Superficial Dealbreakers
 

We've had numerous threads on serious dealbreakers (who would date a drug addict?)...but I don't think we ever had any threads about more superficial dealbreakers.

I don't care if the person is 10 in looks, intelligence, and personality...if they SMACK while eating, it is over! I absolutely cannot stand when people smack on their food, there's no way I'll date someone who does it. I'd rather hear nails go down a chalkboard.

Would bad teeth be considered a superficial dealbreaker?

And there are some cultures that I do not feel comfortable dating someone of, nor do I feel sexually attracted to people from certain parts of the world.

I know this is really bad, but I've always said that I refuse to date any man's who's Filipino.

Not because I don't like his looks -- I'm just afraid I'm related to them.

Haha that's really funny but creepy!

No that's hella serious!!!

LOL. Good! I can have starang21 all to myself. :p

Cyberly, of course.

There are certain nationalities that I will not date (those who shall remain nameless), because they have a history for fooling around on their wives and girlfriends.

I hate it when someone does not know how to properly use a knife or fork to eat. It irks me. No need to hold it like a club!

Not squeezing the toothpaste from the bottom drives me crazy. If he's willing to use the toothpaste thing that flattens it as you go up or to not share toothpaste, that's fine.

I know it is really odd, but it bothers me.

I don't like to see food, so if they don't know to properly eat & talk then I don't wanna know them.

Jacked up feet/legs, cankles and anything fake....nails, hair, ect ect.....

ETA: and fast dressing, ignorant skank hoes too.

Basically, for me, the main foundation in a woman that's a must have 1st before the physical, are:

Christ: She puts God 1st in all things
Family: Her Family background needs to be similar to my own
Education: She's got to be educated.

If she has those three things then we can talk. Outside of that, I wouldn't give her the time of day.

I like KSUViolet's list style :)

* getting irrationally angry over stupid things
* being a one up-er
* having jacked up teeth
* dressing like a hillbilly
* dressing like a rapper
* dressing like Pete wentz
* don't like dogs
* wine snob
* driving a convertible
* driving a hummer

If he wears SKINNY JEANS! nooooo!!!! lol
(But I think that goes under "dressing like Pete Wentz").

If he dresses like it's 1987-also deal breaking.

I don't blame you on this one. You don't need the baby mama drama. You are too young for that crap

(In all fairness, I was over 30 when I got involved with someone who had a kid...I later married him)

But my deal breakers:
jacked up teeth
don't like animals
can't speak properly
bad table manners and basically no home training

Kids
Fugly
Bad hygene
Messed up teeth/toothless
Bald/going bald
Tatoos
Ear Ring(s)
Jobless
Not Motivated
Beards
Cocky assholes
Married, but says he's separated and getting a divorce.:rolleyes:
Wimpy/doormats
Overweight
Muscle Bound sweaty guys...yuck.
Spiked haircuts
Doesn't care about his appearance

If a woman is a bad kisser, it's a deal-breaker for me. She doesn't have to be amazing or anything, but being actively bad (which is clearly subjective) just mind-bends me and I can't get over it. This has actually come up twice recently with women who were otherwise pretty cool - I just can't get past it. Ladies, keep your f-ing teeth off mine.

There are others, but I'm tilted just talking about this one. I feel like such a dork, but it's not just an isolated thing at this point, it's a borderline pattern.

-Shaved head (unless you're Taye Diggs or Yul Brynner or a reasonable facsimile)

-Bloatee

-"I don't really have any favorite music, I like everything"


Some of the other things people mentioned (not liking animals, jobless etc) are anything but superficial IMO.

Thanks to urban dictionary, I LOLed. And filed it away in my memory bank, I'm sure I'll find use for it in the future.

"I seen" and other grammatical errors make me crazy. I just can't deal with it.

YES! This is a red flag to me. I have a hard time believing so many women out there are truly "bipolar" or "psycho." Um, maybe she was just tired of the crap you probably gave her?

