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LiNiqueLi 02-14-2007 01:04 AM

I have a question that has something to do with Alpha Kappa Alpha
 
I'm a high school senior and I have a friend who wants to pledge AKA. There's nothing wrong with that, but the problem I have with her is that she has an AKA layout on her myspace page. I personally find that offensive, mainly because I want to go greek when I get to college and would find it disrespectful for someone to represent my sorority when they are not a member. I told her that if someone found and reported it that she could get blacklisted, but she still has the layout on her page. Should I report her? I didn't at first, because I figured she was like many of the other girls at my school who want to pledge AKA who doesn't know anything about the sorority except the colors, but I told her, so I know she knows. One of my other friends already reported her to the website, but I want to know what you think I should do.

RedefinedDiva 02-14-2007 01:12 AM

What's the link to the page?

LiNiqueLi 02-14-2007 11:21 PM

No one cares?? I'm very surprised

pinkies up 02-14-2007 11:22 PM

Don't get it twisted. What's the link to the page?

tld221 02-14-2007 11:30 PM

$10 says its secretly her page. dont we all convienently have a "friend" when ish goes down?

no seriously, whats the link?

Drolefille 02-14-2007 11:33 PM

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Originally Posted by tld221 (Post 1399022)
$10 says its secretly her page. dont we all convienently have a "friend" when ish goes down?

no seriously, whats the link?

The link was up before and is gone now.

LiNiqueLi 02-14-2007 11:37 PM

I took it down, because I don't feel right posting her page on an open site like this. IF you want to see it, you'll have to send me a message. (Note: I do understand that myspace is probably a bigger site than this, but she decided to put it up there)

tld221 02-15-2007 12:00 AM

hey, your friend put a myspace page up representing something she shouldnt be.
you posting the link isnt any different than me typing in "LiNiqueLi's friend's Myspace page" in Google and getting the link.

greekchat is public. myspace is public. what is done in the dark comes to light, but if what she is doing is already in the light, youre no better or worse by hiding it cause she put it out there.

so, WHY TAKE IT DOWN? i guess we really dont need to see the page to answer your question. i dont think you need to report her, per se, but if shes your friend like that (and that is always questionable since everyone is friends with everyone because of myspace/facebook) then tell her what you told us. if she cant take the heat, get out her kitchen and let an actual AKA catch up with her.

i mean if youre telling complete strangers (meaning us) about her, chances are a LOT of other myspace users have seen her page. she'll meet her match. she's probably not the only one doing that mess and she wont be the last. like i said, she'll get caught up by the wrong AKA and get e-hemmed up.

now if you want an AKA member to respond, you can sit and wait on it... but thats my 22 cents.

RedefinedDiva 02-15-2007 12:07 AM

What's her name?

LiNiqueLi 02-15-2007 12:09 AM

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Originally Posted by tld221 (Post 1399034)
hey, your friend put a myspace page up representing something she shouldnt be.
you posting the link isnt any different than me typing in "LiNiqueLi's friend's Myspace page" in Google and getting the link.

greekchat is public. myspace is public. what is done in the dark comes to light, but if what she is doing is already in the light, youre no better or worse by hiding it cause she put it out there.

so, WHY TAKE IT DOWN? i guess we really dont need to see the page to answer your question. i dont think you need to report her, per se, but if shes your friend like that (and that is always questionable since everyone is friends with everyone because of myspace/facebook) then tell her what you told us. if she cant take the heat, get out her kitchen and let an actual AKA catch up with her.

i mean if youre telling complete strangers (meaning us) about her, chances are a LOT of other myspace users have seen her page. she'll meet her match. she's probably not the only one doing that mess and she wont be the last. like i said, she get caught up by the wrong AKA and get e-hemmed up.

now if you want an AKA member to respond, you can sit and wait on it... but thats my 22 cents.

Yes myspace is public, but the difference between her putting it on her myspace and me posting her myspace is that she is the one doing it, not me or anyone else. You are right about other people seeing her page, and that's what I told her, but I guess she thought I was hating on her. I was only trying to help her out because I know some die hard AKAs. One of her teachers, who is a Delta, suggested that I tell her to take it down.

tld221 02-15-2007 12:21 AM

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Originally Posted by LiNiqueLi (Post 1399039)
Yes myspace is public, but the difference between her putting it on her myspace and me posting her myspace is that she is the one doing it, not me or anyone else. You are right about other people seeing her page, and that's what I told her, but I guess she thought I was hating on her. One of her teachers, who is a Delta, suggested that I tell her to take it down.

ok fine. im just saying this. dont NOT post it because she would feel like you were backstabbing her. cause if thats your worry, you pretty much are willing to "report" her for this, or so you say. again, SHE volunteered to be caught out there the minute she attached her name and face to a public page.

it would be one thing if her page was listed as private, or you needed a password to get to it, or whatever, but since you didnt indicate it, she's wide open to be seen. and while those letters are copyright protected, your friend's page isn't so even legally she leaves herself (and her page) to be put out there en masse.

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I was only trying to help her out because I know some die hard AKAs.
no, you're helping her because you're a true friend and you dont want her hurting her chances of pursuing membership, right? are you worried about her catching a beatdown? are you trying to help her cause its ethically wrong? or, are you "helping her" because YOU, at some point, want to be an AKA, and she is somehow in a weird way, insulting your "future" sorority?

RedefinedDiva 02-15-2007 12:31 AM

If you KNOW some diehard AKAs, why not report it to them?

