Seeing How It Goes...
 

I've been inspired to write by all the other posters, so I hope I don't bore you all to death. :eek:

Okay, I go to a school that's has a deferred recruitment system in which Winter is when formal recruitment occurs. Having lots of credits and a decent GPA I decided to try informal in the Fall.

I went out to the Fall Involvement Fair at the university and went by all 14 of the sorority tables to gain fliers/information. I had a very good idea of the house(s) that I would like to belong to, but I wanted to meet everyone I could first since it's a lifetime commitment. I have to say, this was a very mixed experience. Most of the tables were awesome and the girls were very friendly and handed me information just for walking past them. Others were very rude; in particular, a pair of Pi Phi's (no offense to any sisters on here, I'm sure you're lovely - but these girls... :mad:).

I walked up to the Pi Phi girl passing out fliers, made eye contact, smiled, held out my hand and asked if I could have one of the fliers. She starred at me like I was retarded for several seconds - as if I was deformed and my mere presence offended her, then she looked to the girl directly behind me, handed HER a flier and said "You should consider joining a sorority!" I slowly walked by the other girl at the table, who made brief eye contact then turned her head and refused to look at me again. I walked away and felt the tears filling up in my eyes - it's one thing to meet me and decide I'm not right for your organization, it's another to snub me from the first second. I have no idea what their problem was with me (especially since no one else seemed to have any issues), but, needless to say, I chose not attend the events they listed on the Panhellenic calendar.

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A few days later the campus held a Sorority 101 seminar to explain the Greek process. This session offered no tips, advice, or guidelines for informal recruitment and only offered up the details of formal. I left there completely confused, yet hopeful as the president of the Panhellenic swore that there was room for everyone in their sorority system.

The next week various informal events began. I was so jumbled up from the 101 seminar that I thought I was supposed to visit all the houses I could, then rank them. As such, I went to events for six different houses (one time each) instead of focusing on a few houses that I really liked. Out of the six houses though, I really did like everyone and I could have seen myself as a member at anyone of them. However, I was stretched out too thin to make any lasting impressions.

It wasn't until I later e-mailed my Rho Gam that I found out how confused I was about informal. Unfortunately, informal was essentially over by the time I was straightened out. I wasn't surprised to not get any bids. My Rho Gam pushed me hard core to sign up for formal, which I did not want to do. As I told her, even though I won't graduate until 2011, I have a 3rd year standing and I don't think I can compete on paper with 500 freshmen (because anyone looking at a list of everyone's stats is going to see me as "about to graduate" and not consider how much time I actually have left). However, she assured me that if I explained my graduation date to everyone then it wouldn't be a problem at all and no one would penelize me for it. So I did sign up for formal hoping that some of the girls would remember me when I came through again.

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Formal recruitment has officially begun, so I guess I'll update soon. Thanks for reading so far!

I tried to put this in the recruitment stories and somehow it ended up in this section. Is there a way to move this? Sorry

I'm interested!
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Park Royal 2 Condos Prathumnak

San-D,

As an older Pi Phi, your post made me want to cry. I was immediately reminded of a poem that I remembered from my Pi Phi days:

An "If" For Pi Phis

If you can love the Pi Phi arrow
and not forget that there are kites and keys
If you can show your love, yet not be narrow, remembering
that there are other things than these...

If Pi Phi love is always thus abiding,
Yet for the lonesome girl you have a smile
Why then I'll know that 'neath your arrow's
hiding a heart that holds all lovely things worthwhile.

-Hope Bedford, Indiana Gamma
--I had to go to a website to get the exact wording (it's been a while)
http://www.ringching.com/2008/07/way...y-pi-phis.html

May I wish you the best of luck and please let us know how your recruitment goes. Your post serves as a reminder that we always represent our GLO's, whether we have our letters on, or are wearing a jeweled pin, or just a smile. :)

I can't wait to see how recruitment went for you. Good luck! :)

Lots of luck San-D!

Ditto what she said. I am very embarrassed and wish you the best.

Good luck! Please tell us how everything turns out! :)

what a beautiful poem, pi phi sisters, and one that each of us could replace the arrow with our own symbol and strive to live by.

best wishes san-d, for a wonderful recruitment. please come back and let us know how everything went.

:Dlol...I tried, but the word quatrefoil just doesn't seem to fit well into flow the poem...

well, it doesn't have to rhyme-lol!!

Any news??

Where'd the OP go??