whats your relationship with your big/little?
 

I was just wondering if you guys are close to your big/lil?

Me and my big never really clicked but when we see each other at the house we make small talk but the only time we hung out was a week after reveal and we ate out (which she brought three of her non greek friends with her) I always thought that she was dissapointed that i was her little

I never had a great relationship with my "big," but I have a great relationship with one of my "lils" who will be my maid of honor at my wedding next year. (I am also a bridesmaid in her wedding.) I think it is up to both of you to make the best of your Big/Lil relationship.

I agree... out of my three lils, two of them I am very close with and the other I am still pretty close with. She jokingly calls herself my "neglected child." She was the most independent of the three and knew more sisters coming into pledging, than my other two. As a result, I spent less time hanging out with her one-on-one while she pledged. (Although we have spent lots of time together since then!)

One thing I have noticed that other sisters tended to adopt lils who really are neglected by their bigs. Sometimes the big sisters who aren't close with their lils are imitiating the relationship they had with their bigs, so if your big sister doesn't call you to hang out, call her! Maybe she's shy or feels awkward just calling you to hang out...

i'm close as i can be with my littles. i never had a little as an undergrad, but through a program National runs, I have littes in new AST colonies (one's a chapter now!). They are long distance relationships, but very good ones at that!

My big is one of my best friends to this day. My pledge mom, on the other hand, despises me. So you win some, you lose some.

I have two littles and one of them I am closer with. She is now President, the other is the President leaving office (I was President right before her.... my whole line is on exec... yay) anyway, I am closer to one and her little than to my other, but my g.little and my g.g.little on the other side i'm close with.
I hope that made sense... lol

Here is a link to another thread from the alumni forum which asks a similar question.

My little sisters make me smile every day (eventhough they probably have no idea as one is off and married and busy being awesome, and I'm so busy with work that I only see the other about once a week or so). They are seriously the two most increadable women I've ever had the privledge to know.

The two of them are twins from the same PC and are different as different can be, but we're the happiest family there ever was! we're also probably the smallest :P it's just the three of us and since my one little that's still in college is probably not going to take a little, a happy 3 it shall stay for all time.

My (unofficial, of course) big brother is a TKE and he is probably (aside from my parents) the single most positive infulence in my life thus far.

My (again unofficial) Fraternity littles are all increadable people who I make every effort to catch up with as often as I can (I'll admit, I'm better with some of them then others).

With all that awesome, I don't even need a big sister :D

I'm not at all close to my big. I never once talked to her during recruitment, and she was assigned as my big on Bid Day. We've always had a pleasant enough relationship, but it stops at that. It didn't really help things that she took a second little in the pledge class after mine and was an infinitely better big to her than she ever was to me - for example, she didn't even offer to take me to the house for new member pinning as the bigs were instructed to do; I had to go with another new member who lived on my hall and her big. She and her other little went out and did stuff all the time during her pledge period. Every time I see her leave messages on her other little's wall that say "You're the best little EVER!!" or "I miss you sooo much!" it makes me a little sad. Her other little is much more bubbly than I am and their backgrounds are more similar (though I don't think she ever talked to this one during recruitment, either, and I know they didn't know each other before) so I guess they just had more in common, but it was always just a little frustrating when my pledge sisters would get invites from their bigs to do things all the time and I hardly ever even got an IM from mine.

Now, my own little and I have a much better relationship, although I still wouldn't characterize it as particularly close. I spoke to her during the first round of recruitment and I preffed her, so despite our big/little relationship being set in stone on Bid Day, I did know a little bit more about her than my big knew about me. We have a lot more in common than I do with my big, and I also made a great effort to be the big that I had hoped my own big would be. We were very friendly with each other at functions and around the house and interacted easily - I never felt like I was making small talk with her like I always did with my big. Unfortunately, we rarely made plans to hang out outside of that once her pledge period was over (she's also extremely involved in other campus activities, which makes it rather difficult to get ahold of her). However, I definitely feel that I will keep in touch with her now that I've graduated...not so much with my big.

