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Get rid of that mentality ASAP or you'll find yourself severely disappointed should things not turn out the way you want them to.

Getting your heart set on a particular group is a sure-fire way to be disappointed come bid day. Read enough on this site and you will see that the group itself is not really all that important in order to have a great sorority experience. In the end, as long as you act genuine and like yourself in recruitment (as much as possible, at least) you will end up with a bid from a group who specifically wants YOU.

As far as getting worried over your minority status... any sorority that you would want to be a part of shouldn't be hung up on racism, right? So don't worry about it and have faith that the system will find you a place you belong.

It's not rare at all. A lot of PNMs going into rush do the exact same thing. Many of them end up going through rush with an open mind, and then realize their "top houses" going in didn't really meet their own personal expectations, all this despite the house's reputations.

Every school is different when it comes to recruitment. That said, if you haven't already done so, adpiucf's General Advice thread is a good one to read.

Yes, you're right, you do need to stop. :p

Seriously though, it's not rare to have your heart set one group, but from reading threads on this board it should be pretty obvious that having that mindset can lead to disappointment. Also, I would strongly caution against paying much attention to reputations. Another common theme underlying tons of recruitment stories on here: Chapters are rarely, if ever, anything like their "reputations."

Good luck and keep us informed!

My school has deferred recruitment as well. It's totally normal to have favorites going into recruitment! I fell in love with two chapters after the first round, but I didn't pledge either of them! One of them cut me and I changed my mind about the other one, but I wouldn't change a thing about my experience. I definitely ended up in the right chapter for me. Look for the positive in every chapter and keep your options as open as possible until you sign your bid card.

As for your race, it really depends on the campus. At my school, if anything, it'd be a slight plus since our chapters want to be diverse! Actually, my chapter's newest new member class has more racial and/or religious minorities than White Christians. Look at the existing makeup of the chapters, if they're diverse, race is probably no issue. But be yourself at all costs.

Just go through rush and the right house will find you. Be open minded though, I was completely surprised when I actually went through rush at the fraternity I ended up picking and a lot of girls I know felt the same way about their rush.

Aeda, check out my story that I already posted. It will definitely prove how a woman's mind can change from even day to day and party to party during recruitment - and so many of us on GC had similar experiences! http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ad.php?t=90277 PM me if you have any questions or need to vent :)

Just curious why do you say you are definitely not the type to join a multicultural sorority? There are two types of multicultural sorororitites those like mine where it means we try never to be dominated by one particular race (www.lambbdaphixiunr.com and there are other groups that use the term multicultural or may be on the multicultural greek council but they are latina or asian based etc. All of these organizations are fantastic and have something great to offer. If all else fails, bring your own sorority to campus!

She shouldn't have to defend why she doesn't want to be in a multicultural sorority. It's comparing apples to oranges on pretty much every campus. Although many campuses have "multicultural" Panhellenic Associations in the sense that they are racially diverse, the Multicultural Sorority experience is a different one. No one asks White members of NPC groups why they didn't join multicultural sororities.

Just to point out that tanzera brought it up because the OP said she wasn't the type to join a multi-cultural group. I know the OP didn't mean anything bad about this statement...what is good for her is her own business...her statement could be construed the wrong way. I think tanzera was just questioning what the OP meant. That being said, I do agree that a woman's decision to join an NPC, NPHC or multi-cultural group is her decision no matter what racial group she falls into.

I doubt you offended her, but it looks like she felt the need to clarify what you might think a multi-cultural sorority is. Unfortunately, sometimes people read what you write completely differently than how you meant it. It's happened to me so many times. No matter what, don't let anyone taking offense on this board stop you from posting your story. We really enjoy them! Also, you may get some valuable advice along the way!

I agree as well. Different groups of organizations offer different things. If you're looking for a "Panhellenic experience" you're not going to pursue another type of sorority, regardless of your ethnicity.