LiNiqueLi 02-15-2007 12:33 AM

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Originally Posted by tld221 (Post 1399041)
ok fine. im just saying this. dont NOT post it because she would feel like you were backstabbing her. cause if thats your worry, you pretty much are willing to "report" her for this, or so you say. again, SHE volunteered to be caught out there the minute she attached her name and face to a public page.

it would be one thing if her page was listed as private, or you needed a password to get to it, or whatever, but since you didnt indicate it, she's wide open to be seen. and while those letters are copyright protected, your friend's page isn't so even legally she leaves herself (and her page) to be put out there en masse.

I understand what you're saying right here and I agree that if she's caught, she has no one to blame but herself. What really made me mad was that I can guarantee that she knows little to nothing about the sorority and if you're announcing that you want to be something, learn a little history. That's the least she could've done, in my opinion



no, you're helping her because you're a true friend and you dont want her hurting her chances of pursuing membership, right? are you worried about her catching a beatdown? are you trying to help her cause its ethically wrong? or, are you "helping her" because YOU, at some point, want to be an AKA, and she is somehow in a weird way, insulting your "future" sorority?

I was trying to help her because it's ethically wrong. I don't know what I want to pledge yet, because I have been influenced by so many women in different sororities. I'm waiting until I go to college to see which one of these sororities will best suit me, but I know that if I was in a sorority and I saw someone wearing my colors and "repping" my letters I would be highly pissed because they haven't earned the right to do so. I have respect for GLOs and find it offensive for someone to disrespect any of them because of the influence those women have had on me

LiNiqueLi 02-15-2007 12:38 AM

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Originally Posted by RedefinedDiva (Post 1399044)
If you KNOW some diehard AKAs, why not report it to them?

I never thought about that. I think I might do that

Unregistered- 02-15-2007 12:46 AM

Happy Valentines Day, AKA.
 
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm...ndid=148996278

Yay for Page History.

Wonderful1908 02-15-2007 01:07 AM

If these girls are really in high school this is silly, I know that plenty of people in high school are confused about proper protocol in regards to a sorority and someone else in highschool thier age telling them its not right isn't probably who they are going to listen to, she has been warned and if the case be the people who need to know her will make it clear they already know. I almost hope this is a prank/troll becuase I would hate for someones my space page in highschool jack up something in college.

LiNiqueLi 02-15-2007 01:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Wonderful1908 (Post 1399055)
If these girls are really in high school this is silly, I know that plenty of people in high school are confused about proper protocol in regards to a sorority and someone else in highschool thier age telling them its not right isn't probably who they are going to listen to, she has been warned and if the case be the people who need to know her will make it clear they already know. I almost hope this is a prank/troll becuase I would hate for someones my space page in highschool jack up something in college.

Thank you for seeing things my way, but I had some people telling me that she should be reported. I didn't want her not knowing messing up something in her future. The only thing I didn't understand was her not knowing that her doing that is a big no no. Her mom's a Zeta, so I would have at least guess that she would have asked her mom to see if I was lying or not

RedefinedDiva 02-15-2007 01:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Wonderful1908 (Post 1399055)
If these girls are really in high school this is silly, I know that plenty of people in high school are confused about proper protocol in regards to a sorority and someone else in highschool thier age telling them its not right isn't probably who they are going to listen to, she has been warned and if the case be the people who need to know her will make it clear they already know. I almost hope this is a prank/troll becuase I would hate for someones my space page in highschool jack up something in college.

True. There are several high school girls that don't know. For every one that is just plain unaware, there are those that are fully aware of their actions. Some of them get downright C-R-U-N-K when you try to "gently" warn them. CountryGurl and I happened to roll across a young lady's page that was decked out in AKA symbols and all. She was even repping a chapter that Soror 2D just so happens to be a member of. CountryGurl asked the poor child to please remove the info, especially since she stated that she would be attending SU in the Fall. Y'all know that Beta Psi Sorors would have had a TOTALLY different approach had they seen it. The young girl got OFF THE CHAIN with CG. I alerted Soror 2D of the child's behavior. Needless to say, the problem was rectified.

I just hate to see poor girls this close to college having a problem like this preceding them. They should learn to take advise. But then again, this is the internet and some folks feel like their actions won't catch up with them.

jojapeach 02-15-2007 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by OTW (Post 1399052)

LOL Thanks a lot. I feel sorry for the young one. She doesn't know the mind of some people who might seriously keep tabs on her and where she may attend college in the fall. She just doesn't know. And got her name on the page... :o

LiNiqueLi - It seems that you have a lot of people that you could talk to. I would say take it to her mom, but maybe she's not ready to tell her mom she wants to be an AKA. Is it that big of a secret for your friend? I hope she doesn't think so considering that she's put her desires on the World Wide Web for any and everybody to see.

You've tried to help your friend. You can continue to try to get her to see the light, but it might be akin to banging your head on a wall. If she won't listen, make sure you're still on the right road to joining one of our illustrious sisterhoods. BTW, you should show her this thread also....

SKEEphistAKAte 02-15-2007 11:58 AM

LiNi-Tell Erica Joseph (aka Lil Erica) that AKA's love it when interests show us how they would look if they were members. I suggest that she sends a letter to the chapter that she is 100% certain that she will definitely become a member of when she graduates from Lake Charles Boston this year. Tell her to make sure she directs the sorors to this myspace page. It would not only give her future sorors an idea of how computer savy she is, but it will give them a preview of what a great soror she will surely someday be. Hope this helps :D


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