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newbie 05-16-2001 08:56 PM

POLL: Guys and girls--Are you low-maintenance or high-maintenance??
 
I'm definitely low-maintenance. Sometimes I'm so lazy that I just want to go to school in my PJ's! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

But, I have to admit, I do love indulging in shopping and glamour. But on an everyday basis--I'm a low-maintenance girl http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif.

So which are you?

DGPhoney 05-16-2001 09:01 PM

lol, newbie, I totally feel you on the Pj thing, if the buildings close enough I be Dat in PJ's,lol. Anyway, I classify myself as middle maintenance! Why,well it depends on where I am going and how I feel that week. If I am chilling the whole week, then I am low m, but big events yada yada, lots to do, people to see, then its high maintenace all the way. So I am both http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif there for being middle, if that makes any6 sense,lol
DGPhoney~

newbie 05-16-2001 09:07 PM

Hey DGPhoney!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

I know what you mean--I had never considered a middle-maintenance! I think that when it comes to formals, parties, etc...I am in between middle-maintenance and high-maintenance http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif.

If I could, though--I would go to school in PJ's and flip-flops! Hehe! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Lil_G 05-16-2001 09:29 PM

Well, I geuss for a guy i'm pretty high maintenance which would be still be low maintenance for a chick. I wear cologne everyday, and I'm really finicky about my hair but that doesn't make me any less of a man, right?
But compared to some chicks, like my sister that's nothing. One day she wouldn't go into mcdonalds for lunch because she hadn't showered yet, so instead we ate in the car...what's more abnormal, sitting in a fast-food parking lot eating food or sitting at a table inside dressed like most of the ppl in there?

btw, carolyn I replied to your email, it's at your old address.

Unregistered- 05-16-2001 09:40 PM

I don't know...I think I'm middle maintenance.

I'm not the type to wear makeup everyday because it's a chore to wake up early and put it on and it's an even bigger chore to get that gunk off my face. I limit my makeup usage to the weekends and special circumstances on the weekdays (like chapter meetings when we should look our best!). I really don't care how I look when I go to school and work because I don't see school as a fashion show.

On the other hand...I hate being dirty. I carry hand sanitizer and a bottle of Evian atomizer so everything feels fresh. I also have blotting sheets so my face doesn't stay oily in the afternoons.

Another thing...I wear sandals and slippers all the time (hey..I live in Hawaii and I hate wearing shoes!) so my feet get dirty often. I cannot stand going into my bed with dirty (or even just a smidge dirty) feet. I'll go into the shower and clean em off.

So yeah--I guess I'm a cross of both maintenances.

newbie 05-16-2001 09:41 PM

Haha, hey Nick... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Yes, I got your email, thanks Nick! I will reply probably tomorrow--or hopefully at least by Monday (sorry!), I'm pretty swamped lately with all these tests and essays...defintely crunch-time for me. I have 18 days left for school, YAY! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

About you wearing cologne and caring about your hair--I think that is pretty cool, actually. Although I am low-maintenacne...I definitely make sure I present myself well, you know? Most guys I know at my school literally roll outta bed and go to school http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif. But a lot of them take the few minutes to comb/gel their hair to at least look presentable--and that makes a difference! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

And about your sister not wanting to go into MickeyD's--I understand, actually I insist on showering before I go anywhere...that is one thing I have to do!!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

P.S. Guess what...I am doing research for Soc again. Now it's on poverty and class differences (social strata?)! Alright, I really ought to go back to researching http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif!

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newbie 05-16-2001 09:46 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by OohTeenyWahine:
I carry hand sanitizer and a bottle of Evian atomizer so everything feels fresh. I also have blotting sheets so my face doesn't stay oily in the afternoons.
OTW, I also have blotting sheets and hand sanitizer! Can you describe the Evian atomizer for me? I have heard a lot of good about it--but don't know what it is exactly!

Oh yeah, about the makeup. These days I wear concealer (around my eyes--pulling late-nights give me really bad circles) and mascara. I hate spending more than like 5 minutes on makeup! Usually I spend about 2 minutes doing makeup, if I choose to wear any. I will only wear more for parties and formals http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif.

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Lil_G 05-16-2001 09:54 PM

No worries at all, focus on nailing those last exams...if i didn't choke at the end of this semester I would have finished better than a 66%...D,C+,C+,B, A-...but the high grade was in social stratification, so if you need any input on that I wouldn't mind, http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif
Right now I have a lot of free time on my hands...

James 05-17-2001 03:13 AM

I think we need to define high maintainance here so we can judge. I don't know what high maintainance for a boy would be. You come up with a criteria and I'll see if I match it.

