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.... 03-23-2008 11:02 PM
NHPC sororities. How did you choose which to pleadge for?
 
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nittanyalum 03-23-2008 11:24 PM
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Originally Posted by deltabug (Post 1622566)
MODERATOR!!!
Why would a troll scream for a mod?

.... (interesting screen name), scroll down to the links at the bottom of this page, read the stickies at the top of each of the NPHC forums and talk to members you know IRL. Posting on a public forum is not the way to get the information you're asking about.

tld221 03-23-2008 11:31 PM
Please use the search function and read the sticky threads at the top of each NPHC forum. As you will find, membership-related questions will not be answered. To get an understanding on why particular GC members chose their organization, again, use the search function.

sigh, can someone make ME a mod?

AKA_Monet 03-23-2008 11:38 PM
I can only state something trite and flippant--but I will try very hard to refrain and live and let live. Maybe I can ignore it and it will go away!

AKA_Monet 03-23-2008 11:39 PM
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Originally Posted by tld221 (Post 1622580)
Please use the search function and read the sticky threads at the top of each NPHC forum. As you will find, membership-related questions will not be answered. To get an understanding on why particular GC members chose their organization, again, use the search function.

sigh, can someone make ME a mod?
You need a supermod to handle this ;)

I would not want her searching anything in our forum. Because you can see she will NEVER understand it--it still will go over her head.

LatinaAlumna 03-24-2008 12:03 AM
If you're having a hard time choosing which organization to pursue, you're not ready.

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 12:04 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622595)
And actually, I understand everything that I have read so far, I am not looking for anyone to point me in the right direction. I would like to have the ability to point myself in the right direction and just need a little assistance by example in seeing how others handled the situation. I don't want to know anything about membership intake, pledging, meaning of letters, or anything of that sort.... which seems to be the root of questions that will NEVER be answered and I understand why.
The title of this thread says "pleadge"--obviously that is Membership Intake in NPHC language. The NPHC Sororities do not discuss membership intake on GC. There are reasons why we do not/cannot/will not.

Now there are MYRIADS of "how did you choose which one" threads on GC. Search is your friend. Do one. When you post such questions, I feel it is laziness and uncaring about what my Sorority is all about.

When you post such questions after we have clearly stated what we will do, I feel it is beyond ignorance it is being trite, uncouth and belittling to me, my Sorors, my Sorority sisters and my fellow GLO's.

I am sorry, but based on your continuance of this course of action, please, I beg you, do not choose my Sorority, you will not enjoy it and do not have to constitution for it. Maybe you fit in some other group--just not a sorority.

icelandelf 03-24-2008 12:06 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622587)
again, i did not ask any membership related questions, I figured that it would be more efficient and would be easier for people in the future if it could all be found in one thread. By having different input as to how and/or why (if they are allowed to disclose that information) GC members of different sorority chose their organization, I believe it would drive more people to knowing how to go about finding an org. that they will be happy in.
I'm confused. I thought that's what the search function was for.:confused:

epchick 03-24-2008 12:07 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622587)
again, i did not ask any membership related questions, I figured that it would be more efficient and would be easier for people in the future if it could all be found in one thread. By having different input as to how and/or why (if they are allowed to disclose that information) GC members of different sorority chose their organization, I believe it would drive more people to knowing how to go about finding an org. that they will be happy in.
Yeah, you're NOT going to get an answer, no matter how many times you try and ask.

LatinaAlumna 03-24-2008 12:14 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622616)
I have not found anything that has captured my heart.
Then you are not ready.

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 12:15 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622616)
It isn't the fact that I'm not ready, I have not found anything that has captured my heart. Some of the sororities do not have chapters on my campus, and the sororities on campus haven't had informational events. Out of all of the NHPC soroities the programs that have been put on include cookie and a condom, a bake sale, a soul food social, and a walk in the park (I have attended all). I have become friends with people from all of the NHPC sororities, but I want to explore my options more than reading the national websites, which I have already read. [b]I resorted to this because I thought that I would be able to get some type of guidance/response since I am not asking questions about MIP or aspects of the sorority.[b]
But you are asking questions about membership when you are unclear about which one you want to join. Going to 1-2 events per year will not assist you in membership while you are in college. Getting a good GPA will and doing well in your major will assist you in membership.

That tidbit of information is freely available. Even BET did a better job than with those small statements. But is it upto you to determine which one best fits your ideals. That is what freedom is all about... Be an adult.

