Summertime Blahs
 

School has been out for a month for me, and I'm not doing summer school. I still have yet to get a job, despite numerous applications. I think I'm going stir-crazy being home all day...

Anyone else get the summertime blahs, where the days just drag on forever and it seems like you'll never get back to school again?

Yeah I did get the summertime blahs for awhile because summer wasn't turning out the way I wanted it to. first of all, i was totally looking forward to get home from school since I was excited about spending time with my boyfriend FINALLY after only getting to see him every other weekend and such coz we go to different schools...then after a couple dates after I get home, he breaks up with me like a week after...now, a fresh dumpee who has yet to work w/ nothing to do at home...now that was TORTURE. Ugh. I cried everyday (even shared my sorrows in Greekchat) but of course, time heals the wounds although it wasn't a quick process.I have a job now (that was my job last year, they rehired me but didn't let me start until 2 wks after i got back from school) but I don't work every single day so on days I am off and my friends are still at work--nothing to do except watch dvds or go online until someone i know calls me once he/she gets home...i also get crazy!!!But yeah, I actually work with my ex(i honestly thought about quitting my job coz of him but my pledge mom said it was a sign of weakness)still and all's good..we're buds and he still drives me back and forth....but on my days off (i cant believe how much time i HAVE for myself now that im single)and everyone is out/work/summer school, I amuse myself with talk shows, sex on the city dvds, update my webpage and of course, greekchat. there's my life...

Gammazetagrl: Major props to you girl!! I'm so glad that you are coping well with the breakup http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif. I know how hard it is--especially when that person was so special to you! And about how you said how much time you have for YOURSELF now--relish in that! I've realized that a lot of times, I don't have time for ME b/c I've been in relationships, basically one after another..without being single for a long time. It's so great to have time for yourself only!

Also, when I went through a really hard breakup last year (kept on going back to the idiot of a cheater), it really helped to have great friends by your side, spend time with the family, and INDULDGE, indulge, indulge!!! Go eat some chocolates if you want to, go get that new top that you've eyeing, etc.! Also, writing in my journal really helped me http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif. And it's so true that time heals everything.

Also, I know this sounds soo cliched, but it's true that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I've become a lot stronger through the things that I've gone through recently, and that hard breakup that I had last year finally taught me how important it is to treat myself right!! So treat yourself like a princess http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif. Sorry to go on and on about this...I'm sure you've probably heard this all already!

OMG! I am in same rut! At, least I am not alone. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

This is off topic but...:
http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif very well said newbie!I like that--what doesnt kill u only makes u stronger! don't worry, even if i've heard it all before I dont mind hearing it again coz yes, any piece of advice makes me feel stronnggerrrrrr. I also realized that at a time like this that's when u realize who your friends are, those who are willing to stand by your side and be there for u when u need them. Coz unfortunately there were some that seemed to good to hear about me crying on the phone about my problems--they'll get theirs someday! anyway It's kinda ironic coz when he took me to one of their functions (one of the last things we went to as a couple) I met this girl and we hit it off as friends--although we were kinda intoxicated and when i was like "i made a friend!" he attributed it to the fact that we were drunk, that's why we kept talking and even exchanged numbers. But then days after, we kept in touch and now we talk online,email and by phone. He was surprised when i told him we were actually like, FRIENDS now and in fact she was the one who gave me the most advice and was there for me when he dumped me. So it was an ironic blessing in a way, that stuff happen for a reason...he took me to their dance so I can meet this girl who will soon help me through a breakup with him...how weird, but hey, i gained friends when i lost a boyfriend... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

Anyway I found that shopping is not only good for breakup blues but summertime blues too! So if u dont have a car (like my sorry a**)get your sisters or friends who have one and hit the mall!

Do you ever think that possibly you're overqualified for lots of the traditional summer jobs, i.e. retail? I sometimes wonder if I have too much schooling and my gpa is too high for them to consider me - because business think I could get a better job or something.

It sucks to be 3/4 of the way through your college degree with a 3.79 and not even get an interview at Gap http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

This is what I'm going through right now. And a lot of places don't want to hire you if you're leaving at the end of the summer. This happened to me last year, and as a result, had to take a real s---ty job, which I AM NOT going to do again. The sad thing is that I started looking for work here in March! I realized (too late) that I could have a better job in Providence. Oh well.

