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I am new here :) I just wanted to stop in and say hello to my fellow PNAIMs. Hopefully we can all find our homes at the end of this wonderful journey!

Just an FYI...

It is best to be as discreet as possible in your AI pursuit. If you are looking at a particular group or groups it is best to keep that information private.

:)

Thank you for the advice! :)

Yes... and take the GLO name off any and all posts.

Quoted and bolded for emphasis. This includes posting in the forum of the GLO in which you are interested.

Why is it that AI is this big secretive process? Girls going through rush are not told to hide the fact that they are pursuing sororities, why should women who are attempting AI be told to hide the groups they are interested in?

This post isn't meant to be rude or cocky, it's a genuine question!

Take some time to educate yourself before asking questions. There are tons and tons of posts on here about AI.

FYI, many people (and many sororities) believe that AI is an honor to be bestowed, not something that a woman should pursue.

Completely agree. If you want information about AI and a specific GLO, you need to go to their official website and you will more than likely be able to find the information you seek.

From what I have gathered through research, there are quite a few sororities that are very welcoming and accepting of women that pursue them. Not to say that they initiate every woman that contacts them regarding AI, but I feel like they are more accepting of it than a lot of people on this site. Who knows, I could be wrong, but that's how I feel about it.

Because AI is NOT the same thing as collegiate recruitment.

For most sororities AI is reserved for women who members believe hold the ideals of their sisterhood, women who are not members and contribute time and resources to the sorority/sorority's cause (for example, there is a thread here about a woman who advised a local college chapter and was not a member, or mothers of members who contribute,etc), are outstanding community leaders, etc.

In other words, it is something a group does to honor a specific person.

Many women (feel free to read the threads here) did not rush... or rush and got cut... or whatever... and 30 years later, they are trying to fulfill this college dream of theirs to be in a sorority and use AI as a backdoor to join one. For many sororities it is simply not appropriate for random people to contact them to see if they have AI, and how does it work, and how can I join, etc.

We must have posted at the same time.

1. refer to my post above yours

2. Not every woman that belongs to a sorority that accepts AI agrees with it.

3. You are bordering (and I do emphasize bordering) on being rude when you make the statement I bolded above in your post. Just sayin...

I can understand why people would get upset over that. However, my personal reasons for seeking out AI has to do with philanthropy and being able to serve in some way (as an advisor, alum chapter officer, etc.)

I know that many women probably have ulterior motives, but I do not! :)

Sorry if I opened a can of worms, I was just curious!

You obviously haven't researched very much then.

But if you know everything about AI, why are you here??? :confused: Funny, there's a lot of national/international officers of various sororities that are active on here that have voiced the same opinions.

(I'm seeing an invitation to HPRL (aka sorority shopping central) in 3...2....1....)

Well, I didn't say it in a rude manner, which is why talking online sometimes stinks!

Never said I know everything about AI. I simply came here to enjoy the journey with fellow PNAIMs.

OK, you are free to participate in ABC's or whoever's philanthropy if you want to. You don't need to AI just to do that. You like philanthropy? Join the Junior League.

There are also many non-NPC sororities for women of all ages that are centered around philanthropy.

Sororities perform community service, but not being in one doesn't keep you from volunteering your time for various philanthropies, including those that have been adopted by the various sororities. Wanting to perform philanthropic work isn't a reason to join a sorority. You can do it just fine without GLO membership

Obvioiusly the other benefits of joining a sorority, such as sisterhood, are part of my reason. My college did not have a Greek system, so I was unable to rush in college even though I would have really liked to.

see my post above regarding the Junior League and the non-NPC philanthropic sororities

Well, I can see that this is going to turn into nothing more than a fiasco, so I am calling it quits.

If you are also a PNAIM and would like someone to go through this with, feel free to PM me! :) I think it would be great to have other people to talk to about the process.

Gotta love all of the generic "reasons I want to AI"
- I like their philanthropy
- I want sisterhood
- I missed out on it in college

If someone actually had a unique, personal reason and/or a personal connection, there's a lot less kickback. When it's just generic, meaningless reasons, yeah, it's not really looked highly upon.

As has been mentioned, please read the Forum information at the top of the folder, plus the Forum TOS and read back through the MANY MANY posts on this topic.

Regardless, play nice ya'll. I know we haven't had any drama around here lately and that's just fine my lil' ol' me. ;-)

It's better to be on the down low because if someone sees that you are pursuing their GLO for AI, and they think your reasons for wanting it are stupid, they might see to it that you have no chance in hell for becoming a member through AI. AFAIK, every NPC does AI (they vary in how rare it is), but in most cases, the org approaches the woman instead of vice versa. I personally don't have a problem with people asking my sorority's HQ about AI, because I know that my sorority's HQ will choose the right women for AI.

ITA^^,violetpretty.

I do feel this can be a sensitive topic, but we have to have respect for everyone here and that includes someone coming to ask questions. I just feel delivery on certain responses can be a bit harsh. There are people that come to AI for the wrong reasons, but on the flip side there are some people that are amazing. There is so much involved regarding an individual's quest for AI and I feel in the end it does work out the way it should. I always try and treat people the way I would like to be treated or I manage to remain silent.

You might have had a warmer welcome here if it weren't obvious to many people that you're "shopping."

Stop looking for drama. You've obviously read enough to figure out the PNAM acronym, which means you read enough to realize your posts would cause drama. And it's pretty generic drama at that. If you're going to start drama, at least make it entertaining.

"Eloquence is the ability to say so much with so little."

LadyLonghorn = at 35 posts, truly eloquent.

(And yes, I realize the irony of the 15,000+ poster saying this.)

actually, I think I have seen a GHOST in this thread.

Oh how I love you.

Well, it HAS been dull here in the AI forum ... :rolleyes:

Assuming you're not just trying to stir things up, you should check out this thread. It contains a lot of information and many suggestions of organizations that might better meet your needs and goals.