Aeda, GC can be addictive, and I find it is especially so around Rush time (for PNMs and Alums alike!) but there's no sense in stressing out about it now. Definitely do your research though, look on the national and chapter websites, find out if the chapters on your campus are really involved in their philanthropy and/or other campus activities. Really evaluate what you want in a sorority and what you think you can give to a group - knowing those two things will be a big help in recruitment because guaranteed you'll be asked something along those lines...

As far as having two favorites going in, that's understandable having deferred rush - that's part of the argument against it also though. It's ok to have your opinions going in, it's only natural, but don't discount the other groups either. Like I said, do your research and try to give every group a fair shake during parties - I promise you won't regret it ;)

And I'm sure I'm speaking for many of us here when I say we're looking forward to hearing your recruitment story in February, so definitely keep us posted!

don't worry about quota. most of the time quota is set at a time that is advantageous to both the pnms and the sororities. if 500 girls enrolled in recruitment, and stayed in recruitment to the end and there are 5 sororities, then quota could be 100-theoritically speaking. panhellenic would not set quota so that there was no space for every girl who wanted to join. this is where the choices the pnm makes and the invitations the sorority extends come into play.

And even total doesn't really matter during FR because chapters can go over total through FR due to everyone being allowed to take quota. So if you decide that you want into a large chapter that doesn't technically have a lot of slots open, during FR it wouldn't matter. They just couldn't COB.

It depends on the way the rounds and cuts are structured. First round cuts can and do happen, but do not usually lead to someone getting cut entirely. Exceptions to that may be if grades are too low or if a PNM was completely and utterly rude to every chapter. But I'd guess most chapters on most campuses don't make more than grade cuts the first night.

YMMV

Ditto what everyone else said.

The thing you need to keep in mind is that all sororities on all campuses are different... i.e. XYZ is not the same at Alabama than it is at UVA. I'm not sure if that's what you're basing it on or anything like that.

Meet the girls! You may find that the house you least expected to like, you'll fall in love with.

Good luck and let us know how it turns out!

you will always end up where you are supposed to. even if you dont think you did on bid day. give it a chance. trust me, everyone ends up exactly where they should. you have your hopes set for one and you are going to be thinking about it the whole time, but try to ignore your feelings from before and follow your heart.

She doesnt have to defend herself hence the term just curious, it was just a question. Sorry but as President of the MGC and of a multicultural sorority who has had a lot of Panhellenic girls transfer into our organization I can say that in our case atleast we offer pretty much the same experience and do mostly the same things as an NPC. I realize that other campus's are not as lucky to have such diverse organizations and latina organizations are just that, they are not multicultural although they are often falsely put into that category. They are latina based. Multicultural sororities, true ones, mean we never have one race dominating our organization and we try to bring more diversity events to campus.

*bump* FR starts tomorrow for Aeda! Let's all wish her luck!

Relax! Breathe! Knock 'em dead!

Hope you get the invitations you want!

Good luck! Keep your heart and mind open!

Good luck!! I hope you have a great rush week!

Good luck Aeda! I just went through rush...I got my bid on Sunday. My school is deferred rush, and to let you know, we do have minorities in our pledge classes...in all houses. If you have any questions, I would be glad to help you, and you can always PM me. I can't wait to find out where you'll end up...good luck and have a great rush week. What school are you at btw?

How's it going Aeda?? :)

^Someone's a big tease! Happy BDay. :)

Happy Birthday! Looking forward to your next post!

Happy Birthday and DETAILS PLEASE!!!

Aeda, congrats again on your bid! You forgot to tell everyone where you went!!!

Congrats aeda! I just got my bid from Gamma Phi Beta a week ago! Welcome!

Yay Syracuse Triad! Congrats to you and Gamma Phi Beta!

Congrats on Gamma Phi Beta!!

I'm an alum of UCSD.

Congrats on Gamma Phi!

Congrats and welcome to the sisterhood! Come introduce yourself on the Gamma Phi Beta boards:
http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...ad.php?t=31771

I love me some new baby Gamma Phis!