I am glad to say, though, that my chapter has shifted away from assigning bigs and little on Bid Day and now gives the new members and sisters a couple weeks to get to know each other instead. Still not perfect, but it seems to have resulted in better pairings.

My little was not worthy. It was tough, but I decided he and my organization weren't made for each other.

my big is my best friend. granted i've known him for a decade. and me and my little are pretty close. he's a good kid

That's a crappy feeling.

My big bro and I were close when he was in college, he was the Commander (Prez) when I pledged, but after he graduated he distanced himself from the chapter on a social level. He became our Chapter Advisor and works as an engineer MUCH more serious and professional than his pledge bro (who graduated with him) who run around our house 4 days a week drinking. I know my big still loves the house, he just feels awkward hanging out with us. We go to dinner about twice a month and still talk all the time, but it's not the same as it was when he was undergrad. Maybe when I go alum that will change.

My first lil bro just finished freshman year and is totally a freshman. He's unsure of himself a lot and turns to me for older brother style advice, which is awesome because that's what big/lil is all about. He's serving on exec with me (we're the only big/lil set on exec right now lol) as Social Chairman. He's a good kid.

My second lil bro...I wouldn't say he's not worthy because the active chapter thought the guy was great. He decided to leave school and join the Air Force. He was big on sacrifice and service and felt he couldn't live with himself unless he joined the armed forces and sacrificed for the country. I still talk to him and told him that while he's not my lil bro anymore he's still my friend and I'd be more than happy to recommend him for a bid if he decided to go back to college somewhere.

me, my big, and my little are all serving on exec right now as well. actually i think everyone in my family tree has served on exec. POWER TREE.

My big and I never ended up close, which is a pity, because she was my rush crush (and vice versa I think). We're both busy people and didn't have a lot of time to hang out, i think.

I adore my littles (I have two, plus an adopted one). We have a pretty good relationship. One had to leave the chapter, one is out of school for the semester, and my adopted one better come back in fall or there will be some serious beatings! :p I still wish i could be a more-involved big, but in my old major (nursing) I was very busy with class. I've changed majors, so hopefully I have more time to spend with them now.

My big became a born-again Christian and denounced Greek life and our university soon after graduation.

My little deactivated.

I am closer to other women in my chapter now, who should have been my big/little! But, our chapter didn't push that as much as others did...

That's a shame. One of my pledge brothers went out with an AOII for over a year who was a born-again Christian and she wound up graduating and embracing her sorority and university.

I suppose it all depends on how much decadence one can handle eh?

Not at all. I did the right thing.

He rushed after being commanded to do so by his Alpha Xi Delta girlfriend. He never really became a part of his pledge class. He was a little older -- and he was a high level worker on Democratic campaigns at the time. i guess he figured he was better than us. His social skills were also lacking.

How he got booted was one of my better moments actually :) I could tell you about that, but I'd have to kill you.

My first big sister actually left the sorority, and I've never been quite sure why--so don't feel bad about not having a good relationship with yours. However, my adopted big (who also happened to be in the same "family") is wonderful. She has always been fun and driven, which I admire. I was very lucky that she and her big sister took it upon themselves to keep me in their little group. My little and I have a unique relationship. She was one of my bridesmaids at my wedding, she became president of the chapter, and she is just overall a wonderful person, also someone I admire. I try to keep in touch as much as I can. My grandlils are both awesome and completely different, which is great. Now, my great grandlils are now sophomores in college (I've been graduated for two years), but I still keep in contact with them, due to the wonders of facebook and myspace. I hope to keep in contact, at least, with the "family line." :D

my big and i get along very well. she's not my best friend or anything, but we share a similar sense of humor and connect over many aspects of our lives.

my "big" (using the NPC/NIC/IFC terms here) and i talk every day, almost anyway. we get along fine. we're a lot alike as far as career goals and maturity levels - she's a good 7, 8 years older than me and i'm kinda old for my age so it balances out.

now my "little," well, we arent that close at all. she's always in school or at work and she lives quite far from me. and on the off chance that we are together, we have nothing to talk about aside from school and work. its not a bad relationship per se, but not the ideal.

