How do you respond....
 

I'm not sure as to how I feel about this. It was said in a 'haughty' way.

My question is, how do you respond to a Eastern Star that calls you soror :confused:

I almost stepped out of myself and sent her a private message....but I'm calm now :o

Don't know if this helps or not, but at the 2004 Boulé in Nashville, the presidents of Sigma Gamma Rho, Delta Sigma Theta and Zeta Phi Beta were all there at one of the meetings, and they all called then President Soror Linda White "Soror". She responded in kind.

My sorors are members of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. That's about it.

Many Fab4 women call each other SisterSoror or SisterGreek (I don't). However, the Eastern Star is taking it to a whole 'nother level :confused:

Interesting thread. I've heard of SisterGreek and Anti-Soror, but I've never heard of SisterSoror. Different strokes for different folks.

First of all, since the Eastern Stars are not a greek organization, I don't even know why she would be using the term. Must be a new thing. My great aunt is a very high ranking member in IL and I have never heard such nonsense come out of her mouth. Just look at her like she's crazy and keep going. LOL.

SC

Is the person a member of AKA? Did we get that established? Maybe the lady recently crossed. :confused:

If she isn't a member, I'd look at her all cross eyed (as folks say) and move on. :p

Really?!?!
I have never heard SisterSoror and I only use SisterGreek on GC. If it were a universal thing that would be different, but since it is not I think that Soror should only be used for members of ones own Sorority.

If someone called me SisterGreek IRL I wouldn't be offended and would return the favor.


I think it is strange when men call me Soror. This Alpha that teaches at my schoool said, "Good morning Soror" I was like:eek::confused: and I just said Hello, but I thought that was strange!!!

Well It was on this website called blocksavvy....She sent me a comment that said "Welcome soror!" ....I looked at her profile and I saw Alpha Kappa Alpha in nothing. So I responded with "Soror?!?!?! Huh?" She deleted my comment but proceeded to put up art with an Eastern Star teaching D9 sororities. Again this was done in a haughty way....but I'll leave her be. She's crazy though.

As an member of OES I know for a fact that we don't address each other as "soror" anyway. So I'm :confused: myself.

As everybody already said, give her the :confused: face and keep it moving!

I've heard some say that the Masons were the 1st "real fraternity" so maybe that's why she feels the entitlement to say Soror.

I dunno. . .

Okay - going back to these "I-don't-know-what-I-wanna-take-but-I'll-hold-onto-the-schedule-and-fake-like-I'm-looking-through-it" students.

All the Alphas I know call me "Soror" and all the AKAs I know call Alphas "Frat"...I didn't know that was different in different places. :)

Same here Soror. I actually like being called "soror" by frat.

me too.:o

I'm always very careful about that. Since I came in through an alumni chapter, I am mostly around grad chapter ladies. And you never know how or when someone was brought in, so I wait for the woman to call me frat first before I call her soror. Last thing I want is to be clowned by an old soror. :(

I'm also the same way about hugging AKAs I don't know. I ALWAYS extend my hand first. Sometimes the ladies will look at me with the screw face and say "We fam, fam hugs!" But I know my frat be getting their grope on sometimes, so I make sure to err on the side of a gentleman.

Yes, you do have a point. I am in a grad chapter now and none of the older Sorors (we have some OLD Sorors) call Alphas Frat, but some of the younger Sorors do...maybe it is a generational thing.

All the undergraduate Alphas in the chapter of at my school use to and still say Soror but my BF who is from that chapter will not. He is very anal about keeping the two orgs very separate. It took him a year before we could get the combo keychain!:D

I like the AKA/Alpha bond too, although I can do without the groping, lol. I don't address just any Alpha that way though- I have to like you or have a good feeling about you.

I have heard a lot of Eastern stars refer to their sistars, but soror is a new one.

Most of the Alphas I know either say "Sis" or "Baby Sis". Sometimes there will be an occasional "soror" but it seems odd for a dude to be saying "soror". I usually refer to Alphas as "Pham".

I am often called "Soror" by Alphas, and I don't mind it at all.

That is basically how I feel. I don't think anything is wrong with it, but it just seems a little odd to me.

We called Alphas frat and they called us sorors, I work with an Alpha and he calls me soror and I call him frat, thats how it was at my HBCU.

We also usually in Pan-Hel meeting would refer to people in other organizations as soror in the third person.

I agree with you Sistar, we don't call each other Sorors.

I don't understand...:confused: Soror, can you give an example?

I was responding to the main topic
 

Hey, how are doing? I was responding to one of my Eastern Star Sistars, I thought it would have showed it. I was saying that I never heard of a Eastern Star sister calling a member of a sorority a soror. We don't even call each other sorors.:)

Phi Skee
 

I had opportunity to meet Sister White last year in DC. My chapter brother asked her about the appropriateness of calling AKAs sorors. Sister White stated it was protocol but only men of Alpha Phi Alpha should call the women of Alpha Kappa Alpha sorors.

