D9 question.
 

Hey when you are out and you see another member of the D9 that's not in your fraternity/sorority, do you acknowledge them and have a conversation? Normally I do, but when I did recently to this guy in XYZ fraternity, he looked at me like :confused: . I walked away, and said to myself "Wow, I wonder what that was about." Oh well.:confused:

Last week I was in Burlington Coat Factory and noticed my cashier wearing a Zeta Phi Beta t-shirt so I said, "Oh you're a Zeta" with a smile. I then told her I was a Delta. Her response? "Oh."

WOW.

I like to pick on people anyway so I have no problem picking on someone from another D9. I usually try not to choose someone too young because they are probably still in the stage of taking themselves and their organization waaaayyyy too seriously.

I can see the issue from both sides though. I understand showing Greek Love and being playful but some people just don't have it in them and act like it's a crime. I know a Bruh who acted like it was gay for this Alpha to pick on him for having on the "wrong 'nalia." Like dude was trying to pick him up. :rolleyes: Self-importance.

Hmmmmm...chapter philanthropy or her 'nalia was the only clean shirt in the house?

LOL, perhaps the boss doesn't care what they wear on Saturdays?:confused: I was confused by that as well. It was a black shirt and what caught my eye was the crest. If I was just a random person without any Greek experience, I would have ignored it or asked what's "Zeeeeta Phi Beeeta." :p

About 7 or 8 years ago I worked at a data processing center with no dress code and we sat in cubicles all day unless we were walking around the building (i.e. going to the employee cafeteria). I wore my line shirt one day and another 'nalia tshirt another day. I discovered a lot of Sorors and other D9 members working there b/c they of course noticed me. But for the most part I got a lot of unnecessary attention and curious stares because I was...uh...wearing letters to work...for no damn reason.

What the hell was I thinking? :confused: The nonline shirt even had some cheesy "living the dream in crimson and cream" caption. :o

Whew. :(:D

Ques used to do that to me ALL the time!

Actually, not just Ques. But it feels like it.

Anyway, I always try to make a point to acknowledge other Greeks in public, even if it's just an "I see you, Greek!" as I'm walking by.

But I've had various responses.....this lady with a Delta bag was on the Metro looking like she was having the worst day in the world. So I just said "Smile -- you're a Delta!" and kept walking, and she was so tickled.

But then one of the guys I went to school with became a Kappa, and I made a joking remark like "I'll forgive you" and he got soooooo salty and said "We're all Greek together!"

And I was like....d'uh..... lol

You know what? I make conversations with everybody...... I saw these black ladies who were members of the Red Hats (I could tell by the red hats and purple suits) and I was like "I see you, Red Hat Society!"

I'm weird like that.

:)

The theme for Convention 2008. Reminiscent of "don't worry be happy."


LOL. That's cute. I would've never guessed the name of that society. I mean, it's obvious but still.

I had only ever heard of them because of GreekChat! If I hadn't, I woulda been like DAMN they some bamas!

if she's cute, i'll probably say something.

but it usually has nothing to do with anything greek related after the first few sentences.

Yeah it quickly moves to "can you do my math homework for me, starang?"

I know, because you pick on me all the time.....;)

Coincidentally or not, I don't pick on Kappas. There's always something "don't speak to me, bitch" about them when I come across them.

I usually speak to men in fraternities when I cross thier paths but I've found women tend to have some salt about them for some reason..even if I don't tease them, its a kinda "why are you acknowledging me" attitude..:rolleyes: I usually just give it the "whateva heffa" look and KIM....so much for unity I guess...

slight hijack....have you ever spoken to a member of your own org and they were less then cordial....end slight hijack

"I don't like new people" so I don't go out of my way to speak to anyone other than sorors. If another D9 member randomly speaks to me, I would probably just say "Hi" and keep moving. If it is a good day I might ask them where they pledged just to see if we know any of the same people. Other than that they are just another stranger who happens to be in a D9 org. ~shrugs~

Of course. :D With hundreds of thousands of women with different personalities, it's inevitable. The longer you're in your organization, the more you will encounter such folks and the more you'll be one of those folks on occasion.

I've had some women be superstank to the point where I had to really figure out what the problem was but for the most part I just chalk it up to life. I know there are times when I don't feel like being bothered or am in a hurry. I don't wear letters often and go to the same places all the time, so for the most part I only run into Sorors who I already know and get along with. But I don't wear letters or purposefully go around Deltas if I don't feel like being bothered with speaking.

quit talking dirty to me

For me, never. We tend to be so few and far between that it has been my experience that I've never had a negative encounter with one of my sorors. It has ususally been along the lines of them being inactive, they see me in letters, and they ask me about reactivation, so the experience has been positive.

The only times that I am out and about in letters are when I've just left chapter meeting and had to run some errands, or during Christmas time out shopping when I wear my SGR sweaters.

But, I've had both good and bad experiences with other D9s. I've had a 'sisterfriend' or two throw her nose up in the air when I speak to her, so I just let it go. Usually the guys are more receptive.

That's crazy for someone to diss you just because you aren't in the same D9 organization. I speak because it's polite. Now, I was with two of my best friends, one a Delta and the other a Zeta, and we were in the mall. We had on our 'nalia, and these AKA neos looked at me like "What are you doing with the enemy." I asked them a "question" and they looked confused, so I ignored them anyway. However, I think it's juvenile to expect people to only talk to members of their own organizations.

