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It's about choices...
Your Dream mate has arrived…with strings. You can choose three attributes of the following six that your mate will possess. On a scale of 1 to 10, your mate will score a perfect 10 on those traits you choose. On those traits that you do not choose, your mate will score a 1. You will have to spend the rest of your life with this person.
Which attributes do you choose for your mate and why? Why do you choose to sacrifice those attributes that you have? Remember - choose three! Brains Beauty Body Money Personality Utility (i.e. s/he can do whatever you need a mate to do for you in any area you would choose) |
Brains=1= This makes me sad, but I would have to give up brains for personality
Beauty=1= I likes and ole Busta Rymes, Lil Wayne ugly dude. Body=10 He needs to have something to visually attract me. Money=1=This makes me sad, but i will give up money if i REALLY like the guy. Personality=10= This is the most important quality Utility (i.e. s/he can do whatever you need a mate to do for you in any area you would choose)=10= I want a throw back dude who knows how to fix stuff, like my daddy. When the car gets a flat, I dont want him staring at me looking dumb |
Brains=1 Common sense is more important
Beauty=1 Average looking is best. He's less likely to be full of himself. Body=10 Even if I can't see him (in the dark), I can still tell if he has a nice body or not. Money=10 I'd rather not depend on any man and don't want him depending on me. Also, I don't want to deal with the insecurities of a man who makes less than me. Personality=10 If he doesn't have this, why waste my time? Quote:
Utility= 1 Though I'd prefer a man like my daddy, I'm pretty handy myself. |
Personality (10)-A good personality is a plus!
Money (10)- Let's keep it real! We BOTH have to be bringing in the dollars. I don't have to be rich, but I need to be comfortable (Rich would be okay though :D ) Utility (10)- I'm a handy person, but it's nothing like having a man who can dayum near fix everything Brains (1)- As long as he's not a complete idiot, can hold a decent conversation, and has some intelligence, he would do just fine. Body (1)- We can work out together. :D Beauty (1)- I don't want a man who looks just as good or better than I do. As long as he is not bad on the eyes. |
Money (10) I couldn't be happy being poor. Period. Plus we can use it to pay for someone to do the "utility" :p
Beauty (10)- I have to look at this person for the rest of my life. I need him to look good. And I need to give my offspring a good start in life, lol. Personality (10) I couldn't stand an irritating, aggravating person. The personality would have to be on point. Brains (1) I'm smart enough for both of us :D Body (1)-Any body is going to deteriorate over time. Utility (1)- we can pay someone to do the handy work. |
Beauty (10) - I have to be attracted to the person who I am expected to remain committed to for the rest of my life. I mean, I have to wake up to this person.
Personality (10) - We have to be able to get along well and enjoy each other. This is really what makes the magic stay in a relationship. Brains (10) - An intellectual conversation can be a major turn-on. I have to be able to communicate with my mate on all levels. A relationship has to run like a business sometimes too. I don't want to be the only one who knows how to balance the checkbook and read the directions when we're confused. Body (1) - I guess I'm not concerned about this too much because I already rated the mate a 10 on beauty. So, the body can't be that bad...LOL Utility (1) - You can teach someone how to do things the way you like them done. That doesn't have to come with the package. Money (1) - This is one of the few things in life that you can win, earn, ask for, save, or be given. My point is that you never know what your financial situation is going to be and there are too many options to consider. Someone can start out struggling only to end up with a large account at work and a huge bonus or an inheritance. Vice versa as well. |
Brains (10) For me, there are different types/areas of intelligence, so the person doesn't have to be book smart or worldly, but I would like him to have knowledge and intelligence in his own 'thing', whatever that may be.
Body (10) I have to be attracted to the person physically, so if I can't have beauty, his body will make up for it. ;) Personality (10) I HAVE to like you as a person. This is most important. Beauty (1) If I have to choose between beauty and body, I can do without the beauty :( Money (1) Doesn't really matter to me. Utility (1) He can learn as we go along. |
Brains 10-I value brains over everything!! Its the one thing that cannot be taken away from a person. I feel that if my man has brains he can do anything.
