What is clingy?
 

What is your opinion of what clingy is for males and/or females?

When someone has exceeded the comfort level of their significant other when it comes to together time or being accountable for where they are and what they have done.

Think multiple calls daily to check in or see whats up.

I know thats not really a useful description. But its going to be highly variable depending on the both the individual involved and how into each other they are.

Some people like to move into their BF/GF's ass and take up residence. Some people really like that. Others not so much. It can make it uncomfortable to move around . . . ;)

Also, some people will allow or encourage more clinginess in the beginning when things are new, or when they like the other person more.

IMO.
 

Stalking is illegal in all 50 states...

That is clingy.

Another this is whiny to get what you want. Most men hate that tactic unless they are paying for a prostitute in a girly suit. Or if homeboy is a pedophile trying to catch some off "Perverted Justice".

For male: Men are possessive. When it borderlines on domestic violence that is not clingy, that is possesesive.

LLLLMAO! :D

- Wanting your significant other to be around you all the time.
- Not having any hobbies or activities of your own that do not involve your significant other. Not wanting the significant other to have any either.
- Having your entire life revolve around your significant other.

It may not necessarily cross the line into jealousy or possessiveness. It may not involve stalking. But it is still problematic.

a few things things:

-when they feel the urge to sit next to their computer and put alerts on your screen name so that they can instant message you when you're no longer idle but still away..and its a regular occurance except when they're in class or sleeping.

-if they get angry because you haven't texted them in a two hour span just to say hi.

-those that feel the need to hold onto you all night long. let me have my half of the bed, i'm not going anywhere!

*When they purposely do not leave the house, but instead sit in their house, showered and dressed, just in case you call and want to do something.

The guy I'm dating had a gf who was like this, so he figured all women need this kind of attention, which brings me to--

*Calling to say "hi," hearing me say "I'm busy, I'll call you later," then calling back in 2 hours to say "hi."

*Calling more than 5 times AND exchanging 40+ text messages in any 48 hour period, especially when half of mine said "I'm busy, I'll get back to you."

Or kiss you . . .

Ditto. Especially when you've told the significant other that you want some "me" time, and then they call you after about an hour to ask if you're done.

What in the world! Who does that?

Girls mostly.

Curse cell phones. Curse them.

I call it, "The Pretzel Effect."

Just an observation that a lot of girls will bend themselves and their interests to meet their idea of what their BF wants . . . in the beginning anyway.

Major problems later when she starts to unbend.

I used to work with a woman who would call her man, now husband, when she got to work, when she went to lunch, when she was done with lunch, and when she was leaving work. He would get pissed if she didn't check in at least those four times. He always had to know where she was at any given time. She could not leave work to go out to eat because he wouldn't like that idea! I never could figure out what made me more upset. The fact that he demanded that kind of behavior or the fact that she thought it was just fine. :rolleyes: I'd rather stay single than deal with that crap.

^^^^ That is a controlling man and her life will end up miserable.

Clingy: I've been on 3 dates with this man. I ignore my cell phone around 7:30 pm because I'm at my kids' softball games which are running back to back.. 5:30 to 9:00 pm, essentially. We get home from softball and there are two messages on the home phone and one on the cell. I get the kids showered and put to bed, tidy up the house a little, read the mail, settle in to read my email and it's now 10:45 pm, too late to return a phone call. BUT, the phone rings and it is the guy's sister, who lives in Florida, who I have not met (because I've only been on 3 dates with this guy) and she wants to know if I've dumped him because I didn't return his phone call. So yeah, I didn't return a phone call within 3 hours and I'm getting a call from his sister who lives hundreds of miles away???? No, I hadn't dumped him, but after that incident, you bet I did. PSYCHO

Who's more crazy? The guy or the sister? :eek:

Stop making fun of me!

*cries*

My freshman year I dated a guy who went to school in South Carolina. We broke up the beginning of second semester because I had told him over Christmas break if he didn't stop being so clingy, it was over. I got to put up with calls before and after EVERY SINGLE class, mine and his. He also drove 8 hours to beg me to take him back when I broke up with him one time. He also used to call me when I was at the bars just to make sure I wasn't "doing anything" (we dated 9 months and I never cheated on him) and wanted to know what I was wearing out. Then there was the fun part where I'd show him pictures (and I took A LOT because I was pledging and meeting a ton of new people) and he would bash the guys in them, all of which were friends of mine. Another favorite thing of his would be to call me about every hour when my parents were visiting for the weekend, so much to the point that my mom even commented on the excessive calls.


Oh, and let's not forget that when I broke up with him, he called my mom at home (while I was away at school!) to cry about it. He was 20 years old.

James!!!

You know your give your girls you seeing infrequently, your old cell numbers...

Then, you give your women you want all the time your current cell number.

Lastly, you give your fiancee your home number...

Well for stuff like that a lot of guys will have a "Bat Phone."

The phone that can be just bought, with no name and buy minutes as you go . . .