For girls . . . You know you are most likely high maintainance, to us boys, if any of the following are true:
  • You have more than one or two "special instructions at meals.
  • You like to look good but it takes you longer than 45 minutes after a shower to get ready, or looking good means keeping your SO waiting past the agreed upon time.
  • You have ever slept carefully so as not to mess up your perfect hair because you know you are not going to shower before work/class the next morning.
  • Sometimes you like to be touched and sometimes you don't and you tend to be defensive about it. And assume we are mind readers.
  • Have the need to continue arguments with us that obviously started with another SO or parent.
  • You have an ex-boyfriend you spend a lot of time with, or talk to an awful lot without there ever being any significant amount of "no contact time".
  • You have a guy that is "just a friend" that meets the above criteria.
  • You are predictably moody.
  • You can only be photographed 1% of your waking life and only after SERIOUS modification. Read: Makeover.
  • You obsessively ask us whether you look fat, when you are obviously slightly (or more) overweight but either don't work out or don't work out intellegently.
  • You argue with us, or give us attitude as if we are obligated to put up with you or forgive you.
  • You never go anywhere without make-up and hair done.
  • You make a point to wear special designer clothing to the gym.
  • You get us in bar fights.
  • You look daggers at ladies looking at us, but have guys checking you out.
  • You raise your voice at us in public.
  • You make us leave early from something because YOU are not having a good time.
  • You sit there and try and convince us that we will like something we don't.
Here are some more no-no's but not quite sure whether they make you high meaintainance.
  • You use the "if you loved me" gambit.
  • You use the "its over if you don't somehow conform to my will" line.
  • You act as buzz kill when we get home from a night out and give us attitude.
  • You give us grief for looking at a girl walking by. Note: the human eye is attracted to movement,
  • You ever say the words "whatever" and "fine".

Well I think that is enough for now. Please add more.

I still can't think how boys could be high maintainance, we are so awesome.




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heatherh1981 05-17-2001 10:37 AM

Whenever, i am on campus in the hall in the hall, i dont care what i look like cause there is nothing but girls in there. Now on the other hand whenever its a friday night i take a bunch of time to get ready. Usually during class i take come tiem to get ready, but not as long as i do whens its the weekend. I want to look my best, during the week day. Now like on a saterday i dont care its no make-up and warm up pants. So im in between --low and it has its high-- ( I do take a shower every day and crap like that) Hehe
me

amycat412 05-17-2001 01:23 PM

oh, i am SO high maintenance its not even funny. LOL. i'm easy going about it, but high maintenance nonetheless.

Unregistered- 05-17-2001 01:27 PM

Newbie-

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KABillyMac 05-17-2001 02:31 PM

I'm so low maintenance its not even funny. If you want to shut me up just grab me by the ear, plop me down in front of the TV and turn on the Outdoorlife Network, The Golf Channel, or Sports Center. The only time I will make a sound is when I need beer.

Prep time > Khaki's, tie and sportcoat, shower and shaved=30 min. Jeans and Tshirt, shower = 17 min.


dc1 05-17-2001 03:21 PM

My friends all say I am high maintenance, but I really don't think so...

I can get ready to do anything in less than 1/2 hr (shower, shave, and dress). My dress code is primarily kahkis and t-shirt... sandles or flipflops...

BUT, I do have certain requirments that have to be met: I only use certain shampoo and body wash. I have to use a particular shave cream,face wash,and anitoxidant spf15 lotion for my face; all of which is only sold at Nordstroms mens department(my sales associate Debbie calls me whenever they get new products).
Oh, and I have to have neat pressed clothes. I iron about every day and my drycleaning bill runs around $80/month.

Oh, after reading this, maybe I am really highmaintenance, huh? Never noticed.

James 05-17-2001 03:49 PM

The secret ladies, and I notice no one responded to my list, which is the result of years of dating research and secret meetings/discussions in the Clandestine Organization of Manhood(COM for short), is to not let us SEE how high maintainance you are.

Take forever to get ready but be ready when we get there . . .

etc.



matthewg 05-17-2001 04:01 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by James:
The secret ladies, and I notice no one responded to my list,

James,
I am not a lady, of course, but I couldn't agree more on your list!!! It is terrific!!

I would like to add to the list the:

You want us to read your mind about what you would like to do or to have at practically any given moment together and are angry when we do not achieve this goal....

CRMSNTiDEGRL717 05-17-2001 06:59 PM

I dont know if im high maintenance or not, but im definately ,more that direction than low. im still in highschool, where MOST of the girls think they need to look perfect, and i certainly dont want them to think they're better than me http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif But i can certainly go somewhere w/o makeup and hair done, it just depends where. Ladies: do you ever feel that someone who's known you forever and thinks your attractive, will think you're ugly when he realizes what makeup does to you?? (if you even where makeup) Bye

newbie 05-17-2001 07:20 PM

James--LOL!!!! Actually I think your list was really good and funny! Then I'm defintely low-maintenance, according to your list, even when it comes to parties/formals. I do love glamming it up--but can never take more than 30 minutes prepping for a formal/party...I just don't have that tolerance! But I also apply makeup really fast, though. Though going to makeup parties with my girls is really fun--we can spend hours playing with makeup, but I could never spend that much time on an everyday basis.

