Why do guys??
 

Why is it I will date a guy seriously for a few months and then he will break up with me for no real reason and then within two months sends me e mails or calls me to tell me he messed up and wants me back and that I am everything he always wanted he just didn't know it.. blas blah blah!!
Why in the world would they break up with me for no reason, tell me they love me and want me back, but they always ALWAYS do it when I have just started to deal with being without them and have begun to date other people.
Men, UGH!!!!!


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If your going to go greek, why not be a goddess?

LOL I thought it was just me. Here's my take on it-- women grieve and deal with it immediately. Guys don't. About the time we're moving past it, they are starting thr process--hence the calls, etc.

Heck, I've got one I can set my watch by. Every six months for the past 7 years he reappears. What is THAT?

Hey,
It's not just guys who do it to girls. Girls do it to guys too. I've been through a couple experiences like that, when all of a sudden and ex has some sort of awakening and calls me well after the fact, wanting to get things going again...after dumping me for reasons she couldn't explain. So it's ok, it some of us guys know just how crappy it feels too.

KSigkid,

I'm with you on that one. It definitely can go both ways.

In some states it's known as stalking lol! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

LOL vanda.

hmmm can you call it that when you're ALSO somewhat hung up on them? ha ha ha

Okay and another thing, why do guys talk to you all night, buy you a drink, dance with you and have an absolute great time laughing and talking and then. NOT ASK FOR YOUR NUMBER!!!! AAAAAGGGHH!!!!

we get nervous

well those who don't take chances cannot reap the rewards. sorry to sound preachy, but damn, if we've been hanging out w you all night and having a good time, we're not going to refuse to give you our numbers.

guys, bite the bullet and ask. we're all nervous. but we're not going to get anywhere if we don't get over it.

As I said before in another thread, Ladies should ask out a guy at least once to know what guys actually go through.

Amy, I see what your sayin http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

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It's not such a bad idea to make the first move and give the guy your number or suggest that he give you a call sometime...as a previous poster said, sometimes guys get nervous. I definitely get nervous whether I'm going to look like a jerk by asking some girl for her number when she has absolutely no interest. If you want to, make the first move...nothing to lose.

so guys, tell us-- do you reallllly prefer it when we're mysterious and hard to get? Inquiring minds want to know.

Nope. We think you are stuck up snobs when you do that. The only reason we go after girls when they are like that is so we can brag. It is the worst way to meet someone, espically when you are just getting to know them.

Amy,

If your saying do I like girls that are easy? That is an emphatic No for me LOL. I definitely am not attracted to a lady that falls for any guy or has been around. I definitely go for ladies that are straight with me. However, I do have less respect for those that play games. Thats just how I feel though. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Kevin

[This message has been edited by Miami1839 (edited March 31, 2001).]

OK, then why do guys get all weird when we make a move? Y'all say you want it, but my friends and I have defintely found that letting a guy steer it in the very beginning seems to work better.

Okay. Do not come on too strong, but don't act too cool either. Like, don't totally ingore us, or your setting yourself up to be played. But don't be like "come on you know you want me" either. See, it is not easy being on this side, now is it. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/tongue.gif

Amy and Billy, I think your both right http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif
I think its ok for a lady to be mysterious or reserved in the beginning, but Billy has a good point that we just dont like to be played or given mixed signals. I admit thats true for either sex though. I guess thats just part of the dating game. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Kevin

Its cool to be mysterious if you don't act all disinterested. That's not good.

Yeah cool and mysterious . . . but add humour and eye contact. The trick to being coy is to keep US interested by sending clear and positive signals while being evasive enough that we don't know WHEN we'll get together even though we know we definitely WILL (even if it never happens), because the signals are correct but our excitement mounts because the timing is in YOUR hands. However, since you are trying to commincate some type of message that is tied between available but not easy, which is complicated . . . then as the communicator its your responsibility that We get YOUR hint. Hell you already know where we are coming from . . . we're talking to you and buying you drinks.


There's a definite ART to this stuff that I manage flubbing a lot. I should definitely teach the subject rather than have the job (those that can do do those that can't teach) http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif



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