Good Luck BamaDaughter!
 

BamaDad: You and your daughter deserve your own thread! We're excited to have a GreekChat dad on the boards! :D

YAY.. good luck is being sent her way!

Thank you! Shall I use this as my thread? I'm real excited and my daughter is real tired. Couple things of note. As with many girls in her group, their opinions shifted towards the various houses based on today's exposure. Houses that were a hair lower on the list jumped to the top and vice versa. adpiucf, I think I better tell you I graduated from USF in Tampa - go Bulls! My youngest daughter, a hs sophomore, has UCF identified as one of her possible choices (but not USF) - go Knights!

That's ok, Dad. I won't hold it against you! :p My boss is a Bull and we have a deal going where whoever wins our football game this season buys the other one lunch for a week (and he doesn't know it yet, but I will be wallpapering his office with black and gold streamers!!!!)

WOO HOO BAMA DAD!!!!!!!!!!!!

S-O-U-T-H F-L-O-R-I-D-A
South Florida
South FLorida
GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO BULLS!!!!!!!!!



I am an alum of USF and UCF. You can't go wrong with either school.

Good luck to your daughter! I have been following your story and it looks like she is doing great at Univ. of Alabama's rush. I'll keep my fingers crossed for her and be sure to give us an update when you hear from her this morning!!!

*Wishing BamaDaughter the very best in Recruitment!!!*


(And thinking that she has a very special father! It's great to see Mom & Dad threads!)

It's also exciting to think that your family may be starting a wonderful Greek tradition! (The mother of a girl who just pledged at UGA said that her younger daughter was so excited at the thought that she is now a legacy!)

Here's hoping the best for your girl!

Okay, my daughter just called with her Philanthropy day results. She has been asked back to 8 sorority houses after being selected for 13 house visits yesterday (she visited the maximum 11 allowed). She is allowed make seven visits today. Guess what? She is totally thrilled with each house, saying: "Daddy, if I had to pick an absoulte favorite this morning I just couldn't do it. I love them all." She promised to give a 100% effort at every house. Needless to say, I am really proud of my Bama daughter.

Sounds like she's having a good recruitment. If her invitations continue like they have, I hope she'll be able to make a decision! :D

Not being familiar with the process, I imagine the tables could turn at a moment's notice. She was selected for 13 from Open House, then 8 from Philanthropy Day. She hypothetically could get reduced to 1, 2 or even 0 after today, I suppose. So I don't know if she is quite out of the woods yet. Thank the stars above Alabama we are getting near the end!

Congrats to Bama Daughter!!!!

While you are correct, the tides could turn at any moment, I would say that in a competitive recruitment like Bama, getting invites to more houses than parties for each round so far is a GREAT thing. Her positive attitude and open mind will really help her out now. Best of luck to her and I can't wait to hear the next update!

Hello!! I've been reading this thread and I echo all of the earlier sentiments. It's great to see a Dad so supportive of his daughter's recruitment!!

Best of luck to your daughter, BamaDad!! I'm looking forward to seeing how things went after this round!

And hang in there, you are almost done!! Hee hee!

Kudos to BamaDaughter! It's awesome she is doing so well in such a competitive system. I attended the Univ. of Alabama about a million years ago, and even then, it was very competitive (although this was the 1970s). I wish both you and your daughter the best! It's really hard on us parents -- we're the ones waiting by the phone with bated breath!! It'll be my turn next week -- TexasDaughter starts Recruitment on Monday!

Congrats and best of luck to your daughter!
and can i just say, i think i want you as my dad! you seem to be a GREAT dad!!! :)

Good luck to TexasDaughter next week! My daughter is having the time of her life, but she is so anxious to find out something. Very upbeat today, so i hope her luck continues....

it is great to hear that your daughter is having such a good time!

Congrats Bamadaughter!