Beauty 1-I'd rather have inner beauty (brains, thoughts, feelings etc) rather than outter apperance. Besides outter beauty fades!! Body 10-Umm, umm, umm I love a man with a nice body!!! And not necessarily I go to the gym errday and twice on Sunday and stay for 4 hours! Money 1-Important because we need it to live however its not the focal point of our relationship. Personality 10- I prefer my man to have his own personality as oppose to hiding behind mine! Utility (i.e. s/he can do whatever you need a mate to do for you in any area you would choose) |
Brains-10-If a man is smart he can figure out how to up his game in the money and utility areas...plus smart to me can be a combination of book, street smarts, and common sense...I couldn't talk to someone as dumb as a bag of rocks no matter how fine he was...
Body-10-I gotta be attracted to him and I have a serious weakness for a sexy brother who is thick in the thighs like a linebacker or field hand:p Personality-10-we gotta be able to laugh and get along well...plus we'll need the personality once the body fades!!! Money-1-As long as he's working and trying to better his situation I'm normally good...plus I plan to be wealthy so I got us!!! Utility-1-it helps but its not that important... Beauty-1-its good to have but since I had to pick btween beauty and body, I had to take body...plus there are plenty of sexy men who are that handsome.. |
Brains=10 I need someone who can stimulate me intellectually
Beauty=10 Like others, I have to look at his mug for the rest of my life Body=1 Physical attributes come and go; besides they only have to have a few sexy body parts to turn me on ;) Money=1 If he has brains, we can get money Personality=1 Too much 'personality' is stressful for an introvert like me Utility=10 I am not necessarily high maintenance but if he is going to be around, he might as well make himself useful Rank - 1)Brains 2)Utility 3)Beauty |
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Personality: I LOVE a man with his own swagger and style! Money: I've been broke and currently am, but I'll be DAMNED if I continue to live my life that way! We need some money in the bank! Body: Have you looked in the "'Cause You're My Black Brotha...'" thread lately? :p 1 Beauty: It's in the eye of the beholder! As long as I love the way he looks, that's all that matters. Plus, I'm beautiful enough for us both! :D Brains: He doesn't have to be a brainiac, but he should have common sense. Utility: I have my own toolkit. Besides, with money, we'll be able to hire a handyman. :) |
Brains (1) - sad to see this one go, but in the larger scheme of things, I need less of a brainiac and more of a man that can keep a smile on my face. As long as he can keep a smile on my face, we'll be okay.
Beauty (10) - looks aren't the end all, be all for me, but I can't imagine myself with an almost deformed looking ug-mug for the rest of my life...one of those faces that make you sad, just by the sight of it, and that's what I'm thinking a 1 would be. Body (1) I'm hoping the overall beauty will distract me from the less than stellar body. I figure your body can only be so jacked up if your overall beauty is a 10 :-P Money (10) I just can't do poor. Sure, I could say that I'd be the one to bring home the bacon, but I know I wouldn't want to have to do it. Personality (10) my dream mate would also be my best friend, so a great personality is a non-negotiable. Utility (1) we'll hire handymen with all the money my dream man will have |
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Beauty 10. I have to be physically attracted to her. That's a must. Body 1. Body is not as important to me as long as she's not a big woman. Nothing against big women, I'm just not physically attracted to them. Nice legs and pretty feet, I'm good with that. I can't suck her toes if she has ugly feet. I do have a foot fettish :-) Money 1. I don't really care about the money. Money makes things a lot easier but it doesn't buy happiness, plus I want to be the provider for my woman, financially, emotionally, physically and spiritually. Personality 10. This is very important, because I love a woman with a great sense of humor, and a wonderful, positive personality. This is a must. No ghetto, foul mouth, lip smacking, nagging woman. Major turn off. Utility 1. That's just not important to me at all. I wouldn't want my woman to get her hands dirty doing manual labor. I'll do that. |
Okay, I'll bite.