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 12:15 AM
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Originally Posted by LatinaAlumna (Post 1622618)
Then you are not ready.
That is what I am saying...

icelandelf 03-24-2008 12:25 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622622)
wow how did you choose to pledge is in no way asking what did you do during pledging. Choosing to pledge is a totally different act. It is something that you do before pledging. Again, I will state that I am not lazy, I just found this website I did not know that so many would have a problem with my post. Also, I have read some of the "How do you choose" and they have been for NPC which has a totally different process as I stated before. And maybe this is showing that I should definantly not pledge for your sorority because it seems that you are not open-minded because you are not taking the time to see my position. Also, I felt that this would be beneficial to others in the future in the same situation as me, which is the reason I prefer a post to a search. I'm not being lazy, I am simply helping others while helping myself. And I am also now fine with not receiving an answer because I know understand that my question crossed the limits in the minds of some. I don't think it did but if anyone does have any input on how they chose, feel free to post.
You're awfully bloody stubborn as well as rude. AKA_Monet and LatinaAlumna have answered you ad nauseum. You choose not to listen, your business, but I'm calling shenanigans on you.:(

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 12:28 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622622)
wow how did you choose to pledge is in no way asking what did you do during pledging. Choosing to pledge is a totally different act. It is something that you do before pledging. Again, I will state that I am not lazy, I just found this website I did not know that so many would have a problem with my post. Also, I have read some of the "How do you choose" and they have been for NPC which has a totally different process as I stated before. And maybe this is showing that I should definantly not pledge for your sorority because it seems that you are not open-minded because you are not taking the time to see my position. Also, I felt that this would be beneficial to others in the future in the same situation as me, which is the reason I prefer a post to a search. I'm not being lazy, I am simply helping others while helping myself. And I am also now fine with not receiving an answer because I know understand that my question crossed the limits in the minds of some. I don't think it did but if anyone does have any input on how they chose, feel free to post.
Pledging has been outlawed since the 1990's. The NPHC sororities and their affiliates now considered hazing per the statues adopted by convention. When we now hear the word pledge, we think Membership Intake Process. Process being a keyword, because it is a journey towards membership.

We are never beg for membership...

Tell me, what school do you go to and what is your GPA?

.... 03-24-2008 12:31 AM
First off, I am considering everything that they are saying because they have already been through this process. It just seems like I have to be very defensive and careful in everything that I say

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 12:31 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622625)
This has nothing to do with being an adult. Obviously if I had found a sorority, I would not be asking for advice on a fourum. I am doing just fine in college along with the other organizations I am apart of. I have personal reasons for which I want to be in a sorority and I feel very strongly about finding one that fits me. Again, I was just asking for example and stories from others that made their decision already. I just have one example... when you chose the college of your choice you consulted as many sources as possible before making your decision right? Well that is all I am trying to do right now.
The quote function is your friend, too!

Maybe there isn't a sorority that fits you. Maybe you need to start you own.

What you are trying to do has been done before and searching GC, you can find your answers you seek.

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 12:34 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622630)
First off, I am considering everything that they are saying because they have already been through this process. It just seems like I have to be very defensive and careful in everything that I say
Or be wise and not say anything, read, learn, search... And when you have anything of substance to discuss, it will be uttered with wisdom and have astuteness to have question worthy of all our efforts.

tld221 03-24-2008 12:37 AM
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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1622608)
The title of this thread says "pleadge"--obviously that is Membership Intake in NPHC language. The NPHC Sororities do not discuss membership intake on GC. There are reasons why we do not/cannot/will not.

Now there are MYRIADS of "how did you choose which one" threads on GC. Search is your friend. Do one. When you post such questions, I feel it is laziness and uncaring about what my Sorority is all about.

When you post such questions after we have clearly stated what we will do, I feel it is beyond ignorance it is being trite, uncouth and belittling to me, my Sorors, my Sorority sisters and my fellow GLO's.

I am sorry, but based on your continuance of this course of action, please, I beg you, do not choose my Sorority, you will not enjoy it and do not have to constitution for it. Maybe you fit in some other group--just not a sorority.
WOW! what she said! The fact that you chose "...." as your username... how am i to take this all so seriously? youre pretty much asking us to do your choosing for you. If testimonials from people on the internet you DONT EVEN KNOW are enough to sway you into choosing one Sorority over another, then please add my Sorority to that list of "do not choose."

