When should a couples parents meet?
 

To be a bit clearer, when should my parents meet my girlfriend's parents? I've been thinking of this for sometime now and even more since I plan on asking this incredible young lady to become my wife in the next few months or so.

Wow! Wife? It sounds like you need to introduce them like....now. :)
That's great man!

Ditto to what he said...I always made it a habit never to bring someone around my parents unless it was serious...but if it's going to get THAT serious, then yes...introduce BOTh families so that way it will bring everyone closer together.

Congrats!

First, Congrats!

Our parents met each other when they moved us in together! Hehe, kinda irronic. I had imagined it as "Hello, Mr. Hanks my daughter is moving in with your son."

My boyfriend moved from Boston to Atlanta and I was moving from Chicago to Atlanta. My parents live in Nashville. We are both only children. So his dad drove the moving truck down and his mom flew to Nashville. Stayed a couple of days in my parents house(ALL of us) and then went to Atlanta with us.

We couldn't have asked for anything better! They enjoyed meeting each other and had a lot in common with one another. After spending 5 days with everyone, they are all still talking.

I think its all about timing and having it in a neutral/comfortable setting might help as well.

You should've met each other's parents already but since you haven't do so ASAP.

A serious relationship for me means that our families have mingled. If a man is asking for a woman's hand in marriage, I would think that he would've wanted to know what he's marrying into long before he decided when he's going to ask for her hand.

For me, meeting each other's parents should only be done if it is a serious and longterm relationship. As adults who plan on getting married one day, this also means there's marriage potential. Meeting the family is a prize to me that requires more than just "dating." Some people let everyone meet the family, which can make the family think you're a perpetual dater (or a manwhore) if you've had 20 "girlfriends." They can be wondering "which one will he bring home this time!"

i think as long as YOU have each met each others parents, thats cool.

the parents can meet each other at whatever time you feel is convenient... so for example if thanksgiving is a crazy time for your family DON'T invite them to dinner - maybe get together on a random Saturday evening.

i have a couple of friends whose parents didnt meet each other until the week of the wedding (due to distance, etc) :)

That was a bad sign to me with dating someone....

If you introduce me to your parents or child on the very first date.....that was a no for me...

My parents didn't meet my hubby's parents until the week of the wedding. Same for my brother - our parents didn't meet his wife's parents until the week of the wedding. In fact, my brother has been married for over a decade now, and my parents have spent time with my sister-in-laws parents only once since the wedding. I've been married for 5 years now, and since the wedding was over, my parents have never spent time with my parents-in-law.

As far as I can tell, unless you live close to both sets of parents, it doesn't make any difference. I can see how it would be weird if the parents didn't meet and you and your spouse (and both sets of parents) are from the same area. But other than that, I don't see how it would affect anything.

I completely misread the question. :o

For the parents to meet EACH OTHER!!!:o

Distance is a factor for some people but if couples are together long enough (before getting married) there is usually one event where the families can mingle.

I agree. My mother and my mother-in-law met at one of my wedding showers (I had three- his family, my family, and a work one since our families were in different places from where we lived). I don't think the Dads met until the week of the wedding. Now they see each other on my kids birthdays and I think they exchange Christmas cards. However, since they don't live close to one another, they don't really NEED to have a close relationship.

It's more important that you know your future in-laws (and hopefully like them).

My parents and his parents met about two weeks after we got engaged, as they happened to be in town for his birthday.
I think it just has to do with timing and where everyone lives. But if you're planning on marrying this woman, it would be nice to set it up soon, depending on how close everyone is to each other, but I don't think it really matters if it's before or after you propose.

Maybe I am just old fashioned, but I think it's important to get to know each other's families. To echo some of the other sentiments, if I am in a long-term relationship, I definitely want to meet some of the family members, so I can see what I am getting myself into. Not that I think my family has to be BFF with my future husband's family, but they should at least meet/mingle/get to know one another.

And you never know these days... ;)

I think you should do whatever works best for you. I had my mom meet my husband's parents when we were engaged, and it was just uncomfortable. If I could go back I'd just let them meet whenever it worked out (like at a shower). There was no real reason for them to meet after all. Unless they are both very involved with the wedding planning or this is important to you, I say just let it work itself out.

I agree. I would never propose without getting to know her family first. All of these people are going to be part of your life from here on out. I would want to see how she interacts with my family, how they interact with her, how she interacts with her family, and how I get along with her family. That's all part of getting to know her better.

Of course, it was somewhat moot in our case -- her sister introduced us. :D

Has anyone ever met someone's parents and you got along with them like oil and water? And no matter what you did, they were just determined to not like you? What did you do about it?

Nope. I'm too likeable. :D

Even if I had met some like that years ago, I wouldn't have cared because I was too young to see future potential in my mate. It would've just sucked for the time being.

I haven't met a parent I didn't like...hehehe

...if possible, get a peep of her mother preferably sans make-up. Likely preview of coming attractions. :cool:

As for the rest, they'll probably contact each other after things become "official;" you know, planning, wedding arrangements and such. Other gatherings, meetings will stem from that. I woudn't worry about it.

LOL

What if she looks more like her father?

hey, hey, now, stop that. :) I'm sure Bro. Animate's woman is the epitome of fineness, both inside and out, no matter who she most closely resembles.

bruh, for real, though, if moms is still holdin' it down, ....I'll let the resident GC geneticist AKAMonet explain the rest.

I'm saying, some women look more like female versions of their fathers. Not in a manly or unattractive kinda way. They can also take after their father's side. :)

Just helping Animate know he needs to look at her overall family appearance because her mother's may be misleading. I'm not a geneticist so I dunno all that other stuff.

The parents like me until I divorce their son. Then I become evil.

According to my father, never would have been too soon to meet my in-laws. I'm inclined to agree - whoever realized that "mother in law" is an anagram for "woman Hitler" must know my MIL.

My parents and my in-laws met for the first time a few weeks after we got engaged. My father and my MIL took an instant dislike to each other. They have been in the same place at the same time exactly twice - the other time being my wedding.

That said, a couple's parents should meet each other early on in the engagement, if they hadn't met before the couple got engaged.

I know what you mean. I was bored and having some fun. A lot of attractive women look like their daddy, facially.

I'm sure Bro. Animate has a long and fun marriage ahead of him with homegirl, whether she resembles mama or daddy. :)

My parents met my husband's parents the night we became engaged.

Animate, first congrats on your decision.

As far as the parents, I look like my dad and I like to think I am fione... I have long hair, clear skin and at nearly 40-something, I am working on getting back my 20-something year old figure.

My MIL met me after my husband and I were married. She did not want to meet me or make time to meet me before my now husband wanted to marry me. We eloped and have been married for ~4.5 years.

I don't think it matters when the parents meet the other's parents. Talk to your G/F and mention that you'd like to arrange for your families to meet one another.