Completly honest recruitment thread
 

I have been a long time lurker on this site. Mainly just to read the recruitment stories, and i just came up with the idea of creating a username and posting my own, from last year.

When i read these stories, i really like the honest ones. I hate when girls are like... "I like this house, but not for me" "I dont fit in here" but never give specifics on ANYTHING. I am not planning on being rude or anything like... Im to pretty for this chapter, or anything Paris Hilton-y like that. But i am planning on being honest about the things i liked and didnt like about each house.

I go to a not-so competive school with 5 NPC chapters and deferred spring recruitment.

I took really good notes on recruitment, so if you wanna hear an honest real recruitment story... lemme know!

Yes, please!

Continue!

Please please please

please tell us! :)

It is possible to be honest and tactful (e.g. I like this house, but it's not for me). It's not absolutely neccessary to go into details as to why (maybe the girl the pnm was talking to had a booger hanging out and was unaware of it)

And am I the only one who is over the phrase "I have a recruitment story, so if you want to hear it, let me know!" It's almost like the posters are seeking validation or something.

Just sayin'.

You read my mind, Texas Princess. Yes, by all means, if you have a story to tell, let your tale be told! But just post it without the whole "does anyone want to hear it?" thing - trust me, we want to hear it.

no you're not, i'm sick of it too and i'm not in any sorority.... yet *hoping for a good recruitment this coming fall though* :-)

and don't go into too much detail that would give away the sorority like well i liked this house but the whole dolphin thing in the kitchen was just not for me .....

or well the girls in this house were really super sweet but pink is just not the color for me and i don't like lions either..

no need for details like that.. so give details but leave them vague

agreed about the discretion thing. trust me, the more seasoned GC'ers CAN find out what school and what sororities you are talking about.

There was a "honest" recruitment story a few months back that was absolutely unneccessary.

The pnm said things like "I cut that group because the girl I talked to wasn't very pretty" or "I didn't like the green shirts they wore with the fake pearls .. you could SO tell they were fake like ohmigawd"

She was found out, and all the chapters she was talking about were easily decoded because of the things she said about them.

Ladies (and Gentlemen, I guess)-
I am really not trying to be rude to any of you, but PLEASE let's not scare this one off. I really want something to read while I am bored at work tomorrow! And I really think this might be a good story!!! Because I kind of think that the

might put someone off a little bit. And, isn't every girl who posts a recruitment story trying to entertain us, maybe get a little anonymous attention, and a dash of validation, like the "Great Story! Keep it coming" comment that I give to just about every story I read lol.


(again, not trying to be rude!)

Think of it as the posters being good storytellers and piquing your interest. :D

lmao. sorry you guys. im really not trying to get any validation. promise. I started the thread thinking that i was going to write about back ground information, and then realized, i really wanted to go to burger king, and kind of had a rush finish it, and that was the best cliffhanger i could come up with on an empty stomach! im no english major... no offense taken.

anywayz.... so yeah. I went through recruitment last year for deferred recruitment. I found this site because one of the girls who i pledged with wrote her recruitment story here, and when i think about... its going to be so friggin easy to figure out that we are on the same campus, but whatever. i dont really care. but i dont think it will be easy to figure out what school we go to. My friend did tell me that 1 person did figure it out (sent her a PM), but I have no clue how! some of you guys have amazing greek life knowledge...lemme tell you.

the thing about deferred recruitment, that some may say is bad (i dunno really know) is that almost every girl rushing has a biased view of every single house. and i mean its hard not to, you go to school with the girls for 4 months, going to the same classes, same clubs, same parties, and then there is the gossip, which you always have to take with a grain of salt, but as a freshmen, you really wanna make the best choice, and the chapter you join can define your college life, so of course girls listen to what their older friend, fraternity guys, fellow rushees say...

okay so the five chapters of my school, in greys anatomy characters (which hopefully i can watch again if this strike ever ends! but... i digress... sigh)

Meredith- I had heard so much about this chapter. i knew that they had the highest gpa, which was important to me. i had also heard that they tended to be very stuck up, and thought that they were better than everyone. I knew one girl from this chapter kind of sort of. we had talked before, but we for sure were not bffs or anything. and from what i saw, she was not stuck up at all. but then again i didnt know her that well... I really wanted to see what all the hype was about, cause this was considered one of the top two houses.

Izzy- Okay first of all Izzys were beautiful. I was immedatly intimidated by them. I consider myself a pretty average girl, so i didnt know if they voted based on looks or what... But the things i had heard. Crazy stories that i knew could not be true. Circling of the fat story? yup heard that one too. I was so nervous about meeting them. Izzy was also considered a "top house", and i hate to say it now, but that was important to me at the time.