Quote:
Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622622)
wow how did you choose to pledge is in no way asking what did you do during pledging. Choosing to pledge is a totally different act. It is something that you do before pledging. Again, I will state that I am not lazy, I just found this website I did not know that so many would have a problem with my post. Also, I have read some of the "How do you choose" and they have been for NPC which has a totally different process as I stated before. And maybe this is showing that I should definantly not pledge for your sorority because it seems that you are not open-minded because you are not taking the time to see my position. Also, I felt that this would be beneficial to others in the future in the same situation as me, which is the reason I prefer a post to a search. I'm not being lazy, I am simply helping others while helping myself. And I am also now fine with not receiving an answer because I know understand that my question crossed the limits in the minds of some. I don't think it did but if anyone does have any input on how they chose, feel free to post.
1. Though NPC and NPHC are apples to oranges many of times, reasons for why we all choose our respective organizations tend to overlap.
2. You really think you are the first or last person in "this position?"
3. Yes, you are being lazy. You approached this forum seeking answers and didnt bother to see if they already existed. As mentioned many a times, search is your friend. This scenario has been addressed. Search and you will find. Plus you've shown that not only is search not your friend, but neither is spell check.
4. Why do you claim to know so much about greek life yet havent found XYZ in your heart?

tld221 03-24-2008 12:42 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622636)
Well, there are some NHPC sororities that are not on my campus, such as the AKA's, and the Zeta's are nowhere to be found even though there is a chapter. I still want to explore my other options in the NHPC before moving on to my next option which would be creating my own sorority. The only problem I find with that is though I have not found the right sorority yet, it is because I have not been able to obtain enough information even after the national websites. I do feel very strongly about being in a NHPC sorority and I have found things about some of the sororities that have made me want to find out more about them and more about how others chose their organization before they were affiliated with the sorority and in my position.
1. NPHC. N-P-H-C.
2. Who says that "creating your own sorority" is an option?
3. In the age of technology, if you dont have "enough info" from just websites alone, maybe websites alone wont give you what you are looking for. DUH.
4. If you really feel strongly about pursuing an NPHC sorority, please PLEASE do better. You have yet to impress anyone.

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 12:50 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622636)
Well, there are some NHPC sororities that are not on my campus, such as the AKA's, and the Zeta's are nowhere to be found even though there is a chapter. I still want to explore my other options in the NHPC before moving on to my next option which would be creating my own sorority. The only problem I find with that is though I have not found the right sorority yet, it is because I have not been able to obtain enough information even after the national websites. I do feel very strongly about being in a NHPC sorority and I have found things about some of the sororities that have made me want to find out more about them and more about how others chose their organization before they were affiliated with the sorority and in my position.
WTH are you saying? That Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. and Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority, Inc. is not good enough for you, while skipping in their informationals and community service activities?

That's foul. How come you want to join any of us then? Please don't because we probably would not want you representing us in public.

Forming your own sorority would be great. Hayle, there are some streakers around here that would love to have you join. DIK or what was the other one?

The sad part is once this person sees the magnitude of the International organizations in action at their public conferences, she'll be bandwagoning on one of coattails... Sycophancy perhaps?

tld221 03-24-2008 01:00 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622648)
Sorry for using the wrong acronym I am typing fast because I know you don't have to be nice to me but you also don't have to be so rude. I am only trying to get information. I have exhausted my resources on campus so I was trying to turn to another source but obviouly this is working out either because the only responses I am receiving are hostile
We're not being rude or hostile. We're asking you, as someone who claims to be interested in becoming a member of an NPHC sorority, to simply do better. If your approach to us on the internet looks like this, I fear your face-to-face interactions with greek members of your campus. Unless you dont really interact with them, which i find a problem. Or perhaps a blessing, as it looks.

You haven't exhausted your resources. You have two chapters on your campus (well, three, but you say you havent "seen any members"), endless amounts of knowledge on the internet, and a wealth of resources here on GC - if you use us correctly, which you are slowly losing.

How do you think we feel, when a greek hopeful like yourself comes here with less-than-desirable grammar, spelling, and have similar "this is what is happening on my campus and omg i dont know what to do help!" scenarios? It gets exhausting and frustrating. You're taking the lazy road here. No one is going to map this road out for you. We actually couldn't be any nicer.

