Words of Wisdom - To Neos
 

Share some words of wisdom for neos (doesn't matter the organization).


Before you do something...listen to the still small voice in your head that says "What would the Founders Think/Do?"

You are not in a position to "check" anybody else.

If you crossed in the spring and convention is that summer -- GO! Beg, borrow, and befriend sponsors :). You WILL need that reinvigoration and the global context or else you will burn out and get jaded in that first year.

Befriend your brother/sister organization, but don't jock them.

Would you mind explaining that a little bit more?

And please, keep the tips coming!

Maintain cordial relationships with the members, but branch out and collaborate with other organizations. And don't get mad at them when they do the same. Joining AKA (for example) is not an automatic free pass to Alpha parties. Nor should Alphas get mad if AKAs like the Ques on their yard more.

^^^
I like this one!

It really is okay to be friends with someone in another organization. We're all basically trying to do the same thing, but in different colors.

Don't let the letters change you.

LAWD I could write a book.

btb, Its funny how folks will cross and think everyone who isn't in their org is the enemy. Such gang mentality.

Gotcha. I did see a lot of that in undergrad.

Everyone makes mistakes. Take it as a learning experience and keep going.

Realize that while deference is always gonna kick your @ss as a neo, you'll get yours later on in (greek) life.

let the chuuuuuch say AMEN!

Come in and do the work, but don't start trying to change up completely established programs, traditions, etc. without knowing what they are about. You might have seen the program from the outside, but do the work for the program before you start making recommendations and motions to change things.

Word. :cool:

Patience...these organizations have been around for decades. Attend your local, state, regional, and national meetings to get a feel for how and why things are run, and then find ways to make a difference. Don't just rush in and go wild with "what you can do." You'll alienate a lot of members, even if your intentions are good.

Respect your oath--take it seriously.

Respect the elder members of your organization, if even you don't agree with them.

Have pride for your organization's accomplishments and membership, but realize that the world is larger than your organization, and you want people to see you as a positive reflection, not a hoo-riding cat throwing up sets and signs like your a crip.

Oh yeah, speaking of which, it is a greek-lettered organization founded on a COLLEGE CAMPUS, not a GANG.

The organization will survive only if you find a way to add value in a significant way--no organization needs a bunch of t-shirt wearers.

In short..... remain humble and if you aren't familiar with that word (although I don't see my not) do yourself a favor and research it. :cool:

What I've learned as a Neo is to take correction with humbleness. If a soror admonishes me to straighten up and fly right...I know she is doing it in sisterly love.

I also now know that there is no such thing as stupid questions.

Just my $0.20

ThAnkZ
 

You know I have to say thAnkZ so much for those words...being a Neo is so hard and its good to really know that greek unity is real...more ppl need to put thoZe word of wiZdom...

AKA's Private Ivy!!!!:o:D

You choose what represents your organization. The best, the worst and the humane.

KNOW YOUR DOCUMENTS!!! ALL OF THEM THE BETTER!!! THEY ARE PRINTED BY YOUR CORPORATE OFFICE AND LOCAL CHAPTERS FOR SEVERAL REASONS.

You are not the first, the last or the orginal member to ever have your particular problem within your organization. What are diamonds, goldens and silvers with pearls and gemstones are for??? And I am not talking about Jared

When older members of your organization attempt to talk to you and share their pearls of wisdom be open and receptive. Listen to what they are saying. More often than not they are trying to prepare you to do the work that needs to be done in your organization.

Also as a neo, especially if you are still in college, there are some things that you are going to experience just because you are a neo.

To piggy back on this, "I didn't know" is not an excuse (shouldn't be making those anyway ;)). All documents and manuals are available to all members. Purchase them. Read them. Refer to them OFTEN. Do not depend on your advisor(s) or other chapter members to tell you what's right and wrong. Unfortunately, not all of them are doing the right things and are leading you astray.

Each one, teach one.

Get to know your good sorors who are in alumnae chapter before you graduate, if possible. They are good resources and sounding boards.

AMEN! Along with this, get to know the older members of your organization-starting with those in your sponsoring graduate/alumni chapter. Then, when you're about to graduate and transfer into the chapter or one elsewhere, you may not feel so ill at ease with the age differences between you and some of your fellow members.

Remember to respect your sorors (this applies to both official and unofficial bonds). We are not here to be sex buddies or pin up girls. Respect us as women and as sorors..

Respect your elder sorors! My rule of thumb, "If I can speak to my momma in that tone, then I know I shouldn't be talking like that to this soror!"

And while "I didn't know" is not an excuse, it is okay to ask questions but be prepared to work for the knowledge. It's not just going to be handed to you a silver platter.


LEARN TO KEEP CHAPTER BUSINESS IN HOUSE!! EVERY GREEK DOES NOT NEED TO KNOW ALL YOUR BUISNESS!

Just wanted to make sure your quote was enhanced a tad bit... ;) :D

Just wanted to reiterate that. Excellent words.

Respect ALL of the organizations in the NPHC. All of our organizations are great and have an illustrious legacy and history. Don't get into the org against org hater game and don't buy into and spread stereotypes. Remember that if your org is so great, there is no need to put another org down to lift yours up.

Even if you are older in biological years, if a member is older than you are in said organization...deference based on organizational years is still afforded to the prophyte.

*hijack* where have you been Missy? I heard that many of the HU PIKA colonizing dudes were on the Kappa reactivation line. :D

yeah but i try not to pull deference, much less on an older woman who is younger than I in Sigma years. I have respect for my elders and would feel weird pulling deference on someone who could be my momma. (i know LOTS of older members who are newly inducted have issue with this, so while i respect deference to the fullest, i am still sensitive to it)

44 of them...(WE are surely not surprised... and 44 for ANY frat at HU is nothing short of Amazing. I saw the youtube from their campus presentation ;-))

:ending hijack:

Elder respect is elder respect. Organizational deference is different deal all together.

Hi, Im new and Ill be a freshmen this fall. I was not exposed to greek life AT ALL until I came to a summer program at my campus. What advice could you give to someone who is thinking about pledging? Also, during the time one is one line, are they permitted to leave campus for ANY reason other than greek buisness?

I understand if your not allowed to tell me some things. I can respect that.

ALL the info u need is right here:

http://greekchat.com/gcforums/showthread.php?t=81059
http://greekchat.com/gcforums/showthread.php?t=87231
http://greekchat.com/gcforums/announcement.php?f=140
http://greekchat.com/gcforums/announcement.php?f=104

ETA: enjoy your freshman year! it'll be over before you know it!

Thanx but Im a little confused.

I think Sistergreek Neosoul gave you all the information which is extremely generous of her to do so.

Can you list exactly how you are confused?

^^Nevermind..I get it now. Thanx!

Very Generous :)
Neos are nicer than Prophytes :cool:

I thought this was a good thread for all of us neos running around here. Just thought I would bump it up.

BE careful what you do in your letters because nine times out of ten someone is watching. By this I mean consuming alcohol, smoking illegal substances, fighting, etc. It makes the whole org look bad.

Thanks for your comments... To add:

No matter if you wear your letters or not, folks still judge YOUR ENTIRE organization... So as to your behavior, your treatment toward your members and strangers, and your language. Now that you have become a member, you are permanently judged. Even your character is marked...