Facebook Advice
 

Here is some good advice about facebook and guidelines you should follow is you are going through rush in the Fall. I know you are getting ready to graduate and there will be parties but don't let people who are now in a soroity see these things about you:)

Things that you should not have on your facebook profiles/walls/names::mad:
No inappropriate words or phrases on your facebook wall/names/picture descriptions, including but not limited to:
Slut, whore, ass, wasted, drunk, trashed, , shit, damn, bitch, etc. (or any other words that could be used to denote these words…biatch, fing, etc

:eek:No Private parts exposed No inappropriate gestures, No bras or thongs showing

Kissing::(
No kissing girls on: lips, boobs, butts Boys – No inappropriate touching or grabbing


No ALCOHOL on you :confused: Don't be holding:
Party cups (red solo cups), beer cans/bottles, champagne, liquor, wine glasses, margarita glasses, martini glasses, etc.

If you look drunk or people around you do, even if you aren’t, detag or delete the picture Hope this helps you. People and furture employeer do look at these.

Holy BB tags, Batman!

ummmm how about you just make your profile unviewable to people who are not your friends?

What site did you copy and paste that from?

My advice is don't ever put anything out there you wouldn't want your parents, grandparents, pastor/minister/priest/clergyperson, future employer, future spouse or future kids to see.

Copy and pasted several different sites from school sites

My thought exactly but in looking at friends daughters site who are graduating now, these types of picutes some to be cool to post and slang is cool to say.

Sorry about all the fonts they showed up with the first I thought I had removed them on Word but I guess not
Most of this stuff came from HS PTSA

can we sticky this to the top of the forum instead of having 50M threads about this?

i agree that you should just make your facebook/myspace profile private and if you get a friend request from somebody you don't know *during rush week* then don't accept it. duh.

I think it's good advice for anyone's facebook that isn't set to private--rushees, pledges, actives...and even GDIs. :)

I'd even be careful with my profile set to "private" as well. Sometimes you can't trust your "friends" to leave what's on facebook--on facebook. Plus, it looks pretty hypocritical to be president or standards or something but have a facebook full of the "slut, ho, biatch" kind of stuff. What kind of a message does that send your friends or anyone else who looks up to you?

On the other hand, people should try to remember that Facebook isn't reality.

Be smart and don't make yourself look bad, but also remember that some PNMs aren't as wise as you are. They may just think it's funny to be a member of goofy groups.

I have my facebook completely hidden so that if you search for me, my name won't even come up. I recommend that PNMs do that. Also, I agree that this applies to everyone, not just PNMs- every time I see a profile of a girl where the interests are "tequila shots and smoking weed" a part of me dies on the inside. Especially when that girl has ASA all over her profile.

Seriously, if people would just read the thread that is already stickied, labeled "General Advice"...

I would advise everyone having their facebook and myspace private except for friends. Its just safer that way in this crazy stalker world.

lol i forgot all about that ... you make a great point .... the advice threads keep coming up all over the place and i agree the general advice is a great thread.. i haven't read it since i got an account on GC but definitely this fall i'm going to re read it.

I just want to give a perspective (which I believe we discussed before) from the collegians that I advised: they definitely thought it was odd or suspicious if you
a. did not have a facebook account (i.e., you didn't come up in searches)
b. had a private account (what were you trying to hide?)

I would be interested to hear from other chapter advisors if this was the case at their chapters also. I would suggest for anyone going through Recruitment at Cal that you follow the advice at the top of the thread regarding "maintaining" your page rather than make it private, deactivated etc.

At my alma mater, most chapters require their members to have a friends only profile and the Rho Gammas advise PNMs to set their profiles to friends only. It's not necessarily that you're trying to hide your drunken fun times, it is also a safety issue, (i.e. to prevent someone from stalking you).

I agree... my facebook & myspace accounts have always been friends only. I'm not trying to hide anything, I just consider it a safety issue. It can be easy to extrapilate (sp?) personal info from random profile info/blogs/etc.

I don't really see why that is "suspect". I'm not trying to hide anything, I just don't want any stalkers :)

I see what you all are saying about your opinions and safety, but I am giving you the view of the 18-22 year-olds that I worked with. Just to be clear, the members at Cal must make their accounts private during recruitment.

I just want to put this out their to PNMs and I'm only speaking from one campus, so I would be interested to hear from the collegians (or their advisors, parents, etc) of other campuses too.

I can remember hearing that back from when I was a teenager - the advice is still timely.