Callie- This was considered a good house to be in, not the best though, and definitely not a regect house or anything. Seeing these girls around campus, they are always hugging and smiling, and laughing. I had heard that no one ever leaves Callie. Meaning that if you ended up joining this chapter, you would never leave the chapter early, go inactive, or early alum, cause you love it so much. People thought of this as the chapter with the closetest sisterhood. But people also said that every heavy girl went through recruitment, went to this house. But i knew i wanted to give them a chance, cause 1. im not jennifer aniston exactly 2. I would much rather have heavy sisters who loved me and a sisterhood that i was totally devoted to than a chapter with cookie cutter girls who were stuck up or something. This chapter had also won greek fest the last two years in a row...

Christina- I had not really heard anything about this house. No one really mentioned them when talking about greek life. Im really involved on campus but never really saw them at any of my organization meetings or events. My fraternity guy friends said that this chapter was for girls who couldn't get in Callie, but were too good for Bailey.

Bailey- This house was known as the house for girls who just wanted to be in a sorority. People said, no one wants to be a bailey, you just kind of end up as one.

so going in, my faves were (in order) Callie, Meredith, Izzy, Christina, Bailey.

i was rushing with my friend, who already posted on this site, and my other friend "Jen". Jen was all about Meredith. She thought that they were the best house to be in. I talked to her about the "stuck up rumor" and she said she didnt care cause if she got in she would be in the best house so what did it matter? oh well...

if you wanna know what happens, lemme know!!! (that was joke, in case you couldnt tell)

I'm cheering for Callie and Christina!

well, i want to know!!! and i liked the picture you painted of each chapter.

This thread sounds good already. go Callie, and there really should have been Addison instead of Bailey, imo.

ps.. your friend, the one who wrote here already, mind telling us who she is? you said it would be easy to figure out, and I think i have... did she end up having to rush twice?????

im gonna vote for Christina!

Okay Day 1

The first chapter i went to was Callie, and everything i had heard seemed to be true. they were so cute. the girls seemed like they really loved eachother and they were just so peppy! i thought, may actually a little too peppy for me. i tend to be a little cynical. anyway, the girl who i started talking to Lauren, was amazing. She wanted to go to the same grad school as me, to specialize in the same thing. It was funny cause seeing the whole chapter together, i realized that maybe 5 girls where "heavy". I think its just cause of their name that people wanna call them the "fat sorority". But there were a lot of really thin girls in the chapter, but the vast majority had average bodies.

Then I went to Meredith. I didnt see what all the hype was about. People claimed that Meredith was one of the two best houses but to me, the seemed a little boring, and honestly... i dont think they liked each other that much. Their recruitment chair mad this little speech at the end, and stumbled on her word and the girls (her sisters) rolled their eyes in this very bitchy way. It was a major contrast to what i saw with the Callies

Christina.... all i remember was being VERY BORED. I felt like i was trying to start the conversation and in respone i got "yes, no, psychology" i was like... umm... okay. i didnt really know what to do, and toword the end, i just stood there. They were wearing me out!

Bailey- I really did not want to go to this party because of what i had heard about how dull they were but after Christina, i figured, anything was an upgrade. The craziest part was that i actually really liked this house. The girls were so cute. I felt like they really loved their chapter. Bailey's didnt look like my friends from back home, but they reminded me of them. I especially bonded with one girl, Michelle, over Sex and the City, which is pretty much the most amazing show ever. I really felt a connection with this chapter, but could not get what i had heard out of my head.

Last, was Izzy. I was so nervous about going to this one. Especially after everything i had heard about the hazing and superficial stuff. Basically i was told that if you dont look like you could be Homecoming Queen, you dont have a shot. So i walked in, and of course everyone started walking toward me ( like at every chapter i visited) and i got paired off with Sarah. OMG... she was amazing. We had a great conversation which was surprising cause i was so tired, with this being the last house and all. But it was like i was talking to my (biological) sister. Everything flowed so well, and we got on the topic of politics ( i know... so bad!) and she slipped and said something that if i were on the other side of the political spectrum, would have taken very offensively, but since i totally agreed with her, it just made us giggle even more.

next day is a four party

So did you rank after this round, or do you cut a chapter if necessary after seeing all of your invites?

gosh, it sounds like things went well. brava to you for forming your own opinions!!

I like to root for the underdog - go Bailey!

