Is it cheating?
 

I don't know who the p-whipped guys are that they interviewed for this article. Dinner & drinks with a friend, cheating? You gotta be kidding me.

http://health.yahoo.com/experts/menl...g-and-cheating

Well now. Is this cheating then? I am part of a HP community in lj. There are two members in this community that I communicate with quite frequently b/c of our love of HP. One is a woman and one is a man. We're all in our late 20's, love to discuss literature, but have never met one another. My hubby knows about them and considers them my "computer nerd friends" but he isn't bothered by them. I don't consider it cheating at all and neither does Mike. Based on the definitions some of these people have on cheating, I've now cheated via computer on my hubby with a man and a woman. :rolleyes:

"Half of men think that visiting a strip club is cheating."

This article is insane. Wonder what they'd think of that the only time I've been to a strip club was WITH my boyfriend? :p But seriously, I don't get how 60% think dinner and drinks w/ an ex is cheating...as long as you're honest with your current partner, I can't see how that would be cheating. Might piss him off, but not cheating!

HP? What's HP?

And my husband wouldn't be particularly thrilled if I went out for drinks with my ex, but he'd have to get over it. On the flip side, he's had one ex, and she lives in Mexico, so I don't have to worry about it. And my husband wouldn't go to a strip club, it's not his thing. He watches WWE wrestling and won't watch the girls do their "matches" - he thinks they make themselves look like ridiculous fools.

'Arry Potter :D

Dudes, let's not read too much into this - 60% of dudes think drinks w/ an ex is cheating because they would then have sex with their ex.

Thanks. I was thinking:

http://www.adammer.com/portfolio/id/...hp_penguin.gif

But I knew you couldn't be THAT big of a nerd!

Ding ding ding!

ROFLMAO! I am a nerd but NOT that kind of nerd. ;)

That's true. The drinks itself isn't cheating (but yeah, it'd probably make me mad) but that kind of scenario can head into dangerous territory real quick.

I read that article today and I thought the same things as most of you. I mean, I've done half that stuff and never though twice about it and neither has anyone I've dated. I guess it's when you think about it as a situation that could lead to cheating is when it seems a little more tricky.

Uh yeah...how is going to a strip club cheating? I don't have a problem with my boyfriend looking...I don't have what most of those women have haha...so I don't blame him. He's never gotten to go...they're 21+ up around here, and he just turned 21 a few months ago...and he won't waste his money that way. We were supposed to go with our friends over SB...(ran out of money though, and the cover for under 21 was too much for us...couldn't afford that and tips)...that would have been his first time and it would have been with me. I mean geez...looking isn't cheating!

I don't see how dinner and drinks with an ex is cheating either as long as it wasn't hidden from the current partner, and if that's all it was. I talk to and hang out with mine a good bit...and it's just because he's a good friend, that's it. It's not cheating!

I wonder if the big part of the whole "It's cheating" mentality is that you're hiding it from your partner. Because while I wouldn't care if my boyfriend went to a strip club, it's bug me a lot if he didn't tell me and I found out some other way. I still wouldn't call it cheating, but if you act like you have something to hide, your SO will often assume that you do...

agreed... i think that would also fit under the dinner/drinks w/ an attractive co-worker umbrella.

lotsa crazy stuff happens when you have a lil wine!

Yeah . . . no.

not saying everyone does that, just saying that's why the guys in the survey might have thought it was cheating.

Basically you get drunk and sleep around with your co-workers is what you're saying.

-Rudey
--Good for you, don't deny yourself the pleasure.

I think most of the things in the article are ok. It really depends on the circumstances and as long as it doesn't turn into something else. If you are in a relationship with a really jealous person though, then none of that is ok.

I was 'talking to' a guy for 2 months last year. He would call me or IM me everyday and send me numerous text messages every morning starting off with 'Good morning sweetheart.' We would talk on the phone for hours and he made it clear that he wanted to date me. We even made plans for valentine's day and 'sweetheart' became his pet name for me. To this day, he doesn't think that texts and phone calls constituted doing anything wrong, but I sure did and I bet his fiance did to.

oh my...that is horrible, yeah if you're engaged then your fiance is your sweetheart

Weird, I think we know the same guy, right down to the "sweetheart" stuff. haha The guy that did this to me wasn't engaged but he lived with his girlfriend. I was young and naive enough to believe his line of b.s. about why things weren't adding up. But, live and learn. :)

LOL, see I always thought it was weird that he wanted me to come up to his room all the time. I thought he was just after sex alone...naw, he just didn't want to risk his GF seeing us in public. :rolleyes:

Doesn't surprise me. It's so hard to trust guys.

Wow, I did not even see that coming while reading the paragraph.