Yeah, ditto. :D The only negative encounter I have had with a Soror is the one Soror in the DC area who I was blowing my horn at.

As for other D9 orgs I get this from one sorority in particular. I was in Staples just this Friday and this lady about my age was mugging me really hard in line. She looked at my key chain twice. I ignored it and made light conversation with her anyway about the prices, etc. and left. I made a note to look at her car when I left the store and sure enough she had the tag of that sorority. Not all of my encounters are that way with this sorority. I have actually made some friends and had pleasant encounters with co-workers etc. As for the men -- they usually flirt! ;)

That's the same response I got.

Is this one of your jokes?

I've never had a problem with my own fraternity. When I do see my fraternity brothers, they always give me information on things they are doing and always invite me to come. I do the same to them.

The only problem I ever had with anyone in the D9 was the recent one I mentioned. I like to tease Deltas. I saw a Delta at the movies a couple of weeks ago. I told her I like her Nupie colors. She laughed and said " I see this Delta got your attention, and you weren't just looking at my colors Mr. Kappa Man." I laughed.

One of my best friends is an Alpha. He also happens to be a police officer. Whenever I am in town (He lives in the town where my family is from) and he sees my car, he will get on the Police Cruiser's mega phone and scream out, "0000-6!" The whole neighborhood is like:confused: ? I just laugh it off and throw him the YO! We tease each other all the time. I tell him all the time, "just because you're the oldest...don't make you the coldest!";)

That reminds me of my dad. He's an Alpha and teases my brother and I about being Nupes. We were watching National Geographic on TV and there were these lions chasing these wildebeasts and he laughed and said look at those Alphas chasings those Kappas. I said "Corny joke dad." I'm going back home for the holidays and I gotta hear it all over again. :D

They don't get it...just tell him Gorillas belong in the Mist! My uncle is a Que and we battle every holiday. I refer to him as "Old Yellar" and remind him of what happens in the end.

;) Hahh Haaa... Skating is just... Wrong...

Hayle, we had to stop when I pledged as an ivy for just about EVERYBODY who had their letters... Most DEFINITELY for Phrat... That just would not be tolerated if we failed to greet them properly...

I was reared by just about everyone in a D9 organization... So, I am obliged to speak to them on general principle.

I think it has something to do with geographic location. Where I reside, there are not that many of US. That means that there are even less of US in the D9. So if we see ANYONE in the D9, it would be prudent to say "hello", at least.

Hayle, I am getting spoken to by other greeks in the IFC, NPC and NIC... I work with this lady for the Komen Race for the Cure who is a member of Zeta Tau Alpha Sorority. She's in her 60's... It's awesome.

So, we need each other in order to survive.

Within unity, there is strength...

...this right here ^^ is funny. Represent, frat!

LOL. Those are good ones. my uncle is a Que too. Infact, pretty much my whole family are Alphas, Ques, AKAs, and Deltas. There are no Sigmas, SG Rhos, Iotas or Zetas in the family yet. There weren't any Nupes either until my brother and I changed that in 91'. We're the only two Nupes in the family:D . Hey Nupe, I'll definitely tell my dad about the Gorillas belonging in the Mist.:p LOL.

No, I'm serious.

If I see a stranger in letters other than mine, I don't break my neck to acknowledge their affiliation; its just an interesting fact. If its a soror or a bruh, I will acknowledge the affiliation and make conversation, if possible.

One day, I was introduced to the daughter of one of my mom's coworkers. I was wearing something with my letters on it and she said, "Oh, your a Delta. I'm a ___ ____ ____ . " Then she did her call to me. I was like :confused: and wasn't sure what she wanted me to say so I just said "Oh". :cool:

Now if its someone that I am acquainted with and I am just finding out their affiliation, I think its cool. I found out that a coworker is an _____ ____ _____ and I was surprised because she didn't strike me as one although I know several. Its all good because we tease each other whenever we run into each other.

I def acknowledge, I just feel like its the right thing to do, now whatever their response is, they can't say I was acting funny cause I'm a 'D'

I have like 8 play bros and they are all alphas, and Im not talking about what a lot may think intelligent, laid back, conscious brotha type of Alpha Man...

Im talkin country, loud, thug, done been to court one time too many alphas, but not stupid at all(2 are teachers, 1 csr mgr, 1 flight attendant, 1 nurse, others too shame to say) . I swear everyone says when they meet them...these dudes are alphas???????

I know, and love many folks that are in dif groups, we clown each other, but its all love...

I know of some Kappas that can fit the same description.......

I know a CHAPTER that this is standard breed for Alphas... but I love those guys, they're mad cool and they are FUN at a cookout or card party..:p :p

That's what makes them your family. Just like we all got an aunt or uncle who gets too drunk at the picnic and does some made up 'ol school dance. You just laugh, shake your head, and scream out, "go 'head, go 'head..."!

Yeah, me too. I get acknowledged by NPC/IFC too. I try to expand my knowledge too. I remember one time a member of the IFC acknowledged me and he said he heard a lot of great things about my fraternity. I had never heard of his :o . I looked it up on the net and they had been around well over 100 years. Now I try to gain as much knowledge as I can, so I don't look shallow.