Fraternity.
 

I'm pledging for a fraternity right now. but i don't like most of my 8 pledge bros, and they hate me and make fun of me behind my back. should i depledge? i really want to cross though..

Why? You've already asked whether you could stop going to events and paying dues after you're initiated. You don't want to be active, you don't want to have to pay dues, and apparently you don't like guys who are going to be your brothers (and from what you say, they don't like you). So why do you want to become a member of thsi fraternity?

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That sucks.Your pledge bros are who you should be closest to. How do the active bros get a long with you? Cuz if you like them a lot, then it might be worth it, but if your not having a good time then probably just drop.

no. i want to pay dues and be active now

it's only been the first two weeks. do you think we'll get closer?

How do you expect anyone to answer this? We don't know you or your pledge brothers.

Oh, how true!

There will be no answers for this poster!

Why the hell do so many people come on here upset that they aren't BFFs with their fraternity/sorority/pledge class after knowing them for a matter of weeks? This isn't the Surreal Life, they don't stick you in a house together for a week w/ nothing to do except talk to each other.

Yeah - I pledged/initiated last semester and I'm really only really close with 2 girls. I have fun with the rest of my sisters but only when we're in a big group. I've never really had a one-on-one conversation with any of them really. But now I can actually match up their names with their faces.

I'm sure you'll get closer to them as time passes and whatnot.

I think you need to stop coming on here and asking for advice that no one can give to you. We don't know you and we don't know your pledge brothers. How can we tell you something when we know nothing about it.

Not to be an ass, but seriously dude...this is one of those situations where you need to figure it out for yourself...

If you're new to university as a whole, perhaps you should build some non-Greek friends to supplement your Greek ties. That way, if it doesn't work out, you haven't lost everything.

Other than that, I didn't like some of my fellow pledges. Some were pot smoking hippies who never worked a day in their life and others were too poor to have any fun. Being a non-smoking, light drinking dandy of sorts, I didn't fit in at first, but I've had loads of fun over the years.

Tom

Truth be told, three of my LB's (line brothers) were, and still are personality deficient, however, I soldiered on, and became a brother carrying the same attitude I had when first was introduced to my Fraternity. Dig yourself, and remember why you wanted to join in the first place.

In life, you'll come across hundreds of people you'll have to interface with in order to reach a common goal. You may love 'em or you may want to bash their heads in when you look at them. However, they still are parts of the whole and you have to work together in order to get the desired outcome. You guys can make it through as a group, and then drift apart after you cross and make new friends within your organization. All in all, the effort you give in putting your best foot forward will make manifest in the end of your journey.

Good luck to you.

You're screwed... if your own pledge class doesn't like you then you're gonna probably get dropped anyway.

You speak from experience?

LMAO

FOR REAL :) What the hell kind of advice is that?

Aren't you seeking membership so that you can serve the community, develop your leadership skills, etc.? Don't you know that an organization is bigger than just the chapter you are trying to join?

Also, have you considered WHY they are making fun of you? Take some responsibility in the situation.

one of the most important things is to be friends with your pledge bros. mainly because you will know them for the next 4 years if not more. if you really dont like them, dont pledge the fraternity.

This bears repeating.


There are several people in my organization that I don't particularly like, but I didn't pledge my class/chapter; I pledged Omega Delta Phi.

Your advice would make sense if a person was only allowed to interact with people of his/her pledge class, but that's not how it works.

When most people become members of an organization, they branch out and get to know the rest of the chapter (not to mention members from other chapters). Some of my closest sisters are from pledge classes or chapters other than my own.

im not saying that a pledge would only be allowed to talk to his or her pledge class, what iam saying, is that you can become friends with a senior but when he or she leaves you wont be seeing them as much. but with pledges(most of whom are your age, especially if your a freshman) you will have to interact with them for a long time.

^Based on the fact that the OP used the term "cross," he is not likely pursuing a NIC/IFC fraternity, and I think that is what some people are not seeing in this thread. The OP should be pursuing membership for much, much more than friendship.

Co-sign. And even if it is an NIC/IFC fraternity, he should still be pursuing the organization for more.

Why would you join a fraternity if nobody likes you? Are you a freshman? Consider making your own fraternity, even if for just shits and giggles. I've witnessed people do it and often times their parties, values and quality of men is much better than any national organization with Greek letters.

Well, at least your priorities are in order :rolleyes: