Allowing Significant other to wear letters......
 

:eek: Okay, im not sure if there is another thread about this somewhere but I HAVE to ask!!!! My fiance and I were having a discussion about letting your sig.other wear your letters.

for example: his frat brother doesnt mind letting his girlfriend wear his t-shirts around the house or his Kappa jacket when she's cold...etc....On the other hand my fiance is like HELL NO...he loves me dearly but he would rather go to the store and buy me something right then to wear if i didnt have anything. They tease his frat all the time about his girlfriend wearing Kappa para but he still lets it go on.

I thought it was a little over board but got to thinking that maybe he's right. I wouldnt want to see him in my DST ever (not that he would want to) but you know what i mean. Not only that but it goes both ways....would you let your mom or your dad wear your frat/sorority hat or t-shirt...etc.

Tell me what you think...i really want to know!!! (sorry its so long:confused: )

Something kinda similar happend to me a couple of months ago. My brother, who is 20, will often go in my closet and get a shirt if he needs one. When he told me he needed a shirt, I told him to go get one and he comes out with one of my NUPE shirts. My first instinct was to snatch him out of it, and it must have showed on my face because he said, "I can't wear this one?" I calmly explained why he could not wear that shirt, or even touch my kane. He then understood and apologized.

I was mad in an evil way when I returned home to find one of my brother's guests sipping out of a SGRho cup. I politely asked for her cup and poured her drink in a new cup. There were no Greeks around, but she wasn't a member, so she wasn't going to keep it going.

Wearing my para??? Negative. Not even my Mom. The closest I ever came to that was allowing my niece to stay warm with my jacket on top of her at a step show in a chilly auditorium.

My dad was wearing one of my shirts and when I asked him to take it off he had a fit!!! But I was persistant and he had to take it off. SORRY! The only time I ever let someone else use my Kappa umbrella, was when I let my SGRho sweety go to her car in da rain. :D.

No one is wearing my letters. That's just not an option.

DAYMN RIGHT!!!:mad:

There was this one time when I asked one of my players (I coach girls basketball) to go to the varsity locker room to get my jacket. She comes out of the locker room with my jacket on. Oh MY GOD!!! I was sitting in the fourth row of the bleachers and I think I skipped all of the rows and jumped down, ran over to her as she was walking and I snapped her lil' butt up. "Girl, ARE YOU CRAZY??? TAKE OFF MY JACKET!!! I went off because these are high school students who know better...we have a lot of BGLO sponsored youth groups out here, so they KNOW BETTER!

My husband would rather buy me a jacket than to let me sport his "NUPE" anything.

I had an experience last summer where me and a few friends went to Atlanta. We were staying with one of my friends Aunts. That weekend it rained like crazy because a hurricane was in the gulf and it had come on shore and was heading up to Georgia from Florida. Anyway, one of my friends he's from the Carribean needed to go to the car to get something. So he just grabbed an umbrella from the door. It happened to be my Kappa Umbrella. When I saw him come through that door having used my umbrella I was like what the hell are you doing. I told him don't ever do that again. He thought I overreacted but he didn't touch my umbrella for the rest of the trip.

No. Never. Wouldn't want to be with a man who would rock my letters.

I absolutely HATE when females come over to my house and always try and play around and touch my Kanes, this one chick tryed to sneak one out the door, I almost pushed her down the steps of my porch! Females are always fascinated with my Kanes because they see how much each one means to me. Always wanna play!:mad:

I'm a negative on family and spouses wearing my para if they are not a member. I can recall a time I was at school and I left one of my SGRho tanks back home. My sister calls me one day and tells me that my mom took my shirt out of my room to wear that day. So i freaked and told her to put my mom on the phone. I made such a big fuss about it she changed her mind about wearing it. She said she wanted to wear it because it matched what she was putting on. :eek:

my mom, for WEEKS now, has been asking me to put my SGR keychain on her keyring. NOT!

explaining to her why = me being saddity

plz, my own soror almost got at me for wearing her jacket, so i wouldnt even think about wearing someone else's or using someone's para. one of my AKA friends had me over and gave me water in an AKA glass. i was like, are you sure? she was like, its cool dont worry, thanks for asking.

but not everyone's cool like that you know?

My Zeta cups and glasses are on display and it's pretty obvious that they are ornaments. What use to really aggravate me was when people wanted to touch my cat & Zeta figurines and also my paddles. Look but do not touch! I now have my off limit items under lock and key. As far as my man wearing my letters. Now that would be a serious problem. I would think something was seriously wrong with him. My Sorors can use my jacket/umbrellas, etc. Anyone else knows better than to even go there.

So here's a question. Would you let your mom/dad/husband/wife go without rather than letting them use any of your para? I mean, I understand not restricting items when there are other options clearly available. However, if it was raining, and the only umbrella available was yours (w/letters), or if it was cold and the only jacket/blanket available was your (w/letter) would that make a difference?

If possible I would buy one, but I really never keep my KAPsi umbrella in the car for that reason. Also I carry two jackets so my crossing jacket is optional. I have tucked my niece under my jacket when she is cold, but never let her wear it. Any adult should know the climate of the environment they are going to be in and should be able to dress accordingly. But on dates and social outing where I would have to be a gentleman I wouldn't be wearing letters anyway.

Why??? Are you saying you aren't a gentleman when in letters???;)

If you don't want anyone to use it, then lock it away.

I know I've mentioned this elsewhere on the board but someone needed to use an umbrella because of a sudden rain. I let the girl use my Alpha umbrella, told her to be careful with it, and told her that if ANYONE gave her any problems, to tell them they could see ME. Cuz I'll be damned if being an Alpha precludes me from being a gentleman.

