wheres allll the guys?
 

Hey i want to know something. Wheres all the "frat" guys http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif on this board. I think us women have taken over..Hehe! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Heather- please excuse me if I jump into over bearing mode for just a second, but I have been reading your posts and honestly they come off as very superficial. There's way more to being part of a sorority more to college and life! than "Hot Guys", "Getting Drunk", and "Partying". As a matter of fact, you aren't even college yet, judging from you name you are not even of legal drinking age, and you are already obsessed with men and partying? There is SOOOOO much more to life. You need to grow up a little before you get to college in the fall, or you are going to party so hard that you won't be there very long! Just my $.02

ZetaAce

Id agree with Zeta Ace.... Learn what you can handle before you do anything drastic. I party too, but in moderation (I guess Im like a permanate DD which sucks sometimes). What I do outside of class does not effect my GPA. Never lose sight of why you are at college. You are not at college to party, you are not at college to join a fraternity or a sorority. In fact, unless you can handle your classes already, I would discourage you or anyone from joining a GLO, as it would hurt you academically.

Easy E www.angelfire.com/va2/gammachi

while, I do agree with the previous two post, We should realize she is still young and that this is something she must learn on her own. When alot of people ar just getting out of high school they view life as one big party, and it just takes a little while for reality to set in.

Let her enjoy her time now and she will learn, like we all have about the facts of life

Hey heather, do you mind if I ask what school you're going to this fall?

UCA UNVIRSITY OF CENTRAL ARKANSAS

I think that the best thing I can say is that you need to take into consideration the reputation you will create for yourself at the school you will spend the next 4 to 5 (maybe even more) years LIVING at, and at the place you will make a HUGE amount of future business/career contacts.

You never know who silently monitors these boards. You don't want to walk into a situation (let's say, find a sorority you really want to join) and have the sisters saying "Oh, yeah, I remember her from that message board, she is definately not XYZ material for whatever reason," before they even got a chance to meet you.

Yes, partying and drinking and men are a big part of the fun part of college and we are all aware of this and we all take advantage of this. However, many of us are aware that we must balance our "partying" and "fun" side with our professional side so that we may have respect from our peers and future colleagues.

We treat this message board in much the same way. There are plenty of silly posts but they are balanced.

If you sound young and immature, people will treat you as such and not take you seriously.

I totally agree with you, Asia2000. I have alot of maturing to do before i get in college.

heatherh1981, I'm glad you realize you have a lot of maturing to do before college. I was born in '81 too-graduated from high school in '99, and was more mature than you come off as. Maybe its just because its typed and not spoken, but your posts always make me wonder where your head is. All your posts I've ever seen talk mostly about boys, booze, and parties. And altough those are fun, they need to be in serious moderation. I drink, I party, and I date. But I'm in school to get an education, not find a husband or build up my tolerance. And if this is all you think is sororities are about, PLEASE reconsider why you are rushing. And remember that sororities do not allow their members to act in ways that are below the standards of their org. They won't tolerate it. And reputations can precede you and they're hard to erase. Just my humble opinion.

Well said

siuagd,

leave heather alone! if you were more mature than her when you graduated high school, then good for you. everyone's different and you don't know what her life experience prior to coming on these boards was. i've talked to heather off these boards and she is a very intelligent young lady. she may not come off as being the deepest individual on these boards, but she's speaking her mind, is very excited about college and NO ONE here, including myself *who has criticized her in the past but has since realized the err of my ways and reconciled with her* should take away her joy of coming to college.

etienne
sigma alpha iota

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Etienne - You go girl!

I think a lot of us thought/acted the same way when we were just leaving high school. Let the girl have her fun! In a few short years she's going to be graduating college and entering the real world just like the rest of us and this kind of thing will all be in the past.

Plus...sure they might be a little superficial sometimes, but hey...we all are superficial once in a while...and we all have fun responding to her posts and others like them, don't we?

etienneSAI and heatherh1981,
I didn't mean to come off as snotty, and I'm sorry if I did, it is so hard to get meanings without hearing the tones of people's voices. As I said in my second post, maybe joining a sorority will be a good experience for heatherh1981, as she will learn things that maybe she doesn't know about right now, and her sisters will help her grow and mature. And you are correct, I don't know a thing about her prior life experiences, but even after everyone else's posts, she was still posting (how do I say it delicately) 'silly' posts. I in no way want to reduce her excitement of coming to college(I was excited as anyone could be), but I guess I wanted her to be realistic about it, and just did not voice it in a very considerate way. I just know that if I was rushing a girl and all she talked about was boys, booze, and parties, she'd be off my house's list faster than I don't know what, and if she's excited enough about rushing, I don't want her to get nixed because she says something wrong during rush. I would love every girl who's interested to rush and I hope they get the same thing out of a sorority that I have gotten out of mine, but they have to get in one before they can.
Once again, my apologies, SIUAGD

Thnaks, blu_theatics. I just get tired of reading her posts. I tried to ignore them, but they just keep coming. I know that's she's young and I think that's why they especially annoy me because I'm the same age as her,(although I think she's a year behind me in school), and I never acted like that. She seems more like a girl getting ready for high school than a girl getting ready for college. Hopefully, she takes our posts as a kind of 'advice'. Maybe rushing a sorority would help her mature and do things in moderation, but if all she talk about at rush parties are the same things she talks about here, its going to be a short rush for her.Once again, just my humble opinion.

Well, in response to heather's question, it is rather odd that these forums have a great majority of women. Why is that? Is it that men just aren't into internet message boards as much as women? In all honesty, I, too, would like to see more men on this board. Diversify the pool, get some new viewpoints, ya know?

