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Originally Posted by stephsteph002 (Post 1804535)

A few weeks ago at a frat party, I met some sorority sisters and had a great time. I never would have seen myself in a sorority, but now I am seriously considering rushing next year. I thought about it a lot, and joining a sorority seems like it could prove to be a really great experience. However, I don't think I want to join the sorority I have been spending a lot of time with. I mean, they are nice people, but they kind of have a bad reputation as the "fat/ugly/slutty" sorority (I hate to sound judgmental! I really like all of them, but my friends yelled at me for even considering joining them haha) and I also don't necessarily feel like I would be a good fit there anyway. However, I also am afraid I wouldn't get a bid or actually be able to get along with girls in another sorority (I'm really shy and often feel like people are judging me.) I really want to rush, though. It is a problem, because I told the one sorority that I was probably going to try to join next year. Would it be terrible to join a different sorority after already saying I'd join theirs?

QFP

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I must address this first:

I find it ironic that you are shy and worry about people judging you, but you're making a judgement about a sorority based on hearsay and reputations and what people "say" they are. Especially when you say that they are nice girls. That just seems really rude and judgemental of you. There is nothing "haha" about that.

I would work on that, because if you go through recruitment with that type of rude, judgmental thing going on, you are likely not going to have a good end result. Seriously.

Also, why would you allow your friends to determine which sorority you should be interested in? That's not the smartest thing I've heard. This is something that you need to decide on your own.

As to your question:

If this particular sorority has not extended you a bid, then you are free to participate in formal recruitment ort attend events for other chapters.

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06 (Post 1804538)

I find it ironic that you are shy and worry about people judging you, but you're making a judgement about a sorority based on hearsay and reputations and what people "say" they are. Especially when you say that they are nice girls. That just seems really rude and judgemental of you. There is nothing "haha" about that.

This.

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Originally Posted by SydneyK (Post 1804536)

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