I really had to think about this. The superficial, high maintenance, 2007 "me" wants perfect 10s across the board. But, since that's not an option, here's how I broke it down:
10s: Beauty, Money, and Personality 1s: Body, Brains, and Utility ~*~ Beauty: It was really a toss-up between this and body. Like many others have said, I have to have something nice to look at. I can't hold it down all on my own. :p Cosign what Soror SKEEphistAKAte said about offspring. Since I'm in the sciences, I constantly have genetics on the brain. I don't want to be the only one holding up my end of the bargain in that department. Just keepin' it real. :o And, cosign what Soror BusyBee1908 said about overall beauty. If my ideal man is nice looking, I figure he's got the body to match. :D Money: Gotta have financial security. He doesn't have to be makin' mad cheese, but, between the both of us, we need to have the means to live comfortably. Of course I'll be makin' enough paper on my own just in case we don't make it and so that I can uphold my high maintenance status. :p :D Personality: He not only has to show me "signs of life", but he should be able to impress my family as well (esp. my aunts; they're like Marge Simpson's sisters :rolleyes:). Looks can only carry him so far. ~*~ Body: Hated to give this one up, but (I'm hoping) it ties in with his ranking as a "10" in the beauty department. Brains: Hated to give this up, too. But, as long as he's got common sense and shows that he's "moderately" intelligent, he doesn't have to be Einstein. Besides, most of the men I know that are on the brainiac side tend to be condescending and have "know-it-all" attitudes. I can't stand that. :mad: Utility: It helps, but cosign about being able to hire a handyman. :p ~*~ So, phrat, what about you? Care to answer your own scenario? :p |
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I'd choose my 10's to be Brains, Money, and Personality. I'm the type of person who doesn't really care if you're pretty to look at. If I can talk to you intelligently and have a great conversation with you, then that's all I need. I don't need a supermodel or a bodybuilder. |
Luckily my hubby's all 10's (except when he snores). :)
However, if I had to choose, I would give all 10's to brains, money, and personality. Brains and good conversation go a long way. 1's to beauty, body, and utility. Let's face it, if the beauty and the body go what's a person have to keep them interested? |
...guess I'll answer my own question
10s:
Brains - God-fearing, natural intellect is stimulating/exciting and has an ability to attract me just like beauty. I gotta be able to dialogue and learn some perspective from her, just like she learns some from me. Beauty - Whether it's the way she walks, that nuanced idiosyncrasy that I notice, or "that look." of course, a pretty smile, nice head of hair, and being soft and curvy is good too ...cause forever is a long time. Personality - That unexplainable, yet natural "vibe." Makes me wanna hug her even when we both know she trippin'. It's the same thing that let's me know if everybody else rolls out, she will still be there. 1s: Body - Over time the body will fade, so the love better be based on something deeper and sustaining. Money - If you got brains, in the United States of Amerca you can always go out and get the $. legally, too. Utility - Hated to leave this off the desired list, but the strong connection on personality and brains should get us through. |
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Brains: If you're smart, you know how to make your money work for you; Not you working for your money. Personality: There HAS to be chemistry. He has to be comfortable in his own skin and not afraid to be who he is. Personal style, swagger and a sense of humor goes a long way with me. Utility: I REALLY appreciate a man that is a handy man and doesn't have to call a handy man (which leads to saving $$$). 1's Beauty: As long as I like what I see... Body: That six pack could turn into 2 liter. Money: Again, if you've got brains, you know how to make it. |
Luv it, Tony!
10s-Personality, brains, utility
1s-Body, beauty, money Personality, brains, and utility are ranked so high because I find myself more attracted to men with these attributes. Further if that guy is neat and confident, he's got my full attention. Trust that! :) Body, beauty, money have some importance to them, but they are temporal and don't keep me as intrigued as the above components. |
My turn
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Personality- This is very very important, and I think it makes up for not having brains. Money- Good to have some help! Utility- Because I am not handy AT ALL!!! 1's: Brains- I'm the brainiac! I know everything we need to know :D Body- Would be nice but I can only pick three Beauty- Don't need a beautiful man, average is okay with me. |
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But I would choose brains, personality, and utility. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and the above qualities are what makes a person beautiful to me. Money can always be made, brains and personality are not so easy to come by. Body--read my response to beauty. |
Brains = 10. There are different types of intelligence. I need my mate to possess on of them.
