Two men/women at the same time?
 

Is it possible to love two men/women at the same time?

OK, I'll admit it. I have a dirty mind.... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Sexy Mocha, I'll have to think about this one. However, I want to say yes, it is possible. But, like I said, let me gather my thoughts on this issue.

Mocha,
Now let me ask this before I post. Are you asking if it's possible to love 2 people at once or are you asking if it's possible to be IN love w/ 2 people at once?

[This message has been edited by ZChi4Life (edited August 12, 2000).]

That's it exactly, I think it's possible to love too people, but not to be in love with two.

OK, I do think you can be in love with two men at the same time. I was in this situation myself. Long story, a lot of history.... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif

Anyway, the problem comes in when you try to be in two relationships at the same time. I chose not to do that. I had to make a choice and I did. It wasn't easy, but it wasn't fair to either man involved.

It was a learning experience. Sometimes, you just have to let go and move on.

*Insert "Butterfly" by Mariah Cary*



[This message has been edited by Serenity (edited August 13, 2000).]

*smiling* Ahem, ladies, dirty minds aside... No, not true love. When you truly love someone that way, you simply cannot love someone else the same. When you truly love someone, your feelings and emotions are wrapped up in that one person, and you don't have the desire to look at anyone else.

Usually when people say they love two people at once, they're not in true love. They may love one quality about one person, and love something else about the other. For example, Mr. A is very smart and conscientious and represents stability, while Mr. B constantly makes her laugh and represents fun. See the difference? The problem is, they fail to realize that with a little patience and perserverance, you can find both qualities (hard as it may be) in one person.

Besides, the latter choice is a lot less tiresome, --- who has the time to keep up with all of those lies?

Mocha, I don't think many men will answer this post for fear that it may incriminate them... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

Can you be in love with two people at the same time is what I meant...I think it's possible, I wanted to get everyone else's opinion.

Serenity, you are too funny! I could definitely see where a dirty mind could get something totally different out of the topic! Now that you mention it....that would be quite an interesting topic! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

I'm not so sure that you can't be in love with two men at one time. But, I ask this, "How do you fine two men that are worth being in love with?" I have a hard enough time trying to figure out why I was in love with my ex bf. LOL


Much Love,

Kymberleigh

Oooh, what are ya'll talking about in here? All I see is "dirty minds...." Tsk, tsk http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Anyway, yeah I think it's possible to love 2 people at the same time (I've been in that situation before). But I don't think you can be in love w/ 2 at the same time. I know that as picky as I am, that would be one thing I would not be able to achieve.

I agree that a person may love certain qualities in "John" and others in "Joe", but wouldn't it be possible for "Mary", under similar circumstances, to fall in love with "John" as she already has with "Joe"? I believe falling in love is something that just happens (sometimes we aren't even aware that our feelings are actually "going there")...but because it's not a conscious decision we make...i.e. "Hey! I think I'll fall in love with______ today."....it can happen without us realizing it. And, since we can't very well turn our feelings on and off like a light switch, "Mary" could have been in love with "John" for, let's say, a couple of years...and here comes "Joe" she falls in love with him. Of course this wouldn't make her automatically fall out of love with "John"....thus, she'd be in love with two men. I hope this made sense...I don't know if I worded it the exact way I had it in mind.

[This message has been edited by Sexy Mocha (edited August 14, 2000).]

i had a really dirty mind...plus i read the question wrong.... :0


i will go back to my corner now

LMAO! Shoot.....I have no shame! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

I believe that you can be in love with two people at the same time. Love is dynamic and does not exist on one plain. That is what enables us to love more than one person in different and equally unique ways. Being in love is no different.

I understand what you're saying Mocha, but when you truly love someone, I really don't believe you can "fall in love" with someone else. You might fall in "lust", but not love. Now it's possible to love someone in different ways ***time out*** Mama go back to your corner***... meaning, you may love someone as a "friend" or care about them, but again, that's a different type of love. If someone falls in love with someone else, I truly believe (been there -- done that)that once they evaluate their feelings, they'll find that either they really don't love the first person in the way that they thought, or they've fallen out of love with them and are just afraid to let them go.

Bump

What if you are married to one, with a family, and the other has been an ex for several years, but you just can't let go?

pretty much you're screwed

Please give us more details-- we love people to air their dirty laundry on here!!

Me too.:o

How about this... Your first spouse dies. You will always be "in love" with that person, but it doesn't mean you won't also fall in love with someone else again. I think it's totally possible to be in love with two people at once.

I think that's different. If you're in love with two living people at the same time, you're not really in love with either of them -- or if you are, it's some lame ass kind of love that I wouldn't care to experience.

Troof. It seems that if you were "in love" with two people, it would either have to be twins who were duping you, or the "love" was so weak as to be kinda shady.

I think that's really different too - if somebody is dead you shouldn't really be "actively" loving them. (Sounds bad, but I hope you can get what I'm saying.)

I think it's possible but not one and the same way!

Sure I think it's possible. In polygamous households, I'm certain that the head of the household in some cases loves at least some or all of his (or her) spouses.

Do I think it's a little strange? Yeah.. but that's because I'm from a strictly monogamous background. Does strange mean impossible? Nope.

Me three. :eek: :o

I think you can love two people at the same time, but being IN love is such a powerful and entirely overwhelming experience I think it is only possible to have with one person at a time. I believe you never truly stop loving someone, it just becomes a different kind of feeling/love.

I had refused to even look at this thread b/c I thought it was really dirty!

Well said!!