I have several posts about this on my blog--but here is my list so far:

Poor grammar in online profiles, and in general
Must know something about my career field
Fake bull testicles hanging from the tow of your truck
Crude bumper stickers (like "Orgasm Donor" and "F**K the Haters" in large size across the back window of your truck)

And I think I may add anyone who wears an Hawiian shirt more than once a year (if you're not from Hawaii)

:) Fun thread!

I am inclined to believe this practice is regional (thank you, God).

Our things on trucks seem to be confined to the oh so witty Calvin peeing or Yosemite Sam "back off."

I am not even sure they are supposed to be bull or human, but it grosses me out. I mean, I don't drive around with fake breasts on my car, you don't need to pretend in an attempt to impress someone.

And I totally second the bad kissing. I am having a rash of that lately, and I can't live with it. I never knew there were so many out there.

*poor table manners
*poor grammar/spelling (when a guy spelled mention as "minchen" it was over)
*music snobs
*receding hairlines/balding
*excessive body hair
*bad teeth (poor hygiene and/or terribly crooked)
*meathead types who are totally tan and stereotypically "hot"
*dressing like a rapper, hillbilly, or some other form of ridiculous
*people with kid(s)
*being a one up-er
*don't like dogs
*insisting on driving with the windows down (sorry, it ruins my hair)
*slutty guys
*rabid fans of sports teams I despise
*super-religious
*ass-kissers (I had a bf in 9th grade who insisted on calling my father "Dr." after he learned he had a Ph.D. even though he never goes by "Dr.")
*can't dance or only knows how to grind
*drummers (maybe not a deal breaker, but I'm going to be wary)

Well, I know that there are a lot of psycho and bipolar men and women out there. LOL.

My issue is that a man who has THAT MANY crazy exes is crazy himself. After awhile, the problem is no longer with other people. The problem is with HIM and why his track record is at it is. Bipolar and psycho people are pretty evenly distributed so why does ONE person attract the psychos? LOL. So that's what I tell men who speak negatively of exes and/or have more than one "crazy" ex. The onus is on him to live a happy, drama-free life.

I hate when people say they don't like reading, and make it sound like it makes them better than the general population. Hating books isn't something to brag about!

If you feel it's appropriate to wear devil horns, and its NOT Halloween, that's a deal breaker.

For boy toys: good looks and cool cars (hey, it was the late '60's think GTO's, Chargers, Firebirds and V8 Mustangs, Camaro's etc.)
For long term/marriage/possible father of my children: Over 6' tall and high ACT/SAT scores. After over 10 years of dating, my priorities changed.
Also how they treat waiter/waitress. Some guys treat you like a godess then are rude at the restaurant staff so red flags automatically go up.

These are actually ones that I wouldn't necessarily mind dating. Though that may be because these characteristics (with the exception of the music snobbery and the partying all the time) describe a certain hot drummer I know. ;) :p

I love musicians. I love tattoos and some piercings. I wouldn't want a guy that goes out and gets shit-faced every single Thur-Sat, but I would be ok with a guy that goes out most weekends to have a couple beers with his guys. I can be a little bit of a music snob myself sometimes, so I wouldn't mind a guy that's a little bit of music snob, but I wouldn't want to date a HUGE music snob.




My dealbreaker list:
not college educated
doesn't have a decent job
doesn't have a car
still lives with his parents
super-religious
zero fashion sense
slovenly dressed
filthy, unkempt apartment
needy or clingy
tries too hard
doesn't like music or has bad taste in music
poor hygiene
bad kisser (luckily I haven't encountered any yet :D...**knocks on wood**)
overweight
really dorky (Trekkie, plays Dungeons & Dragons, etc.)
not open to trying new things (like cuisine or traveling or exploring the city)
won't go out to bars or clubs even occasionally
judgmental
rude to waiters/waitresses
doesn't want to meet, get to know, get along with my friends
tries to tell me what to do
dumb as a box of rocks
poor grammar
types like a 13-year old (i jst wan you to noe dat ima alwaiiz b heer fer u i dunno wat id du witout you)
waaaaaay too into his sports team, his car, working out or himself
spends more time getting ready than I do