POOR JUNIORGRRL!!!!

You can have my job any day. I get to work on campus making barely above minimum wage. Plus I don't work with the smartest people either. OH...and doesn't it suck to be in Baton Rouge this week???? This weather just adds to my misery. I walked through water today that was knee deep. UGHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!Plus I'm in summer school. YUCK!!!! Well I'm off to start my homework. Hope your week gets better!!!!!

Allison

Hey Allison,

I'm in Slidell, and the weather is just as bad! I've barely left the house its been so nasty!

But on a positive note, I got a call back from one of my applications and I got a job!!! Its the same job I've had for 2 summers before (working at a Babbages). Not especially glam when my b/f is making $10/hr with an internship at NRL at the Stennis Space Center complex in MS. But hey, its money. And I get outa the house! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Hey!!!! Congrats on getting the job!!! No more summertime blahs for juniorgrrl!!!! The weather really sucks around here. That's my biggest blah right now. But The Reveille had the coolest headline today..."Allison Takes Baton Rouge By Storm"!!!! I collected up all of the copies at work so I can keep them!!! I love having a tropical storm with my name!!! OH...and I'm really disappointed in the LSU administration. You think they would be a little sympathetic about people being out in all this rain but NOOOOOO we still have classes planned for tomorrow. I just really don't want to go wade through knee deep water again. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif OK...I'm done complaining. Hope everyone is having an awesome summer!!!!!

Allison

CONGRATS Juniorgrrl!!!! Hope there are no more summertime blahs for you!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Gammazetagrl, I totally know what you mean about realizing who your TRUE friends are. I went through a really rough stretch recently, and I finally realized who my real friends are--those that will stick by you when you're so down, those that never tire of hearing you cry...those that will always give their shoulders for you to cry on http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif. It's kinda sad, though, that it takes something bad to happen to realize who willl always be there for you 24/7! And I've always believed in karma...no doubt about it, those friends that weren't there for you and for me through tough times will no doubt about it get THEIR share of what it feels like!

Hehehee, I'm so glad that you met that girl at the dance http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif. Isn't funny how life works sometimes? When you least expect it, life hits you with blessings!!!!

And again, I'm so PROUD and GLAD that you're healing so nicely http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif. It's always wonderful to see people bounce back with such strength!! Also--sorry i'm sounding so preachy http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif, but...regardless if the relationship ended, it's always nice to think about how that special someone had enlivened your life and made an impact on your life!! Last year, (the previous relationship before I got with my current bf) I had a real roller-coaster emotional experience with this guy who was a no-good cheater. I came back to him 3 or 4 times (even though all my friends kept on trying to stop me...though I ddint' realize then how right they were!) even thoguh I knew deep down he would always be a cheater. It really hurt, when I finally realized reality, BUT it was nice to think how he had "changed" who I was, for the better...(even though he made me bitter for a while http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif). Sorry to go on and on about this gammazetagrl!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Hey my LSU girls http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

juniorgrrl: That's great that you got a job. Hope you make lots and lots of money this summer http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Allison: I'm about to go out of my freaking mind with all this rain. Even though classes were cancel, everything else was open. I work in the library so I still had to go to work. I was pretty miffed about that. Sure they shut everything down at 3,but guess who had to treck all the way back across campus in the rain? The day sucked. I'm very crabby right now so forgive me if I sound a little irratated here on the boards

You're so wise newbie! Yeah I totally agree how experience is the best teacher no matter if the experience was good or bad...and so far I feel better day after day. I couldn't really blame u though about going back to your ex 3-4 times even though u knew he was a cheater (btw, thanks for sharing such a personal experience)...i tried to put myself in your shoes and i realize that humans can be "fools in love"..I know I was. I remembered thinking, if he asked me to take him back i totally would run back...but of course, that was just days after we broke up and if he did that now, I would have to think about it. We just need time to keep our thinking straight again, I guess. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gifBut I am real happy for u that u found a guy who rightfully deserves your love and caring, and is willing to return it!

anyway to those who were looking for jobs and got one, congratulations...I know I HAVE to keep working to save up for next semester's dues and misc expenses in addition to the usual bills/school! lol. I'm saying this from the point of view of a normal middle class,i-get-an-allowance-but-its-not-that-much-type of girl: Being Greek CAN be real expensive! but hey it's totally worth it ;D It's an investment, just like splurging on 50$ sorority girl pants u know u'd be wearing in every other party. As Greeks we are investing in our sisters/brothers/FRIENDS for life.