Bama Dad - you can try to tell your daughter to maybe tell every sorority that she is interested in - that she is interested - I mean for her to tell them what they want to hear -

Sororities want to give bid to ladies who want to receive a bid so if she tells everyone- that she likes them, then that should help her - from their side i mean. (did that make sense?)

Great for you to have your own thread.

thanks for the updates.

My daughter called regarding Six Party Day. She said she basically alked to the same girls she had the day before on Philanthropy Day. Do the houses do that to simply go through the motions ? I would think if you are interested in a pnm you would have other girls talk to her. Today was just the weirdest day. She did not like the way it went compared to all the previous days though, so she is definitely worried. A senior at one house knew her entire resume pretty well, and they had a great conversation. She has no idea with whom, if anyone, she will be asked back tomorrow. Bad tidings perhaps? Seems odd to go from 13 for Philanthropy Day to 8 for Six Party Day then feel like you didn't fare as well. Who knows....I'm off to Starbucks for a coffee. I'l look for any comments or thoughts if anyone has any input when I get back.

Don't borrow trouble yet. It could be that's just how it worked out. When will she find out her invitations for the next round?

They find out tomorrow morning at 7:00 AM.

As an aside, here's a silly question: if you can go to up to 8 parties, why do they call it six party day?

This is Bamadaughter's mom with a question--Is it normal for conversation to fade off towards the end of the week? She said that much of the conversation today seemed stilted. Often the same question was asked a few times during the 25 minute conversation. Since this happened 5 out of the 6 parties, I'm assuming (and hoping) that everyone is just getting exhausted. Any thoughts?

It is typical to talk to the same girls over and over again as the rush week progresses. These are girls who like your daughter, feel comfortable with her, etc. Most likely, these are the girls who will pref her.

I met my future big at our house's first rush party and talked to her every single party round, as well as her other friends. Same goes for the other houses I eventually preffed at; they kept me with the same girls. From the other side of rush I can tell you that we get to pick which girls we talk to after the first round.

As for repeat questions, not sure what that is all about... sounds like sloppy rushing if you ask me.

BamaMom and BamaDad - First I think it is wonderful that you are so supportive of your daughter through this crazy process that we call recruitment.

Quite honestly, I think you may have hit the nail on the head about the repeated questions. Recruitment is a very exhausting process on both sides; I think some of that may have come through to your daughter. These times are perfect opportunities for your daughter to steer the conversation by asking a question or making a comment about a particular sorority that will open new opportunites for conversation. For example, she might ask a member what her favorite activities or memories about her sorority are or ask a direct question about a sorority's philanthropy. This will show the member that she is interested in her sorority as well smooth over the rough conversation spots.

Preference rounds, which I assume are quickly approaching, are wonderful. Your daughter will have the opportunity to see firsthand the sisterhood that each sorority shares. For me, it was the moment that answered the question where I would find my Greek home. Just tell her to listen (and speak) with her heart.

Thanks for sharing your daughter's updates with us.:)

Thanks for your comments. I just hope, despite the lapses in conversation, that Bamadaughter gets at least one invite tomorrow. We're keeping our fingers crossed and trying to keep her spirits up. She is quite bummed right now.

Well it could be that she didn't connect with the ladies she met today. But she's had a good recruitment so far and I can't see her blantantly not clicking with every single person she met today! So it could also very well be that everyone is exhausted and stressed out and meeting 40 new people each day. The questions get a bit repetitive and you have to tell everyone your major and hometown 14 times at one party. The sorority women are staying up late to set up, conduct membership selection and make everything perfect for the next round, while the PNMs rehash everything they saw, said and did the day before and go through the agony of having to possibly cut a sorority they like or be cut from one.

Tell her to keep her head up high-- she's had a great week so far and to keep marching ahead! I think that it's possible she may not have connected with some chapters today-- which is normal-- but it is also just as likely that everyone's tired and cranky and ready to welcome their new members.