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 01:02 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622645)
First off no one can "sway" my decision. I WILL REPEAT THIS I WANTED TO KNOW HOW OTHER CHOSE WHICH SORORITY THEY WANTED TO BE IN.... I wanted to know about their journey before MIP how they came to the conclusion, I can care less which sorority they ended up joining, that isn't what I'm aiming for and I am not aiming for anyone to recruit me into their sorority. I chose "...." to be discreet. At first, I had no intention of posting. I read many threads ranging from the "warnings about MIP posts" to "starting your own sorority" before even deciding to post.
I have talked to many NPC sorors and first off I feel they have shown less dedication. I will not name any sororities, but one of them you basically pay to get into and then begin going to socials. There was no true work behind that. Even though I know pledging stopped, there is still much to be done during MIP and I feel that that will bond me to my sisters in a way that no other event would.
I don't feel that I am the first or only person to be in this position. I will also not be the last, that is why I felt a post would be more efficient because it would help people in "my position"
I am not trying to be rude or arrogant. I only know a small amount of infomation about greek org. that is why I am trying to obtain more information. If I had the infomation I needed, I would not be typing right now. And I don't care if my spelling is not completely correct here. The most important thing to me here is trying to show you my side of the story because it seems that many have forgotten that they were in "my position" before.
I have made no claims that I know "so much" about greek life or I would not be on this site. But, I am tired of being badgered for expressing my opinion. I have tried not to be rude to anyone, but I have been on the defensive since the second time I posted.
The NPC sororities do not call their sisters, "sorors"... You do not use the word "soror" unless you are a member of a sorority that does. I am NOT your sister! That is a style error I detest. Ignorance is no excuse...

Then are you saying that NPC sororities lack dedication to their organization? Who are you to accuse them of that? What have you done for their derby days, galas and philanthropies, etc.?

You bond by your actions. If you are out there in public standing up for what you think is right, then other organizations will seek your acceptance. But, as for NPHC sororities, that is NOT what we have to do. We do not have the need to do that. Why should I convince you to join us?

And the position you are in does not merit you asking any questions such as these because of your insolence. And you will continually be badgered whenever you post such silliness as you have before.

LatinaAlumna 03-24-2008 01:03 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622645)
I WILL REPEAT THIS I WANTED TO KNOW HOW OTHER CHOSE WHICH SORORITY THEY WANTED TO BE IN....
It's called doing research, getting to know members, participating in open events, etc. and deciding what is right for you. How do you not get that? Oh, wait--I know how. You didn't bother searching CG long enough. I've seen MANY threads on how ladies chose to pursue their organizations (NPC, NPHC, NALFO, etc.). You wanted everyone to just "tell you." Again, you are not ready to join any sorority.


Quote:
I have talked to many NPC sorors and first off I feel they have shown less dedication. I will not name any sororities, but one of them you basically pay to get into and then begin going to socials. There was no true work behind that.
And how would you know how much work is behind membership in the NPC? Do you really think the members you spoke to were going to just divulge their information to you? I think the way you have spoken of our NPC members is unfair here.

nittanyalum 03-24-2008 01:04 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622636)
my next option which would be creating my own sorority.
LOLOLOLOLOLOL.

Good option.

tld221 03-24-2008 01:07 AM
So, that's 4 different members in 3 different councils telling you the SAME THING.

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 01:11 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622655)
Actually as I stated before I have been to ALL of their programs this year. I have also attended GREEK MYTHS 101 and MEET THE GREAKS. There was also a program put on this semester NPHC that I attended that was like these two from last semester. I do know about their community service programs and was actually drawn to one more than the other because of the types of community service they do. I am so tired of the hostility. I was only metioning the sororities that I have completely no information, other that their website, on. I know more information about SGR and DST so that is the reason I did not mention them.
You came in here with hostility. I find your comments hostile because you failed to do all the research you can do to find out at least about my Sorority who has a meritorious year this year. That means you are lazy and what us to spoon feed you. If you are lazy now, what kind of member will you be if you are extended an invitation to join?

And oh, so you failing to mention Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. and Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority, Inc. because you think you have enough information about them to decide that you want alternatives to those two fine sororities will be enough?

Ugly... Your demeanor is enough for me to know I would not vote for you, if I was on your campus. Fortunate for you, I am not. Thank God!

DSTCHAOS 03-24-2008 01:12 AM
If you're really curious and not just another GC entertainer, do a search function and you'll find every answer under the sun.

LatinaAlumna 03-24-2008 01:14 AM
Wow, "..." the more you post, the more I see that you don't know much about sororities at all!

