All I can say to that is bless their hearts.

I would have dropped out and started over again at another school never to be seen or heard from again had my mother done something like that. I might also have possibly considered changing my name.

I so agree LAblondeGPhi. Also, keep in mind that at a recruitment as large as Alabama's (once again record numbers), the number of legacies for each chapter more than meets quota, so there will be many disappointments. I have begun to cringe at the number of recent FaceBook posts recently seeking recs for PNMs. My daughter's chapter at Alabama stopped accepting them on 7/15. It's a bit late in the game now to be looking for recs for many larger SEC competitive recruitment schools who have an early fall recruitment.

It is exactly like college admissions, just at a much faster pace.

I think the adjective I would use instead of mutual is layered.

The first layer of decisions is made by the sorority, and the second layer of decisions is made by the PNM.

But as compared to college admissions, most students know they are not Harvard material, and don't go visit Harvard, fall in love with Harvard, apply to Harvard, and then get rejected from Harvard.

Point of fact - Harvard has an extensive admission process and lots of people take the tour but don't finish the application. Harvard also has a 5.9% admission rate so LOTS of people fall in love with Harvard and don't get in to Harvard or go to another school for a year and then try to get in to Harvard. Its a pretty good anaolgy.

Oh nonononono. Local high school graduation was today and several girls told my husband, a teacher, which sororities they plan to pledge this fall.:(

Oh dear. Recruitment is going to be a quite the eye opener for those young ladies.:(

Wishing for the HaHaHa "Like" icon from Facebook!!!

If you are told to get recs., get them. You might be all that and a bag of chips at your HS, but you will be a small fish in a big sea at your state university, and all those other fish are also all that and a bag of chips. Do everything you can to boost yourself up.

I chatted with a mom at a high school grad party yesterday who told me her daughter will be going through Auburn recruitment. The mom wasn't Greek and the daughter will be OOS. I've known the family through sports and church for years, so I asked her if her daughter needed a rec for my sorority. The mom shrugged and said "eh, I don't think she needs that because we've got recs for three or four houses already, so I think she'll be okay"!

oh my!

I hope you tried to talk some sense into her. Maybe she's not familiar with the process since she's not Greek.

Yes!
A few moms on our recruitment moms Facebook page come in thinking that.
They are quickly disabused of that notion!

Definitely going to work that into conversation this week. Like!

After all these years of teaching college, I continue to be shocked by all the superstars who are shocked when they get to college and--they're not the only superstars. What on earth do they expect if they're going to a competitive school? There will be zillions of valedictorians, Miss or Mr. Everythings, and state athletics winners!