I'm saying there are situations where you feel more obligated to be a gentleman. Often when I'm in my line jacket or other jackets w/ letters I'm in class or out casually. In those situations it would be overkill to whip off my jacket for every woman who felt chilly all of a sudden. Thanx for nit-picking!:D...:rolleyes:

Anytime:p I enjoy your comebacks...you always have one that makes me laugh.

MWAH!!!!:D

Ha Ha I was a 2nd sem soph. this girl came all the way from USC in colombia to FMU in florence to see me. well the nxt morning about 6 she nudging me telling me she gotta pee. I tell her the bathrms down the hall first door on the rt. i look up eyes full of sleep i see my line name in bright gold ass letters bouncing out my bedrm door. now my line name was on my shirt . my shirt was suposse to be on my chair but instead it was on the girls back. shit i jumps out the bed bucket ass naked down the hall with all my glory boppin and weavin early mornin woody and all. Im yelling what the f**k you doing, and made her take my shirt off right there in the hall. to make matters worse my two rm mates come into the hall to see whats going on and start laughing their asses off. The girls they were with didn't talk to me for about a month. that was the first time i got that nookie. That was the best nookie i had all sem. and that was the last time i got that nookie.:(

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Being that homegirl is from my alma mater...SHE SHOULD KNOW BETTER THAT THAT!!:( :mad: Lord, thank God she did not try that at Carolina.

At the subject at hand: I wouldn't let anybody wear my letters...except my mom. :D ;)

So...how would you explain your mom in your letters...unless...Is she a soror?

Dat story was TMI!!! :(

She is! :D :p

That story was TMI, but you could've just pulled her back inside the room instead of taking the shirt off her in the hallway for all to see.

My beau is not particularly partial to salmon pink or apple green so it's not an issue with me. LOL. No seriously, I wouldn't let him or even a woman wear my letters. And if it's raining they can get under the umbrella but I'll have to hold it myself.

ETA: I would drape my 6 year old niece in my jacket if that's all that she had and it was freezing cold and raining on us (this actually happened at a nighttime baseball game this spring - I had to take off my jacket and put it on her, but fortunately it was not an Alpha Kappa Alpha jacket).

SC

THANK YOU!! Whew that's scary... having to strip down right there in the hall.

SC

Does this count?
 

How about the guys who profile and try to pick up women with a sorority tag on the car?

Back in the day, when I cared, I would put the dude on blast real quick.

Ok, I have only worn another's shirt once and that was waaaaaaaaay before becoming greek and he gave me the :mad: all night. I said a T-shirt, not that one... lol. My mother has some of my para at her house but it just sits there.... even when my nephew who is 2 comes to my house... he knows he cars and my para do not go on the same shelf PERIOD. I keep my umbrella in my window and only I use it. I'll help you stay dry, but give it to you, DEAD ISSUE. :mad:

Down the block from me a lady was having a garage sell. She had her deceased husband's Alpha pari spread out and random ppl attracted to pretty colors were touching it and even buying it :eek:. I told her I didn't think it was proper to sell these things to ppl who know nothing about it and that it might cause problems. She told me in a nice granny tone to KIM.

You never know what type of relationship her and her husband had (unless of course you knew them personally). People do a lot of things out of spite and scorn:eek: (not trying to justify her actions, just giving another side of things)

The type of relationship doesn't matter. I'm quite sure Alpha Phi Alpha has procedures for how a deceased brother's paraphernalia should be handled.

She's probably thinking the same thing about Alpha. No matter how long they were married, she probably had no consideration or regards for Alpha or anything Greek. If she doesn't care about the organization, why would she care about procedures for paraphernalia? Why would she even contact HQ to learn about the procedures?

I hope this issue is far and few between for Greeks.

@ Marquise1911 - Thanks for speaking up and trying to enlighten her. You know there are some Greeks that would've KIM because those weren't their letters. :(

I did what I could.

Jojapeach, you're right about her feelings for Alpha, or lack thereof.

I wonder if any of his brothers in the area made any attempts to recover his para? Maybe they did and she wouldn't relinquish the items. Heck, I don't know. :confused: :(

I don't know if it was spite, but I think she was more like . "He was my husband and I'll do what I please with his belongings."

I don't think he expressed to her how important A-Phi-A was to him. She said it like she was selling his "BoBo's bowling" uniform. Or maybe she resented how much the frat meant to him. I don't know.

My husband wasn’t in a fraternity. I wouldn’t care if he wanted to wear something of mine, but there’s no way he would –all my shirts & such are too girly looking. :D

On a slightly different note - I still somehow have a Pike intermural sports shirt that I borrowed from a friend like four years ago when I spilled something on my shirt at their house. I never did return it - but I didn't intend to keep it either. LOL. If I weren't alum now, I'd try to give it to somebody in the local PKA chapter, but I'll just wait until I happen to run into one someday LOL. I never wear it anyhow.

My husband's a Nupe and I don't think he'd appreciate me wearing his Crimson and Cream as I would not appreciate him wearing my Pink and Green. The only thing we share is a mirror. Well, actually we have seperate vanities. AKA's and Kappa's who date/marry had better have seperate mirrors, closets, hell, we compete on who is the better dressed. He is smooth with the bowties....

One of my good friends who's an AKA asked me to babysit her 5 year old kid which I do from time to time to help her out. Her daughter tried to get at my kane one day I was babysittin her. She was like; "I can do a trick with that kane, lemme show you. You want to see?" I was like, ummm, no... OH SHOOT! Look over there out the window it's Santa! I quickly hid my kanes in my closet out of her sight and took her to a movie, by the time we got back she had forgotten those kanes existed.