kellisorority's spring07 recruitment thread
 

Hi guys! I've been lurking on this site for quite a while... and finally decided to post and make my own thread.

I'm a freshmen and we just had our first day of rush! We have 8 sororities and I've been told that 247 people registered to rush.

Basically this is our schedule. We have 4 rounds/8 sororities.

Wed- Round 1 Day 1 (visit 4)
Thurs- Round 1 Day 2 (visit 4)
Fri- Philanthropy Night (can attend max of 6)
Sat- Skit Night (can attend max of 4)
Sun- Preference (can attend max of 2)

Good luck with recruitment! I hope you get your favorites!

GOOD LUCK! Keep us posted, it's so interesting!

I'll be cheering for Kappa Alpha Theta, but of course go w/ what's best for you (like you'd choose it based on random old me!).:D

CHANEL
GABBANA
OSCAR
PRADA
DIOR
BURBERRY
ARMANI
BETSEY

So tonight at 9:30 we find out which houses are inviting us back, and if all 8 houses do, we're sopposed to cut 2.

I'm def cutting ARMANI because when i went to open houses and also round 1 the conversation was just lacking... and it seemed like I was trying to keep the conversation alive and just awkward.

Now this is the hard part. I'm narrowed it down to either BETSEY or PRADA. Except I hope this is acceptable to say but PRADA's house it like 90%+ jewish, and I feel like since I'm not it would be the smart move to just cut PRADA? I know this may be a bad reason, but I'd def feel left out if the majority of the house is jewish. But I def feel that I had okay conversation. Now, BETSEY I think maybe I had "worse" conversation with them then compared to PRADA. But it was still just the first day... and I don't know what to do. HELP ANYONE? PRADA seems to be a better developed house and like knows what it's doing and they have their own website and stuff. They where the first sorority on my campus. So I just feel they're probably better organized. But I think I was dissapointed by BETSEY. Some people have told me that it's the most underrated house, and I met a few who seemed okay.

I was automanically set on just dropping PRADA just because of the whole religion thing, (because I know some girls who are dropping houses because it is majority catholic, and she would be like the only jewish person there.) Is this a legit reason to drop a house? And I def feel like that's not fair.

Also, when I was at BETSEY the first girl I talked to.. I asked her what her philanthrophy is and she didn't know and had to ask someone else.


I NEED HELP PLEASE! I have like less than a hour to deciede!

So far I'm ranking it as this...
OSCAR
DIOR (interchange w/ Oscar)
BURBERRY
GABBANA (interchange w/ Burberry)
CHANEL
?
?
ARMANI

Um, what's the point of coding the sororities if you're just going to give us a who's who? :confused:

[I didn't bother quoting you because you might want to edit your post]

Good one.

Yeah, I just suck on posting on these types of forums. :\

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Last edited by kellisorority : Today at 04:01 PM. Reason: didn't follow the "rules"

Just for clarification, it's not against the rules to reveal names. Most people choose not to do so for discretion purposes. Revealing as much info as you want is totally your choice -- but just remember that when it's not done tactfully, it could potentially hurt your chances of getting a bid.

Even if I didn't see the sororities and their code names before you edited your post, I can definitely tell which houses you're talking about already just by what you've posted.

Remember that you can still be honest and discreet at the same time.

Yeah, I don't know why I screwed up because I could of sworn I looked at other people's posts and they had both stuff up there. Or maybe I'm just hallucinating. Ah. This is bad.... less then 30 minutes. :(

Even though I didn't see the unedited posts I have an idea which sorority Prada is (but I'm not saying anything).

Religion is very touchy. From the sounds you aren't Jewish, so I can understand why you might be uncomfortable in a house that has primarily girls who are Jewish, but remember there are going to be sisters who aren't Jewish. And just because they are doesn't mean they wouldn't be great sisters.

I have to say go with who you felt most comfortable with at the houses. Which house did you have great conversations with. Which house did you really like the sisters. Which house did you really see a bond between the sisters.

As for the religion issue, I guess it really depends how religious you are and how much it matters to you.

My best advice is follow your heart.

I would suggest waiting to see how your invites come back before you make a final decision. At any of the houses with less than stellar conversation, you could have just ended up with a new rusher or a relatively unskilled one. Your conversation on another day could be much better.

Don't listen to other people's impressions. What really matters is your connection with the sisters.

Instead of stressing over it now, I'd say since you have a pretty good idea of how you feel, go get your invites and make your decision there if necessary. When you aren't trying to second guess yourself, and you have to choose quickly, I think you'll do better.

From wht you have written it sounds like everything is better at Prada than at Betsey. Religion shouldn't play into it and it sounds like a pretty easy decision to me.

Now if you only get invited back to 6 it's a moot point.......

Yeah, I agree with the others...worry about who to cut if that situation arises. You might be invited back to the magic number each time. If you try to decide first, you might set yourself up for disappointment. Best of luck! Let us know how it goes!

I am sure that I am answering this question after the time you have to make you decision. I was in the opposite situation as you. I am Jewish. There were no Jewish houses on campus in those days. When I pledged, I was 1 of 2 Jewish girls in my house. I have never regretted my decision ( I had a problem with a Born Again Christian who pledged 2 years after me and was irate that I would not convert). I am president of my Alumnae Association for the 3rd year, have applied to work on the National Level. No one else has ever made an issue of religion.