In NC Alphas and AKAs refer to each other as frat and soror. Unless I'm very close to an AKA, in public I often say this my sister. However, if someone asks me if I know xyz I do say she is my soror. Ultimately, I guess it is a regional thing. In fact, during my travels many sisters through up the pinkie and if I'm not focusing I will only smile and say hello which is most of the time. However, I will display the alpha sign when I'm relaxed.

Hmm for example the national president of Zeta Phi Beta worked on our campus whenI was in school, so if we were in Pan-hel meeting we might say their president "Soror Carpenter", maybe it was just SU? We did not use it often but sometimes in cases like that we would.

Although I was not in the NPHC as an undergrad, the same applied there at public events. For example, at the annual "Meet the Greeks" everyone on the program was given the title "Soror" or "Frater."

Interesting, thanks.:)

I actually had a young man address me that way earlier this year. I was totally confused, but I said Hey and kept it moving. *shrug*

I'm my chapter's representative to the NPHC, and this is how we refer to each other during meetings.

I refer to members of Phi Beta Sigma as my Frat, and am called Soror nikki1920 by them in return.

This is definitely interesting...

A little history about sistersoror.

In 1988 or 1989 the D4s sponsored a Black Women Political Action forum in DC. It was decided there to call each other sistersoror. The forums were then replicated in various cities across the country and the term sistersoror continued to be used.

When I first came on GC, I used the term but noticed it wasn't reciprocated. Then I saw folx saying sistergreek, so that is what I now say. I actually prefer it, because I do think that the term soror should be reserved for members of the same sorority.

BTW, at the Klave this summer the heads of the D4 did not refer to each other as soror. Usually they would say greek sister or sistergreek.

As an Eastern Star and AKA I can totally agree that Eastern Stars call each other 'sisters' and AKAs say 'sorors.' Now I have heard the term 'distant sand' in which two different greek organizations cross around the same time or in the same year. Has anyone else heard that?

Please review your official documents. Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. official stance on such terms have been changed. On GC we are unable to discuss the reasons.

I have only been referred to as Soror to my Sisters' of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc.
I have been called Sister Greek by other sorority members but never Sister Soror. Maybe these things are generational like someone previously suggested.

*waving* Hi my SiStar!!! :)

I have heard Greeks that crossed (late 1980s and 1990s) the same semester call each other Pseudo (as in pseudo sand). BUT, as AKA_Monet stated, the D9's stance on such terms and activities has changed. That's just what I heard back in the day.

The only time I use the term Soror is when I am addressing a Gamma Sig, ain't that right, Soror Gammagirl? :p

I do use discretion on which Gamma Sigs I address as such, 'cause not all of them are down with the 25/52 program and those "sorors" (:D) may wind up looking at me all sideways and whatnot.

As a Kappa, I don't address any given sorority member as "soror". At best I address them as "Greek" (read: What's up, Greek?). Besides, it's a unisex term that can be used to address male and female Greek members. Besides, we love 'em all so much that we can't settle for just one organization (Crimson and Cream, Diamonds and Pearls, Indiana Love, or Z Phi Nu Pi, it's all brother and sister love AFAIC).

Inside the org, I casually address brothers as "Nupe" or "Phi", unless they hold an office. I seldom address any brother as "Frat". Nupe just seems more personal and unique anyway.

If she said it in a condescending way, I would have COMPLETELY ignored her.

ok i have never heard of "sister greek". do you said that to someone that is not in the same greek as you??? huh I am so confused.

You got it!:D

There was this Greek at work who kept skee-weeing me. I told him to stop nicely several times and he didn't. Finally I said if you don't stop that I'm going to kick your a**. He said "oh I didn't know you didn't like that, my mother was an AKA". I said "well she should have taught you better". Since then he has made a point of calling me by my name.

A non-Greek saw me and a Soror talking and said "Oh the pretty AKAs and other stuff about AKAs about 10 times. When we appeared annoyed he said "My Auntie is 76 years old, she was a Founder so I can mess with ya'll!!!" I asked him her name, and politely informed him that she was not only not a Founder, but that our beloved Sorority will be celebrating 100 years. He mumbled "well if she ain't a Founder she BIG IN AKA!!!".

I was in the local NPHC and the president a male Greek (not Alpha) kept calling everybody Soror and Frat. I told him to stop calling me Soror and he said according to the NPHC guidelines we are to refer to each other as such.

I don't call anyone Soror but "the pretty girls" and I feel funny when Alphas call me Soror, with the GayKAs business and all that. I do like it when they call me Sister, though.