out.

ComradesTrue 08-16-2010 11:22 AM

You didn't mention how soon recruitment is at your new school or even if recs come into play there. However, if you are still working on securing any recs then I think that your transfer history/reasoning might be a good thing to include. When I read your first post I immediately thought "flighty, can't commit, may leave again." However, the reasons for the second transfer actually reflect some maturity and common sense thinking.

In other words, my opinion of you changed quite a bit from your first to your second post. If the chapters are going to know that this is your third school in three semesters (and likely they will due to transcripts, recs, etc) then I would do all that I could to make sure that people know this. Like it or not, opinions are made quickly and maybe not always on the fullest of information. You wouldn't want to be quickly discarded as "not gonna stick around" if that is not the case.

Best of luck to you.

ETA: didn't realize that you pledged at second school. That changes things a bit. You will really need to have good (sincere) answers for why you haven't stuck with things and your (sincere) plans to commit to any org that gives you a bid.

33girl 08-16-2010 12:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sunflower84 (Post 1969659)
I wasn't very happy at my first University, so I transferred to one a little closer to home and it gave my time go through my options for the Fall. I wasn't really planning on staying at the second one, it was more of a detour and gave me a chance to focus on my grades and such

But you started pledging at the second school, correct?

For this reason you really should NOT characterize it as a "detour" and someplace you weren't planning on staying from the get-go. As I said in the other thread, you don't have to volunteer that you started pledging and then dropped, but if it comes out that you KNEW you were only going to be there for a brief time and accepted a bid anyway, that might not go over well with some people. I took your posts in the other thread to mean that you initially planned to stay there, but circumstances changed and you couldn't stay due to financial issues.

You would be better off to say, as you did in the previous thread, that you left the second school due to unforseen financial problems.

AlphaFrog 08-16-2010 12:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 33girl (Post 1969730)
But you started pledging at the second school, correct?

For this reason you really should NOT characterize it as a "detour" and someplace you weren't planning on staying from the get-go. As I said in the other thread, you don't have to volunteer that you started pledging and then dropped, but if it comes out that you KNEW you were only going to be there for a brief time and accepted a bid anyway, that might not go over well with some people. I took your posts in the other thread to mean that you initially planned to stay there, but circumstances changed and you couldn't stay due to financial issues.

You would be better off to say, as you did in the previous thread, that you left the second school due to unforseen financial problems.

Giving her the benefit of the doubt, since she said she only pledged for a week, it is possible going in that she didn't realize the life-long commitment until after she accepted the bid, and that's part of the reason she quit, knowing that she was going to transfer.

ComradesTrue 08-16-2010 12:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 33girl (Post 1969730)
But you started pledging at the second school, correct?

For this reason you really should NOT characterize it as a "detour" and someplace you weren't planning on staying from the get-go. As I said in the other thread, you don't have to volunteer that you started pledging and then dropped, but if it comes out that you KNEW you were only going to be there for a brief time and accepted a bid anyway, that might not go over well with some people. I took your posts in the other thread to mean that you initially planned to stay there, but circumstances changed and you couldn't stay due to financial issues.

You would be better off to say, as you did in the previous thread, that you left the second school due to unforseen financial problems.

Yikes. That changes things for my post earlier in this thread. I will now go back and edit.

Thanks for the catch.

33girl 08-16-2010 01:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog (Post 1969736)
Giving her the benefit of the doubt, since she said she only pledged for a week, it is possible going in that she didn't realize the life-long commitment until after she accepted the bid, and that's part of the reason she quit, knowing that she was going to transfer.

That "only pledged for a week" thing is a new post I didn't see til now.

But still, even if it was a just-for-college commitment, if you know ahead of time you're at someplace as just a stopgap measure, there are people who wouldn't dig that.


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