My Little and I are still close. Even though He's busy been a Bank Manager as well as Being Vice-President of Our Three Rivers Region for the Fraternity, He still managed to take some time to chat with me.It's cool that we have known each other since High School and now We're in the same Fraternity. :) As for my Big, I run into him on some occasion.

The only one I was ever close to I still talk to now and then.

We are assigned to be sponsors to the new members right away, so this takes away from having an opportunity to really get to know the new members before you get paired up. You're not necessarily paired with the intent to be BFF.

Although, "on paper," this relationship as a "Diamond" (Big/Lil) is supposed to formally conclude once the new member is initiated. We're not supposed to have families, etc., in order to discourage cliques.

And of course, it never works out that way b/c our members want to be like everybody else ... I finally got tired of correcting members when I would go to other chapters and hear an ADPi introduce her "Big" or refer to herself as a "pledge" (our new members are called "alphas" and have been since the early 90s). Oh well.

/rant

I have good relationships with my "big" and my "lil." I am really proud of their accomplishments! I am closer to my lil, though, but that's because my big is from another chapter.

or you could tell me in a PM! :)

My Big and I are super close. She was my first choice and, she told me just before I got my own Little that she wasn't going to accept a call for anyone else but me from my NM class. She was one of the first sisters I grew really close to, and she was already acting in the role of "Big" for a long time before it was official. She just graduated this past spring, and I'm already having a hard time picturing life without her next year.

Both my Littles and I are really close too, but I have different relationships with both of them, because we grew close differently. My first Little, we grew close as she went through Recruitment and then even closer after she pledged and, since I got her three or four months before my second Little, we seem to be more comfortable to talk about virtually anything. My second Little and I grew close during the fall and marching band season (we were in the same section), and I tried really hard to get her to go through Recruitment during fall formal. Even though I knew her pretty well a month or so before I got close to my first Little, and we CAN talk about a lot of stuff, sometimes the conversation is a little more forced. But I love hanging out with both of my Littles and they both get along fairly well.

On the bright side, the branch of my family is really close. My grandbig has always been almost a second Big to me, my Big's second Little and I are insanely attatched at the hip (we tend to end up plotting together, and sometimes our Big has trouble keeping up with the two of us). There are a lot of Bigs/Littles, branches, and families in my chapter that aren't as close, so I count myself incredibly lucky.

My sis-mom left the semester after I was initiated. Fortunately she is still able to be around sometimes, so I get to see her. She was one of the reasons I decided to stick with Recruitment. My first sis-daughter was a spring class girl. She is actually in my class and is only a few months younger than me. I had several classes with her because we are both in the honors program and I was pretty sure she would not want to be in a sorority at all, but she was still invited to the COB parties and ended up taking the bid we offered. She is our New Member Coordinator now and is doing a fab job. We are not alike at all and I guess I would not say we are super close or anything but we always just get along so well. And she is very nice to her mommy. My other one came in this fall. I actually barely remembered her from the parties but there were not many members that could take a sis-daughter at that time and I could, and her top two choices were sisters that I shared some personality traits with, so she was assigned to me. I guess we are not terribly close either, but we are a lot alike in some ways and get along really well. She is very close with her pledge class which is so great. When I first met her when she was pledged she walked in with her heels on and everyone laughed. I am 5 feet 4 inches and was wearing flats. She is about 5 feet 10 inches and was wearing heels. I am sure we looked really funny. My first sister-daughter is also taller than me, and so is my mom. My first daughter took a daughter in the fall pledge class, so I am already a grandma and SHE is taller than me too. My whole family dwarfs me.