Hehehe----Yall thats ok!

I just want to live life to the fullest and have a good time in college. I'm a responble person and i do have my limits. I think i have sat myself as a slutty and drunk on these boards-No its not like that at all. I was never popular in school and to be honest with yall, I want to be everything that i wasnt in HS. I want to be the pretty sorority chick that all the guys fight over. I never even went to my proms i just sat home and felt sorry for myself, because all of my chick friends are SOoooo pretty and i was not as pretty at they were. They got all the cute guys and i got stuck with the dorks. I want to become a new person in college.But like my mom said and some of the people on this board have personally told me I am talking this whole sorority thing outta control and i am strongly sorry for it. I hope i havent offended anyone or done anything to make yall mad. I'll try to grow-up just a little bit. Bye heather

*Please yall dont have to be sorry*
its ok I'm totally sorry!

See, now I can totally understand that, Heather1981. I can relate....sort of. I did the same thing when I went away to college but for different reasons.

In high school, I was really shy. I looked at going away to school as a way to become more independent, out-going, etc. It worked. I really had to take the initiative to meet people. This led me to get involved in the different organizations on campus. I'm just not the same person I was in high school because of this.

Heather1981, just don't lose sight of why you're really there...to get an education! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Hi Heather. I would have preferred to comment to you by email rather than a public forum, but you don't have an address listed.
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I want to be the pretty sorority chick that all the guys fight over. I never even went to my proms i just sat home and felt sorry for myself, because all of my chick friends are SOoooo pretty and i was not as pretty at they were. They got all the cute guys and i got stuck with the dorks. I want to become a new person in college.
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You don't have to be in a sorority to have that impact. When I was in high school, I did not go to my proms, I did not party, and I was an introvert (very shy). The only thing that pushed me to the forefront was my musical abilities. I wanted to make a change in college also, but I remembered something that I want to caution you to remember. Education is the reason why you're there. So, although I did get a better fashion sense while I was in school, and I pushed myself to get out a little more (although I still don't like to party, but that's just my personality), I made that change before I joined a sorority. Trust me, fun (lots of it) will come with college as well. But when you join a sorority, make sure it's for the right reasons. Not just to be pretty, popular, or have guys fight over you. You can be pretty and self confident (that attitude alone will draw popularity and guys)without a sorority. Being in a sorority is not what drives guys crazy, and if a guy didn't act interested in me before I got my letters, trust me, he need not look now that I have them. And to be honest, you have to bring a strong sense of self into a sorority to succeed. Without that, you'll change into something not that many people (including your future sororty sisters)will like. Your life will revolve around being an XYZ, and that's not good. You want to help make that sorority, not have the sorority make you.

So, no harm was meant by this post, but I felt compelled to respond to you. You sound like a very charasmatic young lady and if you can exude that much energy over the net, then imagine what effect you can have on people in person.


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[This message has been edited by tickledpink (edited August 11, 2000).]

Not that I want to interrupt the way the discussion is going in this topic, but I just wanted to say that most fraternity guys don't have much to say. Besides, you girls seem to be handling all these topics just fine, what exactly do you want to hear from us?

RUgreek

Heatherh1981,
After talking to you last night on IM(where you seemed sweet, bright, and very excited about college)and now after reading your last post, I completely understand why you've been posting. I also wanted the 'life I never had' when I went to high school. I had a boyfriend all through high school, and was active in more organizations than you could shake a stick at. But because of my boyfriend, I wasn't really allowed to have friends. Because of that, I wasn't considered to be one of the 'pretty girls' and didn't really even have guy friends, and after my boyfriend and I broke up in February, I had no friends. My best friend now is one of the few girls who would talk to me(my ex had been a big sports star in our town- no one wanted to piss him off, I guess). I couldn't get a date for my senior prom, so a friend a town about 3 hours away drove down so I could go with him. It's kind of funny, you CAN be what you never were in high school. My ex-boyf about died when he found out I was a Gam(we have a chapter at a Univ. near my hometown, and they're all very pretty girls, and my chapter also has a great reputation). And funny how when he asks me out over my breaks, I never want to go. And also very funny how I couldn't pay for a date for my senior prom, but I had no trouble finding ones for formals. But, a lot of this came from me, not just the sorority. They just helped! You can be what you never were, as long as you're not fake about it(which I'm sure you won't be). Like someone said, you just have to be outgoing and friendly! You'll see when you get there!! I'll see you on IM!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif
SIUAGD
As for your previous question-they're probably scared after reading the one about Barbie!! Guys are so silly sometimes!

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[This message has been edited by SIUAGD (edited August 11, 2000).]

heatherh1981

I too will have to apologize for a comment I may have made in another post. I have been away from the board for a while and am now trying to catch up on what I've missed. After reading other's replies I now see that you are just extremely excited about rush & I don't blame you because I too am looking forward to it. I just have one thing to say: BE CAREFUL! I know I don't know you outside of reading your posts, but from what I have read you seem to be looking forward to the parties & the guys the most (understandable).

My cousin recently told me that one thing he misses after recently graduating was the fall rush period when the new freshmen girls came in. I know this sounds bad, but he was just being honest. You're new to the scene & trust me the guys (fraternity or not) can always pick out "fresh meat". You don't know them or anything about them and especially when you are new to college you can get caught up in everything. It being your freshman year you'll, no doubt, party hard which is *normal*. Not trying to sound like your mother (since we are close in age) just lookout for yourself, because until you meet people you're all you really have.

Hope I didn't overstep my bounds..just friendly advice http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Allison


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