BET Gives D9 Interests "Advice"
 

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Posted March 3, 2008 - Are you considering joining a sorority at your school? Here is a list of important do's and don'ts.

Do’s:

Make sure you're seen involved on campus. You definitely want to appear confident and nonchalant, but don't overdo it. The ladies may think you're trying to be all that, and you could end up being black-balled. Keep in mind that while you may be fierce, you're being watched. And the ladies are looking at you to see if you have what it takes to represent.


If you're hoping that your name will be added to the list of chapter members of whatever sorority you choose, do yourself a favor and make sure you're at all of the sorority's events, and be punctual. The ladies need to know your face and believe that you are serious about the organization.


Be discreet and privately let one or two of the sisters in the sorority know that you're interested. When you tell those two, you can rest assured that the rest of the sorority will get the word.


Be fierce in anything and everything that you wear, including your hair, and make sure you have a GPA to match. If your GPA is not at least a 3.0, wait until you can get it there. While the rules may say that you only need a 2.5, if you come to them with that, they may not consider you grade-A quality for their sorority. <---How much can I stress this?


Don'ts:
Stay away from sporting your favorite sorority’s colors. Don't show up at the sorority's rush or events wearing the sorority's colors. It’s considered disrespectful.


OK. So you may love the frats – the parties, step shows and dances they put on. But if you know like I know, you’d better not appear to be a groupie. The last thing you want is for the sorority to look at you like the "easy girl."


Stay sober.


Don't go around telling all your little girlfriends what sorority you want to be a part of. They just may be the ones to set you up for failure.


For God's sake, don't act pressed to be a part of a sorority, or you'll catch the heat for that later.


Stay away from groups that refer to themselves as sisterhoods and wear paraphernalia, like fraternity sweethearts. Don't be caught in those organizations, or you can forget about being a part of a sorority.
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I LOVE IT!

Interesting, that post received a decidedly different reaction on AKA Ave., unless that is sarcasm.

there's a thread on this already on AKA Ave. but its kinda out of place to me... if its for Women's History Month, im just a little thrown off that this is their first order of business.

Didn't see it.

My initial reaction is in favor because I see A LOT of young women come to the table unprepared and in general, unknowledgeable about the way things work. If this helps educate the interests in a positive way, then I'm for it.

I felt the same way. The advice wasn't bad.

Per the other thread, I do agree that BET should have gotten permission to use our crests/shields but other than that, it's free advertisement for us.

I guess what I find problematic is the slant of the rules that they give. It is all about appearance and nothing about substance. As a part of a celebration of women's history, it offers no examination of what the BGL sororities have meant to both the women's rights movement and the civil rights movement. To me, it is a problematic, two-dimensional representation.

see, you were expecting more from BET and that's your fatal flaw.

No, I didn't expect more; it seems par for the course for BET. :)

The list wasn't as bad as I thought it might be before reading it but I just hate when writers just put their opinions out there without talking to members, especially when they are using the names of the organizations. I don't understand the whole "Stay Sober" thing under the Don'ts. We are not known for being lushes. And also, I think they missed a great opportunity to highlight what our organizations are really all about for Women's History month.

Yeah, that "stay sober" rule had me :confused: too.

I got that one, and I'll admit that it was dead-on. If you want to look good to the ladies, then be a lady. Don't make yourself known on the campus as lush. If that becomes your identity, you will not have a flattering reputation, and you may not become Greek.

Don't forget that one night of drunkeness can lead to one unforgetful night where bad decision-making takes over. Por ejemplo, just one too many drinks might give you that liquid courage where you curse out the one member of XYZ that you can't stand, but she might stand in the way of you becoming an XYZ after that...

My inner writer has my mind just working. :p

I do think our leadership should get involved though. People have to learn (especially in the media) that you just can't go posting shields and trademarks without the consent of those organizations. Also, what if the list turned out to be a whole lot worse than it is? There are a lot of young people out there that have no clue and will take what has been written there to heart.

Drunkness is a bad look with all of those potential consequences; but stereotypically, drinking is less associated with BGLOs. At least, I never remember hearing a lot about it while I was in undergrad.

^^^ You know, I heard a lot more about drinking among students at HBCUs the older I got (I used to supervise collegiate AmeriCorps members). And didn't they drink a lot on College Hill?