My vote goes for Izzy cause when I rushed and wrote down my story I used the same code names and ended up going Izzy!!!
Best of luck:)

Sorry it took me so long to update. its been a busy couple of days...

So the next day I found out which houses had invited me back. If all the houses did, then i would have to cut one. Well, all the houses did, and i of course cut Christina. i really was not feeling anything at that house except boredom and i knew i did not want to go back for another day.

The first house i went to that day was Izzy. This time i got paired with Nadia and boy had i heard things about Nadia. She was one of the very well known Izzy girls. I had seen her around campus many times (always with a different designer bag) and big sunglasses, and i always thought of how she had this air about her, as if she was better then everyone else. But i have to admit, i really liked talking to her. I found out that she wanted to be a teacher for low income students and i was wow, didnt see that one coming. I really enjoyed our conversation with her and the other girls who i had talked to that day.

Next I went to Meredith. Once again, i was like felt that they were so fake. I know its rush, but everything we talked about was so superficial, like what bracelet one Meredith got from her boyfriend for Christmas and how she really wanted a different one, blah blah. I felt like they were genuinely interested in me but i didnt really feel a connection with them. Then again, they were one of the "top houses" and it means a lot to be a Meredith on my campus.

Callie was next. Once again, i saw that they were really close and seemed to have an amazing sisterhood. Throughout the event they were laughing and hugging each other and seemed to be having a really good time. but... they were so preppy! So many of them had polos and popped collars with pearls. Not really my style, but i did like them...

Bailey was the last house i went to that day. I had an AMAZING TIME! i loved the baliey girls. they seemed so authentic and nice to me. But what would people say when i wore Bailey letters around campus? especially since they were known as the "default sorority"... but still they were pretty awesome girls and i could see my self hanging out and watching movies with them, etc...

next day is 3 party... then pref

I know how hard it can be, and confusing, to want to like a chapter that has a lot of campus prestige, even though you don't sense as much of a connection. But in the end, what matters most that it means a lot to YOU to be in a house. I'm glad that you are having fun through the process.

I can't help rooting for the underdog. Maybe you could be the one to turn Bailey around and make people realize what a great house it actually is!

I can't wait to hear how this ends!

so after that day, i was really confused about what chapter was right for me. i got my invitations for the next day, no knowing who i was going to cut, but then i got my invitations and found out that Callie had cut me, so i didnt have to make a decision. I guess they realized that i wasnt preppy enough for them too. i didnt have hard feelings, cause really did not think i belonged there.

The first house i went to that day was Bailey, and once again... loved them. They did this sex and the city skit (<3) and it was so cute, and afterward we played this cute card game that let us share things about ourselves. Then before i left i had a conversation with Michelle again, who told me she was on the look out for a little and gave me a knowing look.

Then was Meredith. I got paired with a new girl and enjoyed talking to her and her pledge sisters, but i was a little out of the conversation. They were talking about this club they always go to, and since im not much of a club/bar person, i didnt really have much to say. And... i really did not want to be in a sorority that only cared about partying. I dont really remember their skit... i dont think my heart was really into it...

Last that day was Izzy. I remember loving them again. They showed this movie about their chapter and it was adorable. They looked like they were having such a good time with eachother. Then i got into this conversation with one of the sisters. It got really in depth about hazing and how bad it was and then she was like, when she first rushed she had heard all this rumors about Izzy and how they circled girls fat and how scared she was, but how glad she was now that she gave them a chance. I accidentally blurted out, I HEARD THAT STORY TOO. thankfully she just laughed and said... well im glad your still giving us a chance.

Later that night my friends and i got together to talk about rush and i told them that i was seriously thinking about cutting Meredith and got ATTACKED by Jen. She tsaid NO ONE cuts meredith. especially not to keep Bailey! whats wrong with you? dont you care about the organization your going to be representing? i decided to keep the rest of my thoughts to myself...

Just remember that this organization is for life - not just the 4 years that you live there. I'd bet that 95% of the chapter doesn't even speak to each other a year or 2 out of school.

If Bailey as a whole represents what you are looking for, go for it.

There's no way of knowing if these pnm's who "know everything about Meredith" are still that postive when Initiation time rolls around and/or are still active when they are seniors or just away...

Just a little story from my recruitment--my BFF and I ended up preffing the same houses and thought we were going to go the same way (rating the more prestigious house #1) and in the end, I went with a house that I clicked with more. On bid day, I felt so confused, should I have joined the same house as her, why didn't I...etc). Well, I felt so much better a day later when we were having so much fun in my new chapter. It was home to me. Meanwhile, she was NOT having as good a time. In fact, the entire NM period, she was wondering if she had not made the wrong choice. The girls in her house were rather cold and unfriendly. She eventually made good friends in her NM class and it all worked out, but I always think to myself, thank goodness I chose from the heart.