I cannot say I get the summertime blahs per say, but I don't like summer...I hate heat and sun...Sounds weird I know! But I am known for loving rainy, cold, cloudy days...They are just so beautiful...I sleep in or just feel so calm...I get pissed off very easily in the heat and get heat headaches ALL THE TIME! I am a Fall and Winter Woman! Nothing better than a cozy fire and hot chocolate and snuggling!

I'm so glad gammazetagrl that you're feeling better day after day!! I remember that the first week or so, it was really difficult. Slowly, it got better and better, that soon I could see him with that girl and not mind all THAT much. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif But, you know what? I don't know if I stand alone thinking this way--but I think the guy that you went out with/crushed on/liked, etc. you will always have a special place for him http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif. That's what I think! When you see that guy, you will always feel "something" for him. Do you think that way, too? Anyway http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif,no problem...sharing that experience made me feel better, actually! Haha "fools in love"==definitely! Love makes us weird sometimes, but in a good way I guess http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif. Thank you for the congratulations--I am very happy with my honey!!! And I know that soon, you will be too!!!! But, on the other hand--it's SO great to be single! You have so much time for yourself!!!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif So enjoy it while it lasts http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif gammazetagrl!!!

I have a huge case of the summertime blahs. I don't think that I've ever been this bored my whole life. There's nothing to do because my town is really small. I go to work, then I come home. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif I actually can't wait to get back to school, which is pretty unusual for me. I can't wait to see my friends, and make some new ones. Just a couple more months...

newbie, you are so wise. you are such an asset to greekchat, sweetie!!!

yes, i agree that whenever i see him, no matter what, i will always feel something for him (and for all the exes that will soon follow in the future)--just because you are right, he DOES and will always have a special place in my heart, where all memories are stored...and so life then goes on.

but yeah, summertime blahs do suck. i am actually thankful i work at blockbuster and i put the 5 a week free rentals to good use (i just finished watching Anywhere But Here and Outside Providence)....

Heya! There were a couple posts ^^^^ up there about finding a summertime job. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif A good place to look is at local baseball stadiums, if there are any near you. (Well, duh. If they were far away, they wouldn't be local. Oy. Sometimes I scare me.) Anyway, most of the time they pay well, and they ONLY hire for the summer. So you don't have to worry about them tellin' you you can't work there, because you go to college through the year. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif As for summertime blahs... I'm starting to despise weekends because I have nothing to do. -.- Eh, Can't wait till it gets warmer out here. I'll be swimming! Whee! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/cool.gif

Yeah, that is cool. I have about 10 copies of the Houston Chronicle from August 25, 1992 with the headline, "250,000 Told to Flee Andrew." And about 5 Copies of the september 1 Miami Herald with the Headline, "Andrew Wreaks Havoc on S.Florida." Too cool. Have them framed. Enjoy it.

Hey Lifesaver,

As much fun as it was having a tropical storm with my name...I hated being hassled about it. My friends and family would make the stupidest comments like..."When are you gonna make it stop raining?" and stuff like that. I still haven't decided what I'm going to do with all of the papers yet. I think I'm going to frame at least one headline and then maybe put they others all around my room.

Allison

Folks!!! Since I'm probably one of the older ones up in GC, why aren't you gaining any professional experiences in your majors??? You all should be in some kind of internship program or career experience. I dayum sho wish I had the time to feel the summertime blahs. But I have to work my ass off so hard that I never get the time to worry!!! You'll be older longer than you are younger!!! Get it together!! If you need help, hit me up on the email. I work at a university.

And ladies, you know why your boys broke with you right when the "summer" started... Don't you?

AKA: For myself, I am in the communications field. The only exp. I can get this summer is a minimum wage job for 20 hours a week or internships. So I am trying my luck with getting them in the fall/winter. Do you know if it is easy to get any internships (any field) during the school year or in the summer?