I'm not extremely close my my big. She is really sweet though. We had a GREAT Big/Lil Reveal, always say hi to each on campus, and go out to eat from time to time. We just have different personalities. I am closer to my Grand Big (both in the same major) who is more active in our chapter. I'm closest to my "adopted big" who was out going president-- so sad she graduated! I can't wait till I get my little this year! :D

I have always been very close to my big. We don't talk as much now because she just got married and has a busy career, but we talk enough and whenever I need help with something, she's one of the first people I call. She has 3 other littles and we're all best friends too, so it works out, we have a great family in the sorority. And I really consider my big part of my biological family. My parents ask about her all the time as if she was their daughter too.

I have 4 littles myself and I would say I have good relationships with 3 of them. My last little, I barely talk to now. We got along great while she was pledging, but after that she just stopped calling and I just stopped trying. My other 3 littles--one is married, another is one of my really good friends, and the other is the best little sister you could ever ask for. We talk all the time and she comes to me for so much. I really do feel like she's my younger sister and I'm there helping her along the way. The thing with my littles is they are all from expansion schools. I saw them whenever I could (3 of them were from schools no more than 2 hours away and one was from GA--I live in NY). I've never really wanted one in my own chapter because I like traveling and meeting sisters from different schools and I'm lucky enough to have the relationships that I do. It's a lot of work keeping up with everyone, but it has a lot of reward.

We were matched with our big sisters in much the same way as bid match was done during rush, er, recruitment. I ended up with a great big, and moved into her house with her. She left for the summer, and the remaining boarders were psycho, so I had to move out, and then she transferred schools, but we stay in touch to this day. She was in my wedding, I was in hers, and we had a GREAT time at our chapter reunion in San Antonio this May. She is going through a messy divorce, and we think a p.i. was following us - oooooo, exciting! She's a hoot, and I always love getting together with her.
My one and only little (I married in college and went alum) never was really committed, and has fallen off the face of the earth.

My Big bro and I are really close. He's like the big brother I never had in real life. We were friends before joining Sigma Nu, and he rushed a semester before me to "test the waters".

Not too long ago, he was thrown out of his house, with all his belongings out there in the rain... I organized a crew of friends and brothers to help him get to shelter and find a place to crash until he could find his own place.

He has since bought a house, and I found myself looking for a place to stay for cheap, since I've been paying my own way through school, and the bills are catching up to me. He pretty much let me stay at his house for 1/2 of what he had advertised the room for, and I only paid 1/4 of the utilities.

I'd trust my Big bro with my life... even if I do want to kick his ass occasionally! We're there for eachother.

That's true brotherhood. :)

my little bro is the best thing that happened to me. my real little bro was lost in a tragic still birth when i was 8 and my little bro jack (j-dawg reppin dat beta fam 07 for life baby) has filled a place that has been empty in me for a long time. thats some true brotherhood.

j- dawg is probably a gimp compared to my little bro. we've been mackin hoes since day one. one time we even tag teamed a girl.

wtf how can you dis my lil bro like that you dont even know him and if we found you itd be some kind of beat down you dont even wanna know. where you even reppin from tryna talk all this on some internet board? wtf. you a scared little coward.

thats funny with a tag like frattypalmtree. I bet you never even been to south beach. we run that shit. 305 like what. rick ross bitch
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my big brother and I were at our "Back 2 Africa" rush event, and we went running with the bulls, man we was flossin brotha

what the hell why would i wanna go hang out with a bunch of miami queers in SoBe? we go to daytona or panama city for spring break. what you even know about that? finest woman in the world, greatest dranks, some fine young bitties (with tig ol' bitties too lol jk). plus i bet they dont got lazer tag in sout beach unless you wanna play with some losers. what the hell. this is a waste of my time. lets see you try to be fratty. you dont even know what the real meaning of frat is. for real "bro".

yeah you wouldnt bein from california and all that. you know what im talkin about...

im not tryin to offend though. im just speakin the truth. somebody had to say it.

SoBe has the best bars with the hottest BiTcHeZZZ!! these girlz are dime peices fo real. not surprizin you go to panama city, you probably wear wranglers, do you and your couzin pretend you don't know each other when you are hooking up.