BOYS SUCK
 

Okay...those who've already heard my story can just skip all my whining and moaning and post your stories.
I just had to let you all know that wonderful, nice guy I was seeing...dumped me VIA EMAIL.
WHAT A CROCK.
So he tells me that he just wants to be alone and that he is sick of me...thanks...and that he doesn't want a girl friend. Oh, and then he adds, 'Please do not call me all crying and asking me why.'
WTF. All I have to say is that boy has some ego to think I'm gonna call his house crying...or furthermore respond to a pathetic email.
BOYS SUCKS.

Amy,

Any guy who breaks it off http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/mad.gif VIA EMAIL http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/mad.gif obviously isn't a real man...and what he said to you is typical boy behavior.

http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif WTF http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif is right. Who is this jerk to assume that you're going to be crying your eyes out. I hope he knows that you're smart enough not to waste your tears on a guy like him.

Hoping you'll have better days ahead!

Thank you OTW. I'm doing better. I'm trying to adjust to the not seeing him part. I suppose we live and learn. I'm just glad it wasn't 6 months down the road.

Amy- I am so sorry that had to happen and in such a childish way! Everyone is going to say "you are better off without him" but it is hard the first month to believe that. You are a beautiful person Amy! He don't deserve ya!! sue

Thank you all. I know I can count on you guys to keep me happy when a stupid boy goes and does something like this. Oh well. To make up for it I've had a pretty good week of sales...so that makes me happy.
Love in Chi O-
Hootie

hey when my ex dumped me by email- he said it was because he was having too much fun going out with his friends and get this he wrote," I don't deserve to treat you this way and you don't deserve to be treated this way." Hmm if you are dumping me by email this line is a bunch of bull. I feel you Hootie!

Hootie, you deserve better than that and that guy is a loser for what he did to you. At least with every bad experience you will grow to be smarter and wiser woman. Any guy would be fool not to realize how wonderful you are.

Kevin

Thanks Kev

What a Jerk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Your welcome Amy http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Hootie,

Sorry to hear about the breakup. That guy was a complete jerk and he obviously doesn't realize that he just lost a wonderful girl. I have to agree with everybody else and say that you deserve so much more. You shouldn't settle for anyone...make him treat you like the PRINCESS you are!!!!! I know how you're feeling right now. Practically all of the relationships I've had since I've been in college have ended very badly (I had the email breakup happen too.) I heard a quote today that totally applies to your situation..."People last, hard times don't." I know you're a very strong woman and you'll be able to pull through this and be an even stronger and more wonderful human being. Hang in there!!!!!!

Allison

Hootie: Am sorry about what happened. You deserve better...we all do. I agree with the selfish jerk, loser, etc. comments completely.

Lana: Ya know, I hate when peeps say "you don't deserve this but...." or "I know I shouldnt say/do this but...." and then do or say what they know they shouldnt. Like, the pre-apology gives them ok to act like a jerk.

Next time somebody prefaces a remark with "I know I shouldnt, but..." remind me to reply: "Yes, you shouldnt and walk away..."



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"Ginger Rogers did everything Fred Astaire did, but she did it moving backwards and in heels."

Men are like pens they work at first and then eventually they run out of ink.

Thank you so much Allison and Lana. I like BOTH of those quotes a lot. They really just put me in a better mood.
I've decided that perhaps it's not necessarily HIM that saddens me...but the change. I don't like change very well and it is sometimes overwhelming. I just got off the phone with my best friend and I told her that there is just something missing in my life and I can't quite place my finger on what it is.
I know there are many things I want to change in my life right now, and although I still don't know what it is I'm missing...the fact that I KNOW what I want to change will help me realize what is missing.
For one I want to start exercizing more. As Reese says in Legally Blonde...'Exercizing releases endorfins and make people happy...Happy people just don't kill their husbands.' In other words...I think the stress of life has made me unhappy and moody and if I just get off my butt inbetween work and school and DO SOMETHING, I'll probably feel better and start looking better too. Don't get me wrong...I'm not some lazy, overweight slob. I just know I need to be happy.
Secondly I've realized I want to start going to church more regularly. I really need more spiritual influence in my life. People who communicate with God daily seem to be happier too. I don't know if you will all agree but I just know it's something that I've been meaning to do and just haven't. Now's the time.
So...I've had an epiphany at 1 34 am on a lonely Sunday morning. But it's all good...I feel much better. Now if only GC had spell checker I'd feel 10x's better LOL.
Hootie