KABillyMac--LOL! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif When I'm watching a baseball game--I am so content with everything! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif of course unless my Giants are losing...

OTW--thanks for the info! I might get it--it sounds like it'd be a good relaxer at the end of the day! I will keep you posted if I get it or not!

Nick--Thanks for your offer sweetie!! Actually, my final is probably gonna be on social stratification...so if I have any q's or probs, I know where to ask ya! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif I really like learning about this...it's interesting how some social classes, and how some governments, are so corrupt!

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33girl 05-17-2001 11:59 PM

High, Extremely high. But my boyfriend and my friends deal with it well.

True story: I was having a fight with a then-boyfriend on the phone, said "WhatEVER" to him, and he hung up on me and that was the end of the relationship! Dork.

KSig RC 05-18-2001 12:35 AM

OK James - this might lower the bar for high-maintenance a bit, but here's some more:

-You say "Pick me up at 6:30," which of course means that's when you'll get into the shower. This allows me some GREAT quality time with either your parents, roommate, sorority sisters, or any other uncomfortable social situation one could conjure. Good times.

-You get angry when we begin to plan on the above, and show up half an hour late - we're just trying to be more efficient here kids.

-You flirt w/ my friends b/c you're "Just being friendly" (which is ok), but go from laughing to livid if I even mention one of your friends in anything but a "ugh" manner - there's not even a way to respond to that!

-You get upset if, at a social function, your SO is away for any length of time with other people, because you're not getting the "us time" that would normal occur during private time - more people = more division of attention . . . right?

-You require PDA, and often. UGH.

-You agree to go out w/ the guys, knowing you'll be miserable, and then act miserable in a very overt manner . . . i think we all know what i'm talking about there!

OK - for the record, I'm not really bitter, and I'm an exceptionally low-maintenance guy, even by guy standards. I'm perfectly happy sitting at home watching the game or a chick flick, and also going out to something more formal. However, this usually ends up pairing me w/ a high-maint. lady, which usually ends up in much hair-pulling and makeup sex. Or something like that.

peace,
Rob

James 05-18-2001 01:06 AM

Oh god that is so true! I am LMAO.

Drives me nuts when the lady can be late but God forbid I am http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/mad.gif

Oh yeah as KsigRc said: WE are not allowed to walk away, but ladies are famous for: "wait for me here", while THEY go off and socialize . . . why do you do that stuff?

Its not exactly fair . . . although some of you are sneakier about it like, "watch my purse or coat until I get back". http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif

33girl, if I pick-up a lady and she has storm shadows on her face, and she replies "fine" to my how are you, I know I am in for a bad night.

If she says "fine, whatever" I know I'm doomed . . .Sometimes I just want to throw myself on the mercy of the court and say,

"I want to take this time to formally apologize for all sins past, present, or future that I may have committed, or will commit, that transgress against your basic tranquility, either through my overt actions, omissions, or acts of God. And I further pledge to make it up to you in the most expensive and romantic way possible."

"Now can we please enjoy the night out? Can we go straight from transgression to forgiveness and redemption?"

(Author's note: sometimes Redemption can feel really good http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif)

Ofcourse I have no doubt I would be grilled as to what sins I committed but didn't tell her or what sins I was planning to commit http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif



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Miami1839 05-19-2001 10:29 AM

Exactly, this topic is definitely suited for "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". Guys definitely have to read between the lines. From my experience guys are much more direct than women are. Which can be a good and bad thing for either side. *L* I find that my "maintenance" depends on who the girl is. If we gel then it really shouldnt be an issue. If either of us are high maintenance then I see it as a waste of time for either of us. I guess it all depends though. *L*

Kevin

gammazetagrl 05-21-2001 06:26 PM

i wear a tiny bit of makeup everyday but i wear it heavy when i go out especially on weekends and stuff. i would say im rpetty high maintenance in the sense that my clothes gotta look good and/or be expensive (ugh, vanity vanity!)...i also invest in estee lauder idealist skin refinisher and spotlight skin perfector...that stuff really works. =)

newbie 05-26-2001 05:18 AM

gammazetagrl, have you ever tried EL's Fruition? I have only tried a sample--and I love it! It made my skin look relaly "glowy," smooth, and really clear! But I don't know if it's worth the dough!

kdgirlie 05-26-2001 09:59 AM

by James's list i'm definatelly not high maintaince. Except that I hate tardiness , but that extents to myself as well.
But I would say I am some kinda high maintance. I sometimes spent 30 mins getting ready sometimes 5. I love to shop and make my friends buy that perfect outfit for the night. But I also go to class in a party shirt shorts and just chapstick.

juniorgrrl 05-30-2001 01:49 PM

I don't need maintenence - I'm naturally gorgeous http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Just kidding. I think I fall somewhere in the middle. As I posted in "Hair Poll" my hair is really easy to deal with. And I don't wear a ton of makeup. Just a few clinique products are all I need.

