To Tell or not to tell
 

This kinda goes back to a topic Dionysus posted a while back....(just that it doesn't invole a circle of friends!) but here goes:

What would you do if you ever found yourself in a situation where your friend's significant other hit on you? What would you do at that moment?

Would you tell your friend or keep it to yourself?

If you chose to tell, how would you go about doing it?

Is there any time where sometimes not telling is the best option?


Worse...hehehe...has there ever been a time this has happened and you went with the flow and what were the repercussions?

You don't mention it. Ever.

Don't tell, don't think about it. Poof, it's gone, it never happened

So then if you are ever confronted....how do you explain as to why you never said anything?

Who is telling? The significant other of the friend?
Why are they telling? Hmmmm.
If confronted, I would be honest. Nothing happened and you didn't want to ruin your friendship because your friendship means a lot to you.

no...if your friend ever confronted you....sorry if that wasn't clear...

What would your friend confront you with? His GF told him she had hit on you and that you didn't do anything? Why would you be in trouble? He should be giving you a medal.

I was following you. I was questioning why the sig. other was telling your friend? It's almost like they are trying to rub it in.

And congrats to you for restraining yourself.


On the other hand, if Significant Other hit on you more than once, I would definitely have a heart-to-heart with BFF

well no...the s.o. isn't the factor....the factor here is you...you know that the s.o. made a pass at you and what YOU would do about...she ins't saying anything....hehe

James...confronted because someone else told your friend that thier s.o made a pass and had implicated you and since you are supposed to be a good friend, your friend wonders why he had to hear it from someone else and not you.

I would probably reply that I just thought she was being flirty and kidding. And so didn't think anything of it.

And hey, it happened to me so wouldn't i know better than random ass that tried to cause problems?

well u know what happens when a story is passed along enough times...heheh

Well i would never tell my friends that such and such's GF made a pass at me.

But generally I won't tell even my best friends much about my private life involving women.

Unless you've known your friend 10x longer than they've known their SO, NO WAY should you tell them, and even then, only if it happens more than once, and is extremely serious.

My mom's sister's husband confessed to her that he'd been cheating, and my mom told her sister, and her sister didn't believe her for YEARS. Of course, when my aunt finally caught up with the rest of the world and found out, she felt like a pretty big ass.

most people aren't satisfied unless evidence falls flat in thier lap...

and then there is Cheaters.

I think this is right on. Unless the BF asks you about it or there is obvious evidence she is cheating, I'd keep it to myself.

However, I keep thinking of that line from Office Space:
Peter: I get the feeling Amy might be cheating on me.
Friend: Yeah, I get that feeling, too...:cool:

See, I think you need to be more specific about what being "hit on" really specifies.

If it was just a sleezy pass I would brush it off.

But, I once had a guy tell me he wanted me to take his virginity and he called it hitting on me....

I also had another guy who grabbed my breast and called it hitting on me........

Oh, and I had one smack my ass too....

So, yeah, I think specification is needed. ;)

SAI..i was leaving it broad just to kind of see what people would say :)

Ok...let's be a bit more specific....you all are at a party and the s/o in question says something to the effect that they have had their eye on you and and started aggresively flirting and even said something like "let's hook up sometime..just for drinks' but you can see that there may be more going on.......take it from there....

I used to date this girl and her best friend got drunk and hit on me pretty hard... I thought it was F-d up but also pretty funny.

One of my neighbors used to hit on me shamelessly. When one neighbor had a bonfire, he'd offer me a seat.. on his lap. He constantly asked where my kids were and, if they were with their dad, would say "OH, so you're ALONE" in that very obvious way. It was done in kind of a joking, overly sleazy way that I could blow off or joke away but I also knew that if I took the bait or gave him any indication that I'd consider it, he would go for it. I wouldn't do that to his wife. It was well known in the neighborhood that he cheated on her repeatedly. When he finally told her outright about one of his girlfriends, she kicked him out. I was relieved. I have still never said a word to her about how uncomfortable his overtures made me or how he was so obnoxious. She doesn't need more fuel on that fire and she's away from it now, so there's no reason.

did I like it? No, for real, in the moment I'd check the person about what they tried to pull. Later, w/out telling my signifgicant other, I'd casually inquire about how long/well they were friends.

If it happened again, I'd let my significant other know about it and that I'd had to check her girl's behavior earlier.