BamaDad (and BamaMom!), it sounds like a major case of exhaustion to me! Your daughter has probably met close to a thousand people within the past few days - just trying to keep them straight is a real challenge! Plus, she's walked from house to house in scorching heat and nice clothes - while trying to look like a Princess. Once she takes a soothing bath or shower, and pampers herself a little, she'll feel much more like herself. I have complete faith in her - anyone who pulls off so many return invitations on the first round is doing quite well!!

And you are a dear for being there for her!

Good luck to your daughter! Tell her to get a good sleep tonight :) the best is yet to come!

Hi Bamadad and Bamamom,
I too am an Alabama alum who "rushed" (as they called it then) in 1970...you're right, everybody is tired and talked out. If daughter has been invited back to the same number of chapters as parties...or more...she is probably not likely to wind up with only 1 choice tomorrow! Tomorrow is Skit Day, and the end is approaching. Not as many parties, so all the girls will be re-energized. Good luck and ROLL TIDE!

It's not a silly question but I have a silly answer. First off there were 7 parties during this round, not 8. Second, in years past there were only 6 parties, hence the nickname Six Party Round. But due to the incredibly large number of PNMs that are participating in Recruitment this year at Alabama they increased the number to 7. No one knows (or is admitting ;)) why Panhellenic didn't change the name. Many folks refer to it simply as Skit Day.

A little more FYI if anyone's interested. Years ago the previous round was called Ten Party since that was the number of parties . Once we adopted Philanthropy Day everyone started calling it that. Also, the first round was Ice Water Tea and still is for many. However, it has been officially changed by our Panhellenic to Open House. Finally, the last round that most folks call Preference is referred to as Serious Night here (regardless of the time of day it's held).

Another little aside, back at Illinois when I went through Rush (for me too it was called that way back when), we simply called them 1st round, 2nd, 3rd and Pref. I wonder if they still do there? I've discovered that many campuses have different nicknames for the various rounds.

Don't forget - Serious Night used to be held in the evenings! I missed out, but the senior class (when I pledged) was the last year they got to do Serious Night at night and I always heard it was so beautiful. I really wish we had been able to do that!

By the way - ROLL TIDE!!

When I was there we either called them "rounds" or "stages" - first stage, second stage, etc. I think that is still the terminology there.

We just heard from Bama Daughter about fifteen minutes ago. Here is a recap:

* D was invited back to 13 houses of 15 after Open Houses. She cut two sororities and so attended 11 houses on Philanthropy Day.

* D was Invited back to 8 houses of 11 after Philanthropy Day. She cut four sororities and so attended 7 houses on Six Party Day.

And now for today's update.....

* D was invited back to 6 houses of 7 after Six Party Day. She cut three sororities and so will attend 3 houses at Preference Day today!

Thank all of you for your advice (private and public) as we agonized through yesterday's events. My D was obviously a bit too pessimistic when she told us abut her flat conversations at Six Party Day. She is excited and looking forward to today! We told her to let them know how much she wants to belong to any oneof their houses. There is now much more of a frontrunner than ever before, but she said she would be extremely happy with any one of the three. Amen!

Yippie. I was waiting for your update!!!

Congrats to your daughter. Tonight will be an emotional one for her. Prefs are always a sentimental time for the Sorority members and the PNMs.

Good Luck to your family!

Fantastic! Wow! Such a well rounded and popular girl. She will do great. She will be a great asset for any of the three.:)

Can't wait to find out the where she becomes a sister!

Yeah Congrats to BamaDaughter!!! When is Pref again, when are bids handed out?, in other words when do we need to log in for the next update???

Wow! That's simply incredible - obviously, your daughter has what they call "the complete package"!! Please wish her the best of luck from me (and probably everyone else!)!

Re: It will be an emotional night. If she can take a pack of tissues in with her, she will probably need them. Don't worry too much, though, as the sororities will probably have boxes of them ready, too! Also, she may want to check her mascara between parties.

HOW EXCITING!!!!!

It has to be exciting for BamaDaughter! Hope she enjoys her final party. Thanks for the update! I can't wait to see where she ends up! :)