Big/Little help?
 

Normally I wouldn't be all floopy about this...but it's been kinda difficult.

It's been a really busy night. We have a new pledge class, who just chose their Big Sis's. Actives chose their Littles tonight.

Background: I have a little that I took in fall and I absolutely love her. I fell in love with her the moment I met her.

Now, for this class, I am financially unable to take a little...as in I have about $55 in my bank account...and that's dealing with school and such. Our New Member coordinator and Chapter President called me tonight late and asked me about my status and if it was possible if I could take a Little. There was a new girl who put me as her number one.

I called my little and asked her what she thought. I could tell her heart sank and I feel so horrible. But no one else would take this girl...I have no idea why. She's incredibly sweet and so funny. I don;t know if she quite fits in with our family, but she needs a mentor to pull her out of her shell and I think I can do that and my Big Sis can help too. She's kind of awkward but I think we will get along.

I feel like I'm betraying my first little by taking this other. I love my first little so very much. I don't want her to feel shunned like I did (my Big had a Little before me and I was a little jealous of her).

Any suggestions for this?

Is this a new thing for littles to be offended by their bigs taking a second little? In my chapter, it used to always be an honor if you were to have more than one little, and the littles couldn’t be happier to have “twins”. This year, though, the girls who already have littles are saying, “I don’t want my little to be offended if I take another one...” (and are refusing to take one because of this), and some of the littles want to be their big’s ONLY little.

I don’t know, but to me, this is kind of selfish. And kind of weird. I always love seeing my family tree grow, no matter how it happens. And if this one new member wants you as her big, and you’d be willing to do that for her, I don’t see what the problem is.

I think it's not that your big had a little before you, rather that she wasn't able to successfully juggle the 2 of you to make you both feel on equal footing. Learn from her mistake.

Is your little taking a little? If not, why can't she be the one to take this girl instead? That was basically what happened w/ my 2 little and I.

If your little is also taking a little, just try doing things together, all 4 of you.

Thanks for the advice. I guess I was just a little overwhelmed with the events from that night. 33girl, my first little is not taking a little. But I can see how it would help a bit. Yes, I'm hoping to learn from my experience so I can make both my littles have the greatest time in Pi Phi.