On the other hand, couldn't a PNM make facebook into a proactive tool during rush? I'm in a fraternity but my sorority friends often mention "facebook stalking" PNMs during rush. I could see it being a beneficial thing if a PNM did the following:
1. Blocked anybody from seeing her tagged pictures
2. Had a pretty and natural picture of herself for her default picture
3. Deleted her wall
4. Filled her interests with conversation starters...ie, travel, volleyball, etc so the actives could get a better sense of what she was like and match her up with sisters who are into the same things
5. Joined "classy" groups relating to her favorite activities, major, etc.
6. Deleted things like "political views"

I could see a PNM doing this strategically...if she knows that somebody in the chapter will be stalking her, why not make put the ball in her court by giving them the things they want to see?

I brought this up in NLH's rush thread, but I figured it might be a good idea to bring it up again.

When Rho Gammas advise PNMs to use caution with Facebook and MySpace, why should it be limited to those sites? They should add GreekChat and CollegeConfidential to the list as well, IMO.

Rush threads are okay, but it's definitely not worth risking your chances of a bid.

As a recent PNM who sucessfully went through rush (Gamma Phi Beta!!!), a few words of advice on facebook.
1. Don't be afraid to untag.
2. Make it private!
3. If you already have facebook friends who are in sororities, put them in your limited profile, so they can't see your wall, photo albums...whatever you are worried about.
4. Also, don't write "I don't read" under books. I mean, you're in college...the point is to be intellegent.

there has already been a lengthy discussion about facebook on greekchat. doing a search will locate it.

To me, it seems alot of this stuff is common sense. If a PNM actually needs advice on what NOT to put on a public/private/non-existant profile then I think a certain someone should think twice about rush. If you're in college you should know better than to allow yourself to be viewed in anytype of negative way, espcially if you, yourself are posting the evidence.
And if you just so happen to be tagged at that kegg party last thursday, you can always politely untagg, but if you choose to make that picture your profile pick... Reap what you sow.
I am beginning to think that some of these advice threads are becoming more like step by step manuals for PNM rather than 'general advice'

". . . don't let people who are now in a sorority see these things about you?" Call me Machiavellian, but I say let her post away on Facebook!!

If this is the language and behavior that a girl is comfortable with, I would prefer that I know it before I write her a glowing rec, and certainly before my house pledges her. Maybe it's just me, but there is something about illegal and immoral behavior that bothers me. I know both underage drinking and behavior that used to qualify as "qm" years ago are common, but I still don't have to like it, condone it, recommend it, or help a PNM hide it.

PNMs have been hiding it for years. They're just a little stupider about having to do it nowadays. If you have never bid a girl who turned out to be the opposite of what she appared from her glowing recs from mom's garden club friends and rush, then I say exalt, because your bullshit detector is better than 99.9999999% of the sorority women on here.

No, believe me, that's NOT what I'm saying. I just don't want to aid and abet the process.

Oh, I get that.

It just cracks me up that students actually have to be TOLD to hide things like that and that it's not second nature.

A PNM shouldn't have to hide her political views on her facebook profile. The actives know not to talk about politics and can steer around the topic if the PNM brings it up, so why would it matter if her profile said "Very Liberal" or "Very Conservative" or anything in between?

I agree with that. If someone doesn't want some one in their sisterhood because of their political beliefs, that's just plain sad, anyway. I would hope that by now we've moved beyond that, but one never knows...

Honestly, I'd be kinda leery of any political sceince major who has no views. Not leery enough to make a difference in anything, but still...it's your major and you have no opinion? LOL.

Granted, you probably don't want to join any groups that deal with legalization of various controlled substances. Even if that's truly something you believe in, those ones (depending on your campus culture--I'm speaking for the really, really conservative set of colleges here, so take it as that) can sometimes give off the wrong message, IMHO.

I can't get over deleting political views. Seriously? Even at the big SEC schools, all the sororities seem to brag that their members are active in CReps and CDems. I think founders of most of our groups wanted women to be politically active.

I was president of College Dems when I went through rush and you would have had to be a moron on my campus to not realize that (it was a highly visible position) so to not have my political affiliation would have just seemed odd to me.

It seems like common sense not to put pictures of yourself doing anything illegal on the internet. If you're too dumb to know better than that...you deserve what's coming to you.

But speaking for myself, I'm not going to consider dropping a PNM because she has the word "whore" on her profile...it's how people talk.

A PNM with 5409565786589384594380 pictures tagged of her doing shots with side-boob showing and a boy in her lap in everyone...I'm all for having fun, but some people make partying a job, not a hobby. Blech.

My daughter did not take down her political view. She said I am not stupid and I have an opion even though it my not be the majority but it is hoe I feel. I did have her take down the picture of her in a hot tub with red cups. Even though there was just coke in the cups. I told her that her grandmother would probably think different. She said oh yea. Then later admitted they were trying to look cool and it went somewhere but not her profile pic.

I'm having trouble actually beliveing that your a Theta's mother.

Bumping for the Fall 2008/Spring 2009 PNMs. :)

A pet peeve of mine is people who think they're all that and every other picture is of them flipping off the camera...come on...grow up!