Beauty = 1. Not too concerned about that. Body = 1. I need help with my own dayum body, LOL!! Money = 10. I wanna be able to build together. Personality = 10. I need to be able to like you as a friend as well. Utility (i.e. s/he can do whatever you need a mate to do for you in any area you would choose) = 10. I don't know how to fix too many things. |
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Brains--Book sense, common sense and a 4-year degree are essential. Carry on a conversation of many topics. I am a jack of of all trades. He needs to be also. Beauty--Keeping it real, I don't want ugly kids.:p Also, I want my friends to say "Wow, what a handsome couple" and we have to look good together in pictures. He can't be prissy and high maintainence though. ech.. Personality--Boring people piss me off in general. Why on earth would I want to DATE a man like that? I like quirky. Not mental or jacked up (been there) just not afraid to think and speak outside the box. 1 Body--I prefer healthy, fit and toned but as long as he is healthy (no smokes, drugs, works out at least once a week) I'm cool. Money--I've got my own, but thanks for trying. And someone else said it, Money can't buy you happiness. Utility --I can do it myself, but it wouldn't hurt to have a handy guy. I REALLY don't like useless men. Yeah, I could pay someone but I'd rather spend my money on a trip to India than give it to someone else when I can do it better.:p |
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Personality - I like people who are up for anything and will try almost anything once. I can't stand guys (and people period) who are boring, uptight, and judgmental. Brains - Nothing will bring more security than knowing he'll make the right decisions. I'm with OohSoFly, with brains, hopefully money and utility will follow. Beauty - Not that important, but what if we have kids? I don't want my kids looking like Sloth from the Goonies. 1 Body - I couldn't care less, unless morbidly obese or under 5'6'' Money - If a guy's dumb and irresponsible, I don't think the money would last. Utility - If a guy already has brains, he should automatically be useful, unless he's lazy, lol. |
(10) Body: I choose body because that covers a lot of things. A good body will most likely produce a sharp mind (covering brains), good looks, and a certain private skill that all the ladies love covering utility :D
(10) Personality: I love to have fun and crack tons of jokes :p . . . I need someone who can appreciate my mind and sense of humor and can show me some of the same (10) Money: Besides my princess status in this life, I swear I must have continued to be some sort of royalty in my past lives as well. Yeah, I can get my money hustle on as much as the next person (and as a broke grad student, I really am $ hustling), but I swear,I HATE to work. :( Besides with money you can pay someone to do all that handy dandy stuff while me and dream guy chill on a beach somewhere:cool: |
I would pick brains foremost because I have little tolerance for somewhat who is not intelligent nor strives to be, money because you can love a rich man better than you can a poor one! personality- someone who has one- can make life very interesting. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Body is not that important to me.
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Dang Tony... you posed a very hard question.... good question tho...
I want my mate to have perfect 10's in Brains, Personality, and Utility... which means he will have 1s in Money, Body, and Beauty. I want my man to be able to talk to me, but also the world as well. He may not come in with money, but with his knowledge and skill sets, he will be able to focus on a goal. And when you are doing something you love... you know you can have more time to yourself.. which he will be able to stay healthy. So, he won't come in like that... but he has the brains and utility to be able to progress. |
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:D Will you marry me?:D Oh, I am already married... |
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I'm not . . . :D ;) . . gentlemen I'm still taking applications |
Soror Busy Bee - chile, there are too many bricks on this here body, LOL!!! :p
@PrettyBoy - I ain't mad at ya!! ;) |
Brains - 10 -I can't deal with stupid. Who has time to chase after someone all day - "No, honey, you can't drink that! It's bleach!" "Sweetie, no, please don't stick that fork in the electric socket!"