DaffyKD

i agree with daffykd. we had several jewish members when i was in college-frankly, it was not an issue at all. they were excused from events if they occured during a jewish holiday.

We had two sisters who were members of the Seventh-Day Adventist church. They also observe the Sabbath from sundown Friday to sundown Saturday.

They were excused from events that took place during the Sabbath and we changed Initiation day to Sunday to accomodate them. It was never a problem.

If you like the PRADA sisters and feel that they may be a good fit for you, then religion shouldn't be a problem.

Did you get your invites back yet?

listen i caught I lotta crap on here when I made the same decision. I definitely know how you feel. If the conservation would have been amazing and I really connected with the girls, I am not sure that it would have as big a deal as it was. I had nothing against them because they were jewish and thought they were a great group of girls who had accomplished a lot, but they weren't for me. Now who is to say that I might not join that same one at a different university? Go with your gut feeling and if you are willing to join them for the rest of your live, DON'T PUT THEM DOWN!

<disclamer> not an initiated member of a sorority, but I do know what they entail when you join.

Wait!

Hold up!

Please explain. How would you know what it's like when you join when you haven't even joined one?

what she means is that when she went through recruitment she had a similar situation and so as someone who's been in that same place she's trying to give advice on that aspect.

It really didn't sound like it.

i'm right about to fall asleep, but i'm hoping someone will read this by the time i wake up and have to go to skit round. I'll go in the details of the last 2 days tomorrow after I'm done with my rounds... but I just have a question.

tomorrow is the 3rd round/skit. sunday is preference. and i was just wondering from your experiences from both sides (rushee/member) if skit round was "okay" to tell a house that you absolutely want "their house."

and also, how to go about it. i don't want to be act all cliche and come off too strong and get cut. but after the first 2 rounds, i've just had the best conversations with these girls and i'm absolutely in love with the house.

from both sides, did you make a decision this early? and if you where one of the girls in the sorority, would you like having a rushee say this?

Just for clarification this is BURBERRY.

I think it's okay to say something like "I really love this house, I'm so comfortable here!" or "Your sorority seems great, I really look forward to coming back here every day."

Don't say it point blank. It'll make the conversation awkward. A member can not promise you a bid because a) it's against the rules to do so and b) she won't have any way of knowing if you would get a bid or not anyway, which is part of the reason why it's against the rules.

You definitely want to show enthusiasm for Burberry, and you can tell them things that you like about the chapter. For example, "your sisterhood seems very strong" or "it seems like your chapter has a lot of fun but knows when to be serious too". Think about why you like Burberry and point out things that you like to members without coming off too strong.

Another good way to show enthusiasm is to ASK QUESTIONS! Ask about aspects of the chapter that interest you. Social? Ask how they plan their events, what kind of themes they've had, etc (but do not talk about alcohol!). Philanthropy? Ask how they raise money and/or contribute time. Sisterhood? Ask about sisterhood events, ask why a member chose Burberry. Another good thing to ask that should definitely interest you is the new member period. Ask about bid day, meetings, new member events, getting a big, etc. or ask the member what her fondest memory of her new member period was.

Where else are you going tomorrow? Have fun and good luck!

completely forgot that i can acess this site w/ my sidekick, so guys please keep posting! this is great, thank you all so much!! :)

Just don't be doing that during parties. ;)

Good luck!

lol yeah. i'm checking it during breaks. i have a "bye round" right now.

Don't straight up say "I want this house and no others..." --- strange things happen at pref and someone else might pull ahead...but I would say, "I hope I see you tomorrow, I'm having such a great time with ABC."

Best of luck.

I just saw this forum, has there been any news yet?

I agree with the other girls that you shouldn't be like, I WANT THIS ONE!
A helpful hint, be persistant.
Good Luck!!

I don't mean to say I know what its like to join a sorority because no I never have and thats not what I meant. But I do have countless friends who have joined sororities and fraternities for that matter. It takes a lot of time and commitment on the the new members part to learn everything they need to know before initiation. I respect everyone for their commitment to actually go through with it. All I was trying to say was that I don't think it is wise to join a chapter you don't feel comfortable in regardless of your reasons or if anybody else agrees with your reasons. It has to be your choice and your choice alone.

Good luck, Kelli! I hope your decisions become easier throughout the week.

Agreed. Much in the same way a PNM gets hurt when she is promised a bid and doesn't get it, an active sister can get hurt when the PNM kisses ass too much and then goes somewhere else. There can be a lot of disappointment on bid day on both sides, and that is why you should be tactful.

Now, it is great to express that you really enjoy a house, just don't make any comments that make it sound like that house is the one and only.

Examples:

"I feel more at home here than any other house" == BAD
"I feel so comfortable here, I hope I get a chance to meet more sisters" == GOOD
"I can't wait to be an XYZ" == PSYCHO

Hope things are going well for you! Looking forward to an update!

She hasn't been back since the 13th. My WAG is that she got bad news.

kelli, if you feel comfortable updating us, please do.

aephi_alum,
what is WAG short for??

wager a guess?

wild ass guess.

*spits coffee on keyboard*

Good one!

Ewwwww!!! Hehehehehe!!!! :)