BGLO second thoughts....
 

hey all, i was recently informed that i was an interest but after meeting some of the girls i discovered that this group may not be the right fit for me. it's nothing personal but i want to make the right choice. also too i think some other groups found out that i was an interest. what's a tact way to remove myself and does this ruin my chances for the other groups if i wish to get to know them. I can't explain it but I know it's not for me. all response would be much appreciated

It works the other way around.

We really don't know enough about your interactions and your campus to answer your question. Figure it out. Life happens.

thanks
 

life certainly does happen, thanks for the reply...at the moment i am figuring it out but i knew this post would be a shot in the dark.:o

How can you be informed that you are an interest? Did you submit an interest letter? Whether you did or not, just respectfully let the members know that you are no longer interested...or are not interested at this time. And as far as others knowing that you are/were an interest, there is nothing you can do about that now. You'll just have to wait and see how things play out but at least you are changing directions now and won't end up doing something that's not in your heart. No one needs that. If you really want to pursue another org or need more time before making a decision, make sure it's in your heart first (sounds like you need to take some more time and do the research; for some it's all about the members on their campus and for others, it's about the org as a whole and its legacy). It depends on your campus culture but on most campuses regarding the NPHC orgs, you are encouraged to research all but pursue one and only one; jumping from group to group is frowned upon. Good Luck!

To the OP:

The above is good advice but, as rhoyaltempest stated, you need to figure out how this advice applies to your situation. Don't take advice from anyone on here on in real life without thinking it over.

We don't know whether telling a sorority "I am no longer interested" will have any bearing on other prospects. People talk and there have been instances where seemingly wishwashy interests have gotten rejected by their future sorority interest. It really depends on the campus climate, how those chapters operate, and how you have been interacting with these people so far. You were vague in your description, so for all we know "interest" only means you've said "hello" to them in the cafeteria and they said "hello" back. When it's something that surface-level, you aren't that involved and they may figure out you're not an interest if you simply don't attend their events, etc. You may not need a formal statement. A formal statement may actually make you look strange if it seems random and uncalled for. It really depends.