Okay so pref night....

I was really worried about what i was going to do between Meredith and Bailey. Meredith was the top house but i did not feel comfortable there, while i loved Bailey and they were known as a bad house on my campus. I decided not to stress about it until i found out who invited me back in the first place. Maybe this was going to be like the Callie situation, and i wouldn't have to make a choice.

But then i found out the i had gotten invited back to all 3. I remember panicking about the situation. I really did not want to go to another Meredith event, cause, they were so... not for me. The more i got to know them, the more stuck up the seemed, the more materialistic, and the more i saw the party girl bar hopping image.

But what would my friends say if i cut Meredith. Jen would think i was crazy, everyone knew that they were THE chapter with the best girls, but were these girls really the best? Just cause they drove nice cars and had nice clothes and were pretty, was that it? Wasn't there more to sisterhood than that?

I realized that i had to cut Meredith. I did not want to be in this house AT ALL.

Before the parties started i talked to Jen, and she told me that she was going to go the Christina and Meredith's pref parties but was definitely going to suicide, and she was only going to both events cause her Rho Gamma was making her.

When she asked me whose parties i was going to i told her Bailey and Izzy, she gave me the saddest look and said "Aww... Meredith cut you? Well dont worry you can always just suicide Izzy, they are almost just as good as Meredith..." and i told her... "no actually Meredith invited me back, but i dont feel like i fit in there" she looked at me like i was out of my mind! Oh well... more about her later...

The first event i went to was Izzy's. The ceremony was so beautiful. There were a lot of girls at the event and i looked around at my competition (errr... potential future sisters) and thought about how well known those girls were. Lots of girls for the Student Government and other great organizations on campus and i was like wow, Izzy attracts really great girls. The ceremony was beautiful and i felt really comfortable with the girls.

After i quick break, i went to Baileys event. The first thing i noticed was that there were not as many girls there. Maybe half of what was at Izzy's event. The ceremony was so amazing and i cried. i never cry... but wow, the things those girls said were exactly why i wanted to join and sorority.

After the events we ranked. I thought so long and hard... who should i rank #1, Bailey or Izzy? I really honestly liked both chapters. I was so confused. Finally i wrote down my ranking, signed my bid card and walked away....

Don't leave us hanging who did you put as one and who went as two!!!


AHHHH!


LOL ... sounds like either way youll be happy :)

on my gosh.......please let us know!!

hmm don't know if it's obvious but i figured out which sorority this is ... that was a definite easy detail to figure out ..... sigma alpha tau

Or Sigma Delta Tau, which also resembles "EAT". That description though actually made me think of Phi Mu, which I've heard referred to as "Phi Moo". We don't have a Phi Mu chapter at my school, but all the Phi Mus I know nationally are quite slim.... go figure. :rolleyes:

ooo true i forgot about that sorority!! lol you'll have to forgive me i just woke up and still a little hazy since i got 3 hours of sleep last night.

haha, Sigma Alpha Tau, also known as Owls, is a sorority at Otterbein College, founded in 1910. http://www.otterbein.edu/studentlife/greek/frat_sor.asp

To the OP: Hope everything is going groovy for you!

There are more sororities whose names can be twisted as the "fat" sorority, but I'd rather not give anyone else any ideas.

The OP said that Callie has an undeserved rep as the "fat" sorority because some people on her campus twist Callie's nickname to give it a "fat" connotation. There are examples in posts above. However, there's no way you can deduce just one group from this, I've heard "fat nicknames" for many different sororities. I don't think ktbug or lindz were implying that all members of SDT are fat, but instead, that SDT could get an undeserved rep because of what the letters connote.

It really could be any sorority... people can turn almost any initials into being something bad ... I know on our campus the fraternities had given the delta phi epsilon sorority a bad nickname that implied they were fat *I will withhold saying it so I don't offend anyone*

Thank you Zeta13Girl and VioletPretty, i can think of three sororities off the top of my head who's name/nickname can me twisted to something that means fat.

I did not say that Callie is was Sigma Delta Tau, and i also said that i heard that Callie was for the heavy girls, but when i meet them i saw that it was just a stupid rumour and have not mentioned Callies weight since then. If i insulted you by saying what i had heard about CALLIE (not mentioning any specific sorority)... then i am truly sorry for that. I did not mean any offense.

greek love.