But drinking as a stereotype among BGLO members? Nah, never.

Yeah, while I was in college, I knew a few people who would drink on a regular basis, but they were in the minority. Maybe I just didn't hear about it; or maybe it's the new thing.

I don't think the advice was inherently bad. It's intent, I'm guessing, is to demystify the whole pledging/intake process. And I really like that having a GPA higher than a 2.5 was stressed.

But I do agree that for a Women's History Month observance, more could and should have been done regarding the programs and outreach services that our organizations sponsor and so forth. Somehow the "service" part got lost in the shuffle. I know I'm interested in well rounded women who can balance their studies with service projects and social activities. But, it's BET and it could be a whole lot worse.

And this is why I don't like BET.

Why is THAT important? Why can't you just be clean, neat and presentable at all times? Okay, and make sure you pop a mint or two. LOL! Just half-joking. That's why SOME GLO's period nowadays have members that only have looks, and no substance with fluff for brains. Just being being cute and walking around doing a call and disregarding the mission can be the cause of the fall of a chapter (among other reasons). I'm just saying. When I was in school, a few organizations came off like that. Not everything they said is bad but things like that scare away some really qualified, substantial hopefuls that could be assets to the organization. Everybody ain't fortunate enough to by "fly" or "fierce" LOL! But sadly some organizations buy into that crap and that's what they base their selection on. Slowly but surely those things will become what the chapter, then ultimately, the organization as a whole is only known for, thus creating stereotypes. People gotta stop putting so much emphasis on crap that's not important and playing into them and focus on the true vision of their founders. For the prospects, read the history of the organization of your interest if you don't know what the vision and purpose is, and quietly seems sometimes that even members need to be reminded as well.

Why can't you just be clean, neat and presentable at all times?

Why can't members look like this forget interest? Even though it shouldn't be all that we as org stand for presenting yourself in a neat and professional manners speak a lot about a person and what they represent. We shouldn't be consumed with this cause our youth as enough problems as is. But still important.

Hygiene can be a key correlation to behavior and we should take pride in our outward and inward appearance. We should always strive to attract not repeal others to us.



Serioussigma22:cool:

This is a good thread. I don't know how I missed this one. But this statement right here is what I can't stand. Sweethearts too. Especially the ones that say, "We're not those kind of sweethearts". To me a sweetheart is a sweetheart. When I was in undergrad, I stayed the hell away from them. I stay away from former sweethearts too.

ETA: I don't like those sorority offset, helper jokers either. We had a dude who was in one of these organizations who kept coming to our interest meetings. He got cut every year. Dumb joker.

You know, back in the day, there was honor in being a sweetheart but those days are LONG gone. :( I used to want to be a sweetheart years ago but when I saw and heard about the stuff going on, I killed that idea.

You're right. I agree. One of my undergrad instructors, who pledged at DZ in 1955 said the Nupes used to sing Kappa sweetheart songs in front of the dorms. He said they would open their windows and watch them sing. Some married Kappa sweethearts when they graduated. Back then, like you said, they were respectable women.

By the time I pledged, they had already turned into skank hoes, with the exception of maybe 2 or 3, but the rest were skanks. I couldn't stand them. Before I was picked to pledge, I told myself that if I'm selected, I'm going to do whatever I can to get rid of those girls, because I knew they were fraternity groupies who liked sleeping with the brothers. I succeeded.:) I put some things together, got a few brothers to back me, and out those skank snakes went.;)

Whenever we would road trip to other chapters who kept and loved their Kappa sweethearts, those girls would always go out of their way to try to hug Nupes. My thing was "don't come over here huggin' up on me. Go on somewhere." A handshake was just fine.

I wish I could convince a few people who are fascinated with these groups to not become victims. I feel a problem brewing in my city with an aux org trying to set up shop on the DL and I know if it's not stopped now we will definately have a mess on our hands.

UDC got Kappa Sweethearts.

When I was promoting APO there about a year ago, some of the Greeks had informally congregated in the breezeway and we were chatting. (Can I just add how in love I am with UDC Greeks?)

So we were just chatting and a girl walked by and one of the sorors said "She's a K Sweet."

And I said "HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA STOP PLAYIN!"

ALL the Greeks sorta bowed their heads and said "Naw....she really is."

I said "oh."

lol....

I'm sure they meant it in the opposite effect. It's BET.:D