"I love you but I am not IN LOVE with you."
 

If you dated someone for a few months or years and you told them that you loved them and that was the response...what would you do?

Slap em.

A few months:
I'd appreciate him being honest and tell him so. I'd make sure that he understood me and I'd be okay with it because just because my feelings are so strong and I am able to express them easily doesn't mean that his are or that he can express those feelings or that he even knows that he has them. If the relationship is still cool then there's no problem for me and as long as he can deal with knowing how I feel without being all weird then there's no problem at all.

A few years:
I'd cry, be hurt and upset, explain my feelings, end the relationship, get together with my girls to talk/vent, use explicit language in expressing my anger, party, deal with my feelings, get over him and move on with my life.

ETA: Senusret I......LOL.

That's a lot nicer than my response, which would be to go Texas Chainsaw Massacre on him (and any men in the general vicinity).

you stoopid.

Break up because it is not going to the next level.

I was going to say curse them out (because that is some bull$%&#!!) , but I like this one better.:D

You lost me on that one. :confused:

Oh, I thought something like:

You: I'm in love with you
Her: I love you, but Im not in love with you
You: You're in lust not love



but you meant:
Her: Im in love with you
You: You're not in love you're in lust because its only been a few months.

I get it now. Not sure if I agree, but I get it.

That's stupid and arrogant. You can't tell someone else how they feel, just tell them how you feel.

Not mad @ you, IASK, just mad at stupid ass statements like that.

In the words of Bono....

"And I know it aches
And your heart it breaks
And you can only take so much
Walk on, walk on"

Thanks for not being mad at me. Im too lurvley for people to be mad at. lol.

I agree with you, that statement is stupid and arrogant in the worst way. If some man told me that I'd go off. I do understand being skeptical of whether someone is being real after only a few months, but I would not degrade someone's feelings by telling them "You're not in love you're in lust". Thats why I had to clarify PB's comment.