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what should you avoid doing when pledging?

WOW, to an open question!

First if you do not like them and just because they may have a big name, or are big on campus, don't.

If you find a fit, then join!:) Life will be better!

College is such a short term compared to life after college.:D

The very best of luck in your Greek Quest!:D;)

I take it you're a collegiate woman from your screen name. Are you considering joining an NPC or NPHC organization? There may be differing advice, depending on this.

OMGZ TEH UPCOMING AWESOMENESS ON THIS THREAD...

(unless some mod comes and busts the party)

I take it from her screen name she's also black, has shoulder length hair, 5'5'', age 19, and wears a c-cup.

: sound of joke flying over tld221's head :

Ok, so first, be sure you ALWAYS wear pink panties because they DO check. If you're not wearing them, you won't be allowed to wear ANY undergarments for the rest of pledging. Also, DO NOT under any circumstances let the goat die. They'll give you one to take care of until initiation. Also, you should try to keep it as healthy as possible because you're going to have to drink its blood.

do not ignore your good common sense! don't talk smack about anybody behind their backs no matter how much you dislike them. i promise i always comes back to bite you in the behind. most importantly if you are completely miserable dont go through with initiation or your college experience will be that much worse.

You thought a lil hard on your joke...it was almost funny but i couldn't seem to laugh.

thanks for TRUE advice that will most likely help me in the future (axid angel)
and to whom it may concern i'm still in highschool...2 more dull years if you must know
I plan on joining a NHPC organization

There's no such thing as an NHPC organization.

If I were you, I'd worry about the 2 more years of high school before worrying about joining a sorority. If and when that day comes, make sure you bring your snarky attitude to the interest meeting.

What sorority are you interested in, by the way?

Oh this should be good...*sits back and watches*

sorry that was a typo i meant NPHC
and i respect your opinion about worrying about the present instead of the future & all but i have my mind set on this and it's not taking away from my education neither has it become a hinderance, so why should furthering my knowledge about something i have my mind set on be pushed aside?
also i dont mean to come off as having a "snarky" attitude...my guards were just up from reading other posts where people have serious questions and are answered with useless & petty remarks

i'd rather keep this to myself...some things are better left unsaid

Kudos to you for having read other posts, but read a bit more and see if you can figure out why "serious questions" sometimes get answered with useless and petty remarks on this site. There is a reason for it, and it'll go a long way in making this site useful to you in your attempts to glean information about maybe joining an NPHC group when you get to college. If you do this, you will truly be wise.

Probably because people are irritable and in bad moods. I doubt jovial happy people are snarky very much at all.

By the way, thats a general comment. I only skimmed this thread. So I haven't really gotten a snarkiness rating from it.

OK, cut the poor girl some slack, folks! :)

If you've got two years to go in high school, then worry about high school, not sororities. You can't actively pursue sorority membership right now anyway. Focus on your grades, extracurriculars, community service - make yourself an attractive candidate for both colleges and sororities.

Ms. dreamingbeauty,

What my lovely GC cohorts are trying to say is you aren't going to get the answer to your question here, ESPECIALLY since your hopes are set on an NPHC organization. You have at least two and a half years to get yourself together. As I'm sure you know, the D4 sororities value scholarship and service, among other things. I suggest you start, and continue, there. Most importantly, get to know a member of the organization of your choice who lives in your community so you can direct your questions to her.

But of course, had you checked out the boards of the NPHC sororities, you'd know all that. :):rolleyes::)

12dn94dst

Nope. Silliness deserves lighthearded responses. Anyway, to everyone giving useful responses, no one has answered her question. She's not asking about what to do to be noticed or what to do when pursuing an organization. She asked "what should you avoid doing when pledging?" I don't know that this question has ever truly been answered on GC.

I think the problem is the way the question is worded. It is far easier to discuss what you should do than what you should not.
For instance, I could say that a big mistake to make in pledging would be burning down the chapter house. Technically I'm right, but how helpful is that?
I think the op should check out the threads on what TO DO for recruitment and pledging - and then get ready to do the absolute best she can in school and in her community for the next two years.

Valid point re: burning down the house, but considering the OP is considering an NPHC organization, the recruitment and pledging threads here aren't really going to be accurate to what she may experience if she is selected to pursue membership.