I'm high maintenence when it comes to clothes. I love to shop, and some mornings I'll go through 3 or 4 outfits before I find one that I like.

I'm also high-maintenence when it comes to eating. I can be a pain in the ass because I somehow learned the fat/calorie content for most foods and will look at something and go "I can't eat that, it has 400 calories and 60 grams of fat!"

RHOYAL22India 05-31-2001 12:08 AM

I am "SELF-MAINTENANCE" which is moderately high. What I am saying is, I really take out time to take care of me via 1. Meditation, 2. doing at least 2 good things for me everyday, 3.anything I can't afford I learn to do for myself (ie. nails, hair, and cooking interesting foods), and 4.anything I can afford "I GET" life is too short...and doing the 4 things mentioned above just makes you great to be around and obviously happier..

James 06-07-2001 09:30 PM

In the spirit of the question . . why not take this test and see if you really score what you think you are?
http://www.emode.com/emode/tests/maintenance.jsp

newbie 06-07-2001 09:42 PM

Interesting...thanks James...

Yep I'm still low-maintenance. (In all of the categories: Material, Emotional, Personal..)

What their definition of high-maintenance is:

To be high maintenance means that you need a lot of attention, whether it be physically, emotionally or materially. High maintenance individuals tend to put their own needs and desires above those of everyone else in their life, and expect other people to do the same.

There are many ways that someone can be high maintenance. The primary way is in romantic relationships or friendships. The major characteristics of someone who is high maintenance are:

In general, being demanding of other people, particularly significant others.
Setting unrealistic standards for others to meet.
Expecting other people to pay an inordinate amount of attention to you.
Expecting other people to do things for you without your having to ask.
Expecting other people to listen to you whenever you desire to speak.
Getting angry, jealous, or resentful when other people don't make you their top priority.
An excessive concern with physical appearance or material objects.
Being high maintenance may be fine for you, but it can be extremely difficult for the people in your life.

There are some things you can do to try to lower your maintenance requirements:

Occasionally let other people decide what the plans are going to be.
Don't ask or expect others to drop everything to meet your needs.
Don't worry so much about physical appearances.
Learn to be more self-sufficient.
Be more understanding if people don't meet your expectations.
Do things for other people, without them having to ask.

(from Emode.com)


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phisigQT 06-07-2001 09:46 PM

Oh I am definately HIGH. All those qualifications Rob posted...I meet them all. Very sad isn't it? I mean I should totally have something better to do then spend an hour and a half making sure i look perfect. Even on sweatshirt and jeans days i must have my hair and make-up sdone to perfection. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif I am trying to get a little better with it, but no one seems to complain so...

HeidiHo 06-07-2001 11:54 PM

Interesting quiz...
I'm one standard deviation above the mean for material and emotional, and one and a half standard deviations below the mean for personal.
Material- "Although you definitely appreciate a first-class lifestyle, you don't feel a constant need to indulge yourself. "
Emotional- "You like being a top priority in your partner's life, but you also respect his/her independence — good for you!"
Personal- "You definitely care about how you present yourself, but probably not enough to let your appearance dictate what you do, where you go, and who you spend time with."

Seems like a pretty good balance to me http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif
Heidi

juniorgrrl 06-08-2001 12:44 AM

Just like I thought, somewhere in the middle http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Material Upkeep

Although you definitely appreciate a first-class lifestyle, you don't feel a constant need to indulge yourself. Sure, it's fun to spoil yourself with fancy dinners or designer clothes every once in a while, but you probably don't need everything in your life to be top of the line all the time. Congratulations! You know how to indulge yourself the right way — in moderation

Emotional Upkeep

You like being a top priority in your partner's life, but you also respect his/her independence — good for you! Sure, it's important for you to feel valued and appreciated in your relationship, but your expectations for your significant other tend to be realistic and attainable. You definitely know how you want to be treated, but you don't think the only fulfilling relationship is one filled with constant doting.

Personal Upkeep

You definitely care about how you present yourself, but probably not enough to let your appearance dictate what you do, where you go, and who you spend time with. Sure, you take pride in your appearance, but you know that some things are more important than looks. That's a great attitude — looks like you've achieved a very healthy balance between narcissism and neglect.



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