Beauty - 1 - As long as I can look at you without vomiting, I'm good. I don't care if my kids are "ugly". I see more "ugly" kids than I do adults, leading me to believe that "ugly" children grow up to be at least average-looking. Body - 10 - A butt in the front isn't cute. Money - 1 - I don't need a lot of things. I'm content with the basics. Personality - 10 - Not trying to be bored. Utility - 1 - We'd just have to hire people. |
Brains 10 i get aggravated when i get a sense of the lack of brains people have. that's men or women. but a dumb man is really a shame. however, if a man really had no brains, i wouldnt expect him to put a decent joke together, or be able to explain something to me, or really verbally express himself. and i cant have no dull, stuttering fool.
plus, sometimes i really like me a nerdy, brainy dude, especially if he totally knows it - then you have more fun and you dont have that weird "omg she thinks im a dork" thing in your head. Beauty 1 i have been attracted to a WIDE range of dudes, and the ones i felt the strongest about were typically the least attractive, in a physical sense. your looks can go, but if thats all you have going for you, then what makes you better than the next dude? plus, EVERYONE knows that an average dude can walk into a room and even if he looks like he is about his ish, chicks will be lining up. realize also that beauty and hygiene overlap, but not necessarily the same. i mean you can be gorgeous, but if your breaf stank and yo lips are cracked up, that is not beautiful at all. but, a very trimmed man can still be unattractive. Body 1 again, been attracted to a wide range of bodies. i figure when it comes down to gettin busy, your ish is either good or bad. and the lights are out. body parts are gonna jiggle and squish and do all sorts of stuff. now if you a little bigger, then a little more squishy goin on. if it dont bother him, it dont bother me. Money 1 im with the general consensus. if you have the brains, then i will hope my man will use them to get that money. and then use them brains some more to turn that money into wealth, so were not filing for bankruptcy years down the line. so yeah, you can show up broke, but dont plan on staying that way, or you wont be staying here! Personality 10 i think it takes some kinda brains to have personality. so, with the same theory, if you have brains, then you will be academically and mentally diverse to have such personality. too much of anything is no good, so if a man can get some depth in his character, i am with it! Utility (i.e. s/he can do whatever you need a mate to do for you in any area you would choose) 10 this goes hand in hand with the brains. if your brain can handle decent thought processes, you can surely put things together, explain when things go wrong, run errands, and pretty much hold the fort down. and that is a big turn on when a man can handle his and be secure in it. even if he's wrong sometimes, the fact that he didnt call me to get help or complain, rather, the fact that he took charge says a lot. again, LOVE IT when a man can pick up a book and explain something i dont understand (maybe this is why i always fall for educators - teachers, tutors, coaches) or talk fluently on a topic - LOVE IT! |
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Brains: Intelligence is always important. I have to have someone who can stimulate my mind. Intelligence also brings knowledge in various areas such as utility which helps gain money. Personality: You have to have a great personality. One's character shows what type of person they are. We have to have similar characteristics to be able to get along and be compatible. Beauty: Let's keep it real. I have to be able to look at you. Ones Money: This goes along with me being independent. I don't need your money. Also with brains, money is easy to obtain. Utility: I need to know how to do things on my own. Also, with brains, utilities can be learned. Body: I don't need you to have a hot body; although, it would be nice. I think one having a decent body also falls in the category of brains and personality. It's smart to be healthy and fit. Also, it should be part of your personality to want the best for yourself and want to look good/nice. |
Brains - 10
Personality -10 Beauty - 10 more than skin deep, but I also want to like what I see Money - 1 with his brains and mine we will have the money Body -1 hey mine ain't that great - LOL Utility -1 with the money we earn because of our brains, we could buy whatever we need done. Plus with brains, he could probably figure out how to do many things. |
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Utility, Beauty, and Body are all 10s. There's nothing like watching a cute guy with a nice bod fixing something. Brains, Personality, and Money are all 1s. Nerds are boring, and I have my own money. |
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Personality- He has to keep me entertained for life.
Brains- I don't like stupid people and I certainly do NOT want dumb kids running around the house! Beauty- He has to be able to get me going. Plus I don't want butt ugly kids running around ( money could buy plastic surgery, but the kids would still come out butt ugly)! *The rest are ranked 1s. |
Brains-1 Man this was the sacrifice between personality and brains, but being smarter than your mate isn't really that bad, and since he has money and a personality we can roll.
Beauty-10 Hello I have to have kids with this person! Body-1 Please, oh the least! Money-10 I am 100% positive that this would be a most as I have said before I am a much happier and functional person with money, I use to think it was shallow and unbecoming but I know that thats just me. Personality-10 We have to laugh together and share jokes, and inside things, and be able to talk, this is so important. Utility-1 We will pay someone to do these things....:cool: |
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