My God, this post made me laugh SO hard. lol

Hey, does anyone know what that white stuff is in the corners of a persons mouth? When I was in undergrad I went out with this guy who was ok looking, really nothing to write home about for his looks. He could hold a good conversation though. I forgot to mention this as a deal breaker for me, but everytime he would talk to me, there was this really gross white saliva stuff on each corner of his mouth. When he would talk, it was weird. I dunno, it was almost as if it wouldn't break apart. It just kept moving with his mouth. Sometimes it would be on the front of his lips. We were eating, but I had to stop. I thought I was going to gag. What is that? Gross.

-cares too much about his appearance (seriously, get over it)
-tans (yeah skin cancer is hot:rolleyes:, and so is fake baking...dude, you're SCOTTISH! No one from Stranraer is naturally like that.)
-the meathead approach ("i'm so hot, you're so hot, look at us, we're hot. I love the clubssss omg!"...you know the type).

All of this makes me so happy I'm getting married and I have an "out" when I go out with my friends.

"sorry mate, engaged. Bugger off."

Give me nerdy (i'd even go dorky), slightly disheveled, and able to hold a conversation.

"You're Perfect"
"You're Perfect"
"So we're perfect together, born to be forever dancing through life."


(I KNOW I wasn't the only one who thought of that when I read that!)

*Comb-overs (I would much rather see shaved/bald or a receeding hairline)
*Men who drive Corvettes and think they "have arrived"
*Men who look in the mirror more than I.
*"We was"
*Any type of facial hair including The Bloatee (I love that word too)
*Bad teeth
*Long Hair
*Wearing strong cologne
*Always late
*Always choosing a chain restaurant
*Men who remind me, "I can't believe you never married or had kids"

I once had a guy tell me he wanted to take me dancing so that we could, "Cut a rug". I'm not sure if it was the expression or that he wanted to take me dancing turned me off. I only dance under two circumstances: I'm out with my friends and I've had a few too many.

hahahaha, you just described my ex to a tee. What's wrong with drummers?

This is a great thread...
 

It's been awhile, let's see:
Turn-Offs
-Thinner than me! Come one, I need a guy who can pick me up if I twist my ankle--not need me to pick HIM up!
-Uneducated (by choice more than circumstance) and/or not smart
-Lazy
-NOT passive aggressive
-Disrespectful
-Bad teeth
-Freakishly pale (somewhere between haven't seen the sun in a month and Michael Jackson/vampires)
-Wears makeup and/or women's clothing
-Treats his car better than me!
What did I end up with:
-Smart and cultured
-Tall, but "athletic"
-Works a little too much (it's ok, I'm a workaholic, too)
-Treats dogs, cats, the elderly, and kids well

My friend and I were hanging out with her brother and some of his friends, and I was reminded of another dealbreaker.

guys that pee outside in a non-camping situation (e.g. drunk guy going behind a row of cars and peeing right there in the parking lot)

lol

Amen!!! And worse is when they think the chain restaurant is the height of sophistication!

Ahhhh...same here! I would like to add spiky bangs, goatee (especially the chin patch), and chuck taylors to that look. I also go for any type of visual artist and those who write poety, I guess I have soft spot for the artistic period.

I wouldn't date anyone who doesn't like to go out. What else is there to do on nights 10pm-2am? We don't have to do it all the time, but I would like to let loose once or twice a week. As for drinking, not only mild-moderate intoxication is fun, you can learn a LOT about a person after they had a few. A drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts, or however that saying goes.

Umm...toothpaste?

Good call! If someone takes me to Applebee's (worst of the chains, IMO) as a date, I'll probably dump them. I don't think we'll have anything in common.