I hear you Hootie. I went to the used book store and bought two self-help books: "If I'm so wonderful Why am I Single?" and " Why do I need a man to Survivie?(the title is something close to this) They are both pretty decent books. The first book actually has activities- answering questions she has in a journal.
I don't like change too much either. My summer is pretty depressing- no car, my parents get on my nerves, I swear all I do is clean house bc no one else will, my bf dumped me : I am excited about going back to school- only a month until work week!!! SO I am sure once school starts you will be so busy that you will end up feeling better especially bc you will be around your sisters!

Amy,

I know its tough right now but eventually this feeling will pass in time. Exercise and pampering yourself(Esp. with your sisters) definitely is the best medicine. One other thing you (Allison and Lana also) should remember is that your young LOL Unlike myself. So dont sweat it so much. Just remember your the prize http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Kevin

Thanks Kevin. At times I do find my ex's email kind of funny especially when he wrote that he doesn't deserve to do this to me- how is it exactly hurting him to dump me by email?!LOL He got off easy. I remember one of his brothers telling me that I should've met him (meaning my ex's fraternity brother)first- I wish I had!

Amy,

I am so sorry to hear about the jerkus move he pulled! Keep your head up! I know ALL about bad boyfriends (relationships)! But it maybe hard at first but life goes on and so will you! My philosophy on guys is that they are not worth it if they don't treat you right - and I'm not talking about going out on high class dates, but respectfully as a person. If he doesn't have that respect for you as a person and your feelings to tell you personally, then God may have just sent you a blessing in disguise, because I doubt that he is the one for you. So don't worry about it and focus on yourself. Love will find you when you least expect it. Thats awesome that you want to get closer to God! I was raised very christian (Catholic) and I must say, that it is really nice to have a relationship with God. When I feel like I have the world on my shoulders, I just ask the Lord to be by me and watch over me. Sometimes you have to Let Go and Let God! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif It will always work, HE promises! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif I know that whether or not things go my way - it happens for Gods reason. Just let him guide your life and you will be fine. I don't mean to be so preachy...and God knows I'm not a saint! But a relationship with him is so comforting when you need someone there.
We all love you!

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Lana, your welcome. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Just be glad that it happened and you see him for what he is. At least now you know his true colors and you have experience http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Kevin

Remember: If he had to tell you by e-mail then he wasn't man enough to have the courage to tell you personally. He didn't deserve you. In fact, he doesn't deserve anyone. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Amy!! You are such an awesome girl and this guy DOES NOT DESERVE YOU! Anytime you want to talk- you know where to find me!!

Love you!

May

Yeah, unfortunately, this IS what happened to me. The guy says he still loves me but can't deal with the distance anymore. Something I just don't quite understand. If he loves me, why would he rather not see me anymore? Can anyone explain this to me?

That to me sounds like a wimpy excuse. Either that or he's found someone else and wants to pawn the DISTANCE THING off as a reason.
But, I honestly don't know because I've never dated anyone long distance. I know people who have and it is tough. The sacrifice and committment is hard but few do make it through.
But ultimately the only way I can relate to your situation is when I broke up with my previous exboyfriend. I wasn't happy anymore and he wasn't willing to meet me half way on certain things. It's a terribly long story but I loved him dearly and I just knew that he wasn't what I needed and so I broke it off. That was probably the hardest thing I had to do; let the person I loved go. I found it funny that after all the promises he made to me and telling me he wanted to marry me and everything...he could just so easily let me go without a comment; litterally.
But...better things come along and I've learned not to settle.
Good Luck and just know you're the prize...as everyone has pointed out to me.
Hootie

I was in a similar situation for a while, but I ended breaking it off because of distance. A lot of it has to do with uncertainty, not being sure that this is the right relationship. He may really love you, but need opportunity to check out the scene, esp if you guys have been dating a long time. Long distance relationships take a lot of effort, and some people just aren't willing to make that, even if the other person may be amazing. It's all about personal dedication and willingness to make a concerted effort to make it work. Unfortunately, some just don't think it's worth it.

Liv