Dying Wish: Is this sweet or morbid?
 

I found this article about a terminally ill 17 year old who, through the Make-a-Wish Foundation, is realizing her dream of having a fancy wedding...

http://www.cleveland.com/lake/plaind...510.xml&coll=2

I feel so horrible because I want to be able to say, "That's so sweet!" but to tell you the truth, reading the article gave me the heebie jeebies.

How nice of them to grant this dying girl's wish, it brought tears to my eyes.

Why am I having flashbacks of "A Walk to Remember"?

Why Morbid?

A dying child and The Wish Foundation give people good times before they Die!

Yes Die!

Not sure that would be mine at all for sure!

Exactly what I was thinking.

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That article about broke my heart. I think it's sweet.

Since her mother is a single mother, this will be a great memory for her too, as that is one of the huge regrets a mother has when they lose a daughter or a son, that they never get to see them married or have a child.

Even though she won't really be married, considering the insurance issue, they have come up with a great alternative.

Me, too.

Honestly, I think it's incredibly sad that this is the wish of a 17-year-old, and I'm kind of creeped out by the whole thing -- while recognizing that my opinion doesn't mean a damn thing to her or her family. But WTF, for real.

I'm with you, sister. It makes me think of 14 year olds in rural Utah being married off or something.

It's very nice that the girl got what she wanted - honestly, I can't imagine being in a situation where death was imminent, and I can't even begin to imagine what my first choices would be in that case.

When I was working in the hospital system in Boston, I heard a full range of requests from kids at Dana Farber who were chosen by Make-A-Wish. Because of that, her choice doesn't surprise me in the least.

It's nice to see that she got what may be one of her last happy moments.

I vote with the heebie jeebie contingent.

I'm crackin' up 'cuz you sed "heebie jeebies" about a wedding...

I wonder . . . if a boy made a wish to have sex with a woman before he died, would the Foundation send him to Nevada? Well why not?

James;
While I do not know for sure, good bet that they do have some SOP that they run operation on.
Here is their web site-ask them:
http://www.wish.org/
http://www.wish.org/about/how_we_grant_wishes
http://www.wish.org/about/frequently_asked_questions

because that movie was like this


how sad/sweet


kind of strange, but so is everything relating to the heart

i'm glad she got her wish, I hope she enjoyed her wedding night. ;)

You know the dude will have strange memories forever though, but good for him, its good he's doing/did this.

they would have to, now at least, otherwise they'd be trapped in their own PC paradox.

Not maybe the most conventional wish, but why not? For most people the actual wedding part is just a big party, anyway.

I was pretty evenly split...I'm kind of creeped out by the whole implications for the "groom" to be, but my opinions don't really count for much anyway.

Here's a news video with footage from the ceremony. She was a lovely bride and seems very happy about it. I wish them well.

http://keyetv.com/topstories/local_story_260131824.html

Umm OK. They didn't need a lot of other things, like building permits, either. :)

If they want to have a commitment ceremony that's fine, but I think there are probably people in her congregation (or denomination) that aren't crazy about it being performed by a minister in a church. It's not the same as a gay marriage because they COULD legally get married - they're just not because of the insurance.

I don't know, something about this just bugs me.

Me too, but if it's what she wants, go for it.

Once I read the article for myself, I didn't find her wish to be weird AT ALL.

She and her boyfriend who proposed last summer, want to be together and IF she weren't going to dye, hopefully they would end up together. She is realistic enough to know that because of her illness, a wedding somewhere down the line simply wasn't going to be possible.

As for having a committment ceremony, due to insurance issues, sounds reasonable to me also.

I have CHF, to the tune of 90% heart failure. And at this time, I probably wouldn't MARRY a man without a great insurance plan, we'd be broke...

I commend her for knowing what she wanted. Some children choose to have state of the art electronic set ups, huge sweet 16s, really special vacation. She wanted to experience a wedding to her true love as she knows it right now.

To me, that is a reasonable request....what about those people who request to see someone famous...to me, this is something that those closest to her got to participate in and will remember upon her death! It really showed the commitment level of her boyfriend - I think it is great!

If I was dying, I know that this would be my wish! Getting married is one of those big milestones in life in addition to having children and watching them grow up (which she'll never have or get to see). What should she do as her last wish? Go to Disney world?! lol
I also love how her boyfriend is staying by her side even though it must be tough for him to know she'll die and watch her decline. I wonder how long they've been together.

So? What concern is it of them? If it bothers them that much, they should change churches. The Methodists are a farily liberal crew anyway, so I doubt too many people cared - especially giving the circumstances.

In terms of the wish, I also don't see the creepiness of it. Yes she's young, but it's not like she's 13. She knows she's gonna die, it's a huge life event she wanted to experience, that's it.

I think it's sweet. And I suspect the only major difference is that they won't be signing a marriage license at the end.

If some people are more concerned about the assumed extra-marital sex that will be happening on the honeymoon then what this is really about, then they need more things to do with all that time on their hands.

Exactly, especially the last line. Love conquers all. Even Death.

They made a point to say that the mother would be chaperoning the honeymoon.

She looked lovely, and he looked happy. I think it's a little odd, but very sweet.

i saw that movie...but i didn't.....refresh my memory?

I'm sure not much will be going on during their honeymoon as her mom will be chaperoning their trip!

oh, now that's some bull sh*t, that poor guy......and girl, before she dies of cancer. They should get that experinece she is 17 in love and dying :(

It would be funny if mom was like, "you are too young to have sex . . ."

Will she follow it up with a wait till you are older speech?

It's a Mandy Moore movie, where this guy is a big pain in the ass jerk, and then he gets caught doing something wrong and is "sentenced" to tutoring underprivileged kids, and to the Drama club (WTF the drama club??, oh well), both programs that of course, Mandy Moore is a part of. So they fall in love and then she tells him she has terminal cancer so they get married and she dies. The End.

ETA: That's some BS too about the honeymoon. I remember the episode of "Dinosaurs" where they talk about "The Mating Dance" that "should only be done in the confines of a loving, monogamous relationship, preferably marriage". If they're having a "commitment ceremony" they're obviously in a monogamous relationship (probably moreso then some people who are actually MARRIED), and she's going to die anyway, what's the difference if they actually get to have sex??? Come on mom...let her be a teen. Unless the guy is "saving himself" for his "real wife" later...in which case, he probably shouldn't have gone through with the wedding in the first place.

oh nevermind. i guess i didn't see it. mistook it for somethign else.

Guess it was more like a Walk You Didn't Remember :)

"the honeymoon -- a trip to New York City -- chaperoned by Nicole's mother"

I would think the mom is going because by most state laws the daughter is still a minor and can't cross state lines by herself legally. Plus there's the statutory rape thing as the boyfriend is 19. I somehow doubt the mom is going along to stop any sex from happening.

I just went back and re-read, and the boyfriend lives in their basement, so I guess all immoral arguments are kind of out the window anyway. You would think that this would appese the family that thinks she's being immoral, instead of them living together "in sin". Some people.:rolleyes:

There's nothing wrong with wanting to meet a celebrity...you probably won't get to do it, but asking never hurt!