Desperation!! Please help =[
 

Forget it.

Tips:
1. People don't usually read long paragraphs.

2. You called him a 'kid' are you too a kid?

3. If it is runing your life then I think you have your answers.

4. Welcome to GC

He's just not that into you.

Move on.

Run in the opposite direction...quickly.

When people show you who they are, you need to believe them!!!

He's treating you like this because you let him....

And lots of other Dr. Phil- and Oprah- isms.

PS--coming to an online message board is desparate. Go out and make some friends.

Gah.
 

Geez you people are crude. What's the point of online boards then if people don't use them for advice? Jesus. Forget I even asked.

I fail to see that anything said was crude. You asked for advice and you got it. FYI, I think everyone is right. Why hang around something that is ruining your life? I don't understand when people ask for advice and then get mad if they don't like it. That is the best we can give you based on what you told us because WE DONT KNOW YOU. Frankly, I think that when it comes to situations like this...ask someone you know.


And yeah I don't get the "kid" thing either. I read it and immediately thought "teacher and student" or something like that.:rolleyes:

why do i feel like the title of this thread is what the caption reads over this poor child's head?


ok seriously NatRae27 - why come to GC for relationship advice? i mean we'd give it to you but im wondering is this the first place you thought to run to? im so :confused:

No, actually this is the last place I thought to come to, I was just surfing and found this out of interest...and decided to post my problem just for the heck of it.

And we both just graduated high school this year, is it that big of a deal to refer to him as a kid? My goodness...people paid attention to that more than my actual issue.

And, it's not that I don't like the advice, I agree that I need to move on, I was simply hoping to find some people who could relate to me and tell me HOW they moved on, because I have problems doing so, I can't just drop my feelings for the guy, despite all he's done.

I don't want any of you to think I'm a rude person or anything, I'm actually very nice! Ha.. it's just that I feel like I have no one to turn to anymore because all my friends, who all have very successful, happy relationships of their own mind you, seem to not understand how I feel because they haven't been through anything like this. So they all just tell me to go and find someone else, as though I can just snap my fingers and forget about someone I like so much and find someone better...

Idk if that makes any sense but hopefully someone knows what I mean.

Do you plan on going to college? Believe me, once that gets started, you won't care about what happened in high school. You have plenty of time to move on.

Yeah, I do plan on going to college. It can't come soon enough either!
I do feel like I'll be able to get my mind off him when college rolls around, too, so that will definitely be a good thing...

Why do you like this guy SOOO much? He doesn't seem to treasure you at all, and that makes me wonder about your self-esteem. At your age, you need someone who will respect you, want to spend time with you and someone who you can share experiences with--not the boy you described.

Holding yourself in the highest esteem is not conceited--as a young woman, think of yourself as a princess and that only a true prince will get your attention. This is especially important if you are going to go to college--you don't want to just going out with anyone who will treat you as this guy did, because that is how reputations are formed.

I say spend some time getting to know yourself and doing things that celebrate who you are as a young woman. Stop worrying about those that don't appreciate you for the princess that you are.

When you do go to college, get involved! Join clubs, make friends, and be serious about school. Shake off the drama of high school.

I have a question for all the regular GCers:

These new crop of kids poppin up in here left and right, they were born sometime between 1987-1991....

Like, I remember those years distinctly... Which I can accept makes me OLD ;)

But are they a bunch of wussies cry baby wannabes massive MTV flux Oprahisms raised on too much Ritalin and never ass whooped for being bad?

I mean, like hayle, what do we really owe them because they choose not to understand? They are disrespectful, trite, mean-spirited, simple-minded and spoiled.

What is going to happen when the chit hits the fan about life and it ain't all what it is crapped up to be? Are they jumpers or injectors?

We are getting a lot of kids screaming in here and we are asked to congenial and nice and helpful. But there is some much stupidity, assininity and inanity I can take when I realize that we cannot do favors for the permenently impaired...

It isn't just this one, the kid that posted the dumb stuff on Greek Life, those that post the legitimacy of their drive by organizations based on poor research and gross assumptions.

I only ask because I am encountering these attitudes in the courses I teach at a large-scale University...

Please explain it to me: here or via PM?

I would like to think I am still "hip" in my own way... :rolleyes:

Monet...no disrespect, but...WHAT??

Monet--you're still hip, but this generation of kids has been raised and sheltered by parents who demand everything for them, and so they have a sense of entitlement that may not be deserved. Their relationships with their friends are online and they communicate in "text lingo" in all forums--forgetting that others were not raised the same way. They expect us to adjust to them, and not vice versa.

I've done some research and I, too, am worried that this generation will be incapable of making decisions for themselves. I see that when the going gets tough, they give up and find something else to do with their time that they consider "more valuable". At the same time, I see them doing lots of great things which makes me feel better and they seem to place academics and jobs as a priority at school--although they usually do things differently that I would. :)

Ok...this is a major derailment! :O) But the point is--its not you.

Dude, I didn't know you teach at an university. I bet there's never a dull moment in class...

I sould have quoted the OP's full message.


To the OP
Seriously.....when you get to college you will see that you will be sooo busy that you will lose interest in the 'kid'

The reason we were shocked at the word 'kid' is b/c normally people don't refer to thier SO or not so SOs as kids.

Thanks Heather...

I agree and I see these kids nowadays Text messaging and "iPoding" their lives away, devoid of ANY social interaction. Bar someone from truely interacting with me beyond 5 seconds... These will be our future physicians and lawyers. With absolutely a complete loss of historical reference or respect for it.

I have even had kids come crying to me because they "hear" or "see" some things that are "socially vile" and do not get why it would ever happen... The funny part is I am explaining it to them like my mother explained it me...

The thing is no one will adjust for them and they will flunk school. The academic programs in which I participate are already noticing that they cannot do collegiate level of work... Even explained about their academic pre-college background, makes no difference to college professors in nearly all fields. Even in Art or Music, one still has to write essays...

It's like we will be losing a generation to mediocrity for their lack of college prep...