I can safely say "no", the question is not going to get an answer here, either. We do not, and have not in 6 or 7 years, discussed anything related to membership intake. I doubt that is going to change.

....I would definitely avoid urinating in your house entryway, going to pledge meetings on pcp, slapping your housemom, stealing your president's car and running it off a bridge, running a coke ring out of your room.....

you know..........things like that.

Macallan25, I hope you didn't have to learn these things through personal experience. :)

Dreamingbeauty,

There are several women's Sorority umbrella organizations. The 2 largest ones are National Panhellenic Conference (NPC) and the National PanHellenic Council (NPHC)--that also collaborates with all the historically Black greek lettered fraternities.

I am telling you this because, as you stated, you would like to join a NPHC affiliate. 12dst gave you some very good insight, please examine them. However, your PRIMARY ISSUE is to finish high school, get accepted into college and GO TO COLLEGE because that is extremely important for all NPHC affiliates.

The second issue is NPC has membership recruitment that is a bidding process. They generally accept quite a few freshmen, whereas, NPHC has a historically collegiate merit-based membership that generally accepts sophomores and is lifelong after graduation. There is an area for membership recruitment on the board. You are free to peruse the topics.

Who do you know in your friend, family, church, etc. that influenced you to want to do this? How can searching this site help you? What do you actually know about college and greek life? Just asking.

Just wanted to point out that NPC SHOULD be lifelong as well.

+1 for not taking the bait! LOL.:rolleyes:

Remember that the greek community is very small. If you make unflattering comments about XYZ to ABC, you will make yourself look bad to both chapters.

Also try to represent the best of WHO YOU ARE. Don't make things up, or pretend to be something you aren't. If you aren't the most athletic, don't play along and act like you are. Show your strengths, but don't be afraid to laugh at yourself a little either. When intermurals came up in conversation, I remember telling one girl that I ran like a duck. (It's true!) but that I loved playing volleyball. This made us both laugh. (She was later my big sister!)

Remember that the girls in the chapters are a little nervous too. They want to make sure that they are making a good impression as much as you are wanting to make a good one.

If it's off color, don't say it. If you wouldn't repeat it in church... don't say it. I'm not saying that you have to act prudish, but rush isn't the time to tell "band camp" stories. :D

It IS a competition, and you ARE being judged. But guess what, you are judging them too. IMPRESSIONS matter. If you don't bathe or brush your hair... it MATTERS. You don't have to be physically perfect. (Who is?) but do the best you can with what you have. Show a graceful poise.

AND BY ALL MEANS USE MOUTHWASH. (Sorry, rushed a girl with FOUL breath once.... :p )

NPC organizations also are lifelong after graduation.

Haha..........no. Did steal the president's car and took it on a trip with some guys......didn't crash it off of a bridge though.

I did it myyyyyy wayyyyyy
 

Is it bad that everytime I see this thread title, I want to start singing . . ."I've made a few . . ."

WOW, a major posting thread for a H S girl looking toward her future.:rolleyes:

Guess from this, she will not want to join anyone now!

DA!

If she decides not to join a sorority based on a messageboard, I'd say she did the sorority a favor.

I am sure with help unneeded she may make that decision!:rolleyes:

Your help is always welcomed?:rolleyes:

You are not so positive are you? Do you have a problem?

I agree!

I think she was referring to how did the screen name imply a college student?

Yoda, is that you?

No matter what type of organization you join, I think this idea is good to keep in mind while pledging/participating in a new member program:

You are a Public Relations Ambassador for your organization, and the way you speak and behave is a direct reflection back on the entire organization. Keep this in mind in how you treat others, your personal appearance and your behavior-- whether in a classroom or at a nightclub.

So you shouldn't speak poorly of others, talk about someone behind their backs when you could just politely discuss any personal issues with them, discuss private business with those who have no business being party to that business, and you shouldn't act or behave in a way that causes anyone to question your morals and ethics.

Basically: be nice and have fun, and know that your actions and the actions of your sisters reflect back on you and them equally.

This is officially your best post ever. No other post will ever be as good. You cannot top this Mac.