Sororoties Blacklisted Us.. No more events?
 

On my eboard I recently ran into a problem from our social chair. His first semester he was elected he did a rather poor job: he set up 3 raids, which is 2 less than our usual 5, and of those 3, 2 of the sororities flaked giving us obviously fake excuses: "We ran out of money" for the first one and the second one claimed they had a schedule mishap and planned an important initation event on that day and were unable to reschedule.

At first I blamed the social chair for not keeping good contact, not following up, etc. For our next semester we have a grand total of 1 confirmed raid and the social chair is claiming that sororities are not answering phone, ignoring email/voicemail or being plain honest: their sorority isn't interested in doing events with us. At first I thought these were excuses, so I attempted to take over for him and ran into the same thing. After trying to contact a social chair for a sorority multiple times and being ignored and rejected, I now believe what my social chair has said.

It's true, a lot of our guys are to blame for not being quite social or interesting, but we've never had it this bad in the past and I feel our consistency of guys is just as good.

As far as I know, our fraternity didn't actively or purposefully do anything to piss off other sororities. We row walk occasionally and most sorority girls are not hostile to us.

To fraternity men: Have you had this problem before? How did you fix it?

To sorority women: Have you ever blacklisted a chapter? How can you get a fraternity to do events with you?

I'll attempt to be helpful for once :P.

Okay, does your chapter support the shit out of sorority's philanthropy events? Like do you show up with 50%+ of your active members and actively participate in the things they do? (Like their pageants-if they do that kind of thing on your campus, banquets, fundraising events, etc.)

If not, then that's where you start. First, you have to develop good relations with them- which your chapter doesn't have.

So what you do is you actively support EVERY sorority (even the not-so-good-ones) in the activities they hold. And what I mean by "actively" is don't just show up..if it's something that allows for participation and competition, have brothers partake in it. Make your pledges go too.

Once you show that you actually care and you support them, they're more likely to do events with you. I suggest that before you ask them to do socials, perhaps team up with a sorority for a philanthropy event. They'll be more likely to do that. Maybe it'll be out of pity or guilt at first (like a "return the favor" kind of thing), but eventually you'll develop better PR and your problem will diminish.

There's also the other things you can do like chapter meeting visitations, serenades, etc. but that's more basic and superficial.

Hope that helps.

Some of the guys in my frat are not very social. That's not something I can really change but most of the guys interact with the ladies.
As far as I kno, aside from casual joking, no one has really said anything that disrespectful to a sorority girl.
I doubt it. We have had one raid and most of the guys showed up.. Attendance is pretty good.

I agree with PANTHERTEKE. Start there and that should help.

I've been wondering...are the brushoffs coming from all the sororities on campus or just the ones you've partied with in the past or want to party with. If it is not all the sororities, focus on those that you may not have originally wanted to party with...they may turn out to get along with your guys great!

Is this a more elaborate username for TIDEKICKER and FLASURFERTARD? I've never heard of a fraternity having this problem, as there are always some sororities who don't have too much going on and jump at any chance of events. I'm ignorant about what "raids" are though... Like panty raids from "Revenge of the Nerds"?

Haha, oh come on. I can't believe my post was deleted!

I didn't even say the name of the fraternity.

^^ I don't think you had to. :p

Collegiate women have so much more power than they usually realize! I think it's great to send a collective message to a fraternity when they don't act well.

That wasn't what you said in your earlier post about trying to save your failing chapter. I think you know the answer to your question. Just look at some of the things you said there.

^^ Didn't even notice that it was the same person that's already received advice concerning this very same thing. And I believe I wrote a novel responding to his other post.

A common lament across America.

good one
 

LOL

Like that one's not going to be deleted, too. :p