You say that legacies don't have to go through the same decision-making process you do? I've never heard (or read on GC) of a legacy who didn't explore all her options in depth before making a decision like this. In fact, there are lots of ladies on GC who did not pursue membership in the organization that they are a legacy to.

You are making a lot of assumptions about sororities and sorority members. I think you need to continue searching for knowledge on these topics. There is no way you could have possibly exhausted all avenues of information. Shoot, I have been a member of my sorority for 12 years, and I STILL learn new, wonderful things about it each year!

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 01:18 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622671)
As I said before I have already exhausted my resources on campus i.e. social/educational/"informational" events, talking to both fraternities and sororities to see what they have to say about the greek life, and I have approached memebers one-on-one and members have approached me one-on-one. I am trying to use this as another resource. This website is not giving me any information either. I have already looked endlessly through the internet and I thought finally finding this website would be of some help talking to people that I didn't know and that didn't know me about their journey before MIP. I AM NOT ASKING ANYONE TO MAP OUT ANYTHING. By someone else telling me their story, I get a better idea of what others are doing. Many people I know are legacys and they don't share the same seletion process as me because they are pretty much set already. And as I said before, we do not see eye to eye on my post. I felt like I would be helping others in the future by specifically asking about NHPC rather that NPC, but you feel that I am being lazy and that is fine. I am not trying to be helpless I was asking for others journeys. Not for anyone to spoon feed me and tell me which soroity I should join.
So the members of the NPHC organizations on your campus are not good enough resources?

Puhleeze!!!

And what do you know about legacies and you having it set? Set for what?

Did you speak to professors and adults who represent sororities and fraternities you are quite familiar about?

Stop posting, read, learn and interpret!!! How many times do we have say this to you?

nittanyalum 03-24-2008 01:18 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622679)
NHPC ... NHPC
AGAIN. Twice!

Out of curiosity, do you know what those letters (well, in their correct order) stand for?

Velocity_14 03-24-2008 01:20 AM
*walks in thread*...........:eek:..........*walks out of thread*

tld221 03-24-2008 01:21 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622687)
non-panhellenic councils
Im done. Really. Someone shut this isht down ASAP.

and ...., please dont come near Sigma Gamma Rho. She says thanks, but no thanks.

but before it does... DITY? (i thought i would give it a shot)

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 01:22 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS (Post 1622677)
If you're really curious and not just another GC entertainer, do a search function and you'll find every answer under the sun.
She/he's an entertainer... And s/he is saying that the members of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. on his/her campus are not a good enough resource for him/her... In fact, s/he is saying s/he knows all about your sorority and has enough information...

Since I told him/her to not look at mine, I am hoping s/he never shows up to one of our events... ;)

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 01:23 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622687)
non-panhellenic councils
EEERRRRKKK wrong answer!

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 01:24 AM
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Originally Posted by Velocity_14 (Post 1622688)
*walks in thread*...........:eek:..........*walks out of thread*
LOL!!! ;)

LatinaAlumna 03-24-2008 01:25 AM
NON PAN-HELLENIC COUNCILS?

Oh my gosh! Couldn't you even GOOGLE to get the right answer for that, ...?

nittanyalum 03-24-2008 01:25 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622687)
non-panhellenic councils
:eek:

Oh, for the love of god.

Please, seriously, PLEASE tell me this is a joke. You haven't done jack squat research if that's a real answer.

AKA_Monet 03-24-2008 01:25 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622692)
well then talk to the NPHC because when you ask that at an infomational event that is what you are told... point blank
You lucky I wasn't DP, because you wouldn't be invited to my informational...

They did you favor, you outta be grateful!

LatinaAlumna 03-24-2008 01:27 AM
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Originally Posted by .... (Post 1622696)
not one respose has been about my question
I gave you a response.

I said "it's called research, getting to know members, attending open events, etc."? Do you not remember that? That was my ANSWER. That is how I chose my sorority.

I'm out. I can't take any more of this tomfoolery.

Velocity_14 03-24-2008 01:28 AM
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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet (Post 1622691)
She/he's an entertainer... And s/he is saying that the members of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. on his/her campus are not a good enough resource for him/her... In fact, s/he is saying s/he knows all about your sorority and has enough information...
*walks back in room*....is that right???.......................................... ................................................

I had to catch myself because I was about to say something reeeeeal crazy but why argue with a troll about my organization....just forget it...*walks to kitchen to fix myself some fruitloops*


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