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yup I agree with ya'll so much. I'm trying to decide if it's just blahs or something worse...no job despire a few trys, living with my parents in a new town I HATE, No one my age to hang around with, No car, boyfriend basically breaking up with me...great great great summer!

ZTAMich,
Sorry to hear your summer is not going so well either http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif. I've been counting down to when school starts practically since I got home!

Even though I got a job, it sucks major ass. I'm barely going to make $500 this summer, because I never get scheduled for more than 18 hrs a week http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif I'm just not in the mood to do retail anymore. Internships were filled long ago by friends-of-friends-of-friends at the few companies willing to offer them.

Oh well, mabe July will be better...

AHHHHH!!!! i have no time for summertime blahs! I'm taking 9 hours of class, working full time and trying to keep my sanity at home! I can't wait until i get back to school though - even school doesn't feel like work compared to this! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif How do people who go to school and work full time do it?!?!?! I am barely keeping up with my studies and having enough time to sleep in the day, let alone have any type of social life or tanning time http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

Oh I feel much better now bc I enjoy one of my jobs. I have a great job working M-F as a camp counselor. On the weekends I work at Lonestar as a waitress. i am a horrible waitress- I am nice though plus this is my first waitress job. I don't have a car and I can't afford once bc my parents won't take out any more parent loans so I need to pay for my schooling, sorority dues and rent, try to afford a car, plus clothes and a cell phone. My life stinks plus my bf just dumped me bc he'd rather hang out w/ his fraternity brothers!

About the internship thing...

In February, I started looking for an internship in my town. I sent my resume to every single architectural/construction/interior design firm in my town. I got a few replies, most of which saying something to the effect of, "we only hire local students". What I think happened is that they didn't read the cover letter, in which I stated that I have lived in my town my ENTIRE life, but saw that I go to school in Rhode Island. I have had a few interviews in my field, but have contacted all sorts of people (my majors are Architecture and Urban Studies), with no luck.

I'm not having much luck with retail, either. Most places already hired their college students (I get out about 2 weeks later than the area colleges) and don't want to hire me if I leave in 2 months. I even got the gasface from Wal-Mart.

So, if there's a sob story to be told, I've got it. To top it all off, I'm not really getting on wel at home..I live in a really small conservative town that's not really going anywhere, and it's causing tension. I've actively considered going back to Rhode Island, because at least there I know I can get a job. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

This is a great post because I am also having a terrible time trying to find a job because nobody wants to hire a college student that will be heading away to college in mid-August. I put in so many applications, but once they read and saw that I would be heading off to college they put it back down..haha.. The thing that makes me mad is that I started really early before the high school and local community colleges got out, but still no luck. I guess a high GPA doesn't really matter anymore when it comes to temporary summer jobs. Glad to hear that I am not alone!

well I didn't start out so early but I totally feel for ya. NO ONE wants to hire college kids down here that I can see. High schoolers with less experience are getting hired over me and it makes me SO mad!

I think college students are over qualified for most retail jobs that aren't in a college town. I hate my job - I stand around thinking "I'm worth more than this - I'll be a senior in college - I've got a 3.79 - yet I'm spending my summer straightening video game boxes and being pushed around by a know-it-all manager" Not to mention, I only work 15 hours a week! Not a great way to make much money http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

The only way I was able to get this job is because I had worked there for 2 other summers, and I promised I'd work on weekends when I came home and over Christmas (which isn't going to happen now because I'm moving to a town about 30 min away - and I'm not going to commute for 5.40/hr!!!)

And about not reading cover letters - I live close to the Stennis Space Center in MS. I've had friends work at the Naval Research Labs office there. I've emailed my resume 5 times maybe. The only time I got a response, they wanted to interview me for full time! They didn't even read that I was looking for a summer job!!!!

Oh AlphaSigLana, I have been reading your posts (boyfriend stuff esp.) and I feel so sad for you! Stress relieve girl....take a bubblebath or just goof off sometime! I promise, it will get better. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gifSmile! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

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AKA_Monet, I was thinking the exact same thing... I'm too busy working and going to summer school to even think about the summertime blahs! If you aren't working, then enjoy your time off, cause it won't last forever! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif




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Thanks Preppie. I will try to enjoy my summer. I feel bad for anyone who is a server like me. This is my first time being a server(2nd job-weekends). It is hard work and the tips aren't that great.