Once a cheater, always a cheater?
 

One of my best friends asked for my advice on a situation of hers and it got me thinking... so natually I decided to being the topic here!

My best friend and one of our guy friends recently hooked up one drunken night. She tells me that he is now interested in something more (aka a relationship) and she is hesitant about it. The reason? He has a girlfriend.

She wants my advice on what to do... and usually I would just say that if he cheated with her, he will cheat on her.

I've never met the girlfriend (in fact, only 2 of our friends ever have.. but thats another story!) and I haven't hung out with the guy in question much lately due to being in college 3 hrs away for around 9 months of the school year, but he has always been one of those nice guys and I've never known him to cheat before.

So idk, have you ever had a situation where the person didn't cheat again? And if you did like this person, why are you still with your current significant other? Or is it really true that "once a cheater, always a cheater?"

dude's not a cheater, if the two girls are far enough away from each other.
If he's nice, you should want him to date your friend

There are some people who are just completely incapable of staying faithful to a significant other, ever, anywhere - but they are the exception, not the rule.

I've been a cheater from hell, and a super faithful girlfriend. It mostly depends on the circumstance.

Drunk hook-up = not great start to relationship, whether he has a girlfriend or not.

I would say to lay low from him for awhile. If he still wants to date her in a month or two (and has broken it off with the other girl) then maybe give it a try.

I totally agree.

Lies! :(

= not necessarily true.

Just because someone has cheated once doesn't mean they'll cheat again, and it doesn't mean he or she won't be faithful in a particular relationship.

Wait. I don't understand something. He has a girlfriend and wants a second? :confused: :confused:

No, but I'd have a hard time trusting someone who swore he wouldn't cheat on ME. I mean, what was he telling the first girl?

I had two boyfriends once. It was awesome.

I didn't say anything about cheating, in fact, I said whether or not they have a girlfriend. What I said was that a drunk hook-up is not a good way to start a relationship. Cheating optional.

I know! :(

. . . and he was saying that your point about drunken hook-ups is not necessarily true.

On another note - don't we already have like 9,000,000 of these threads? I mean, it gives THREE of them in the 'related' stuff at the bottom . . .

greatest invention of the new message board.

back to the topic at hand, if she likes the guy, she should be willing to take the risk that he might cheat again. she might cheat. there is no absolute formula or rule, people tend to do what they want to do.

Thanks, yeah I just told her if she really wanted something with him to go ahead, but you know, anything could happen.

No, he wants to break up with the current gf for her. Of course, Im thinking that he should break up with this current girl anyway, but its not my life. I don't know that I could have the time to actually date two people at once!

Yeah I guess there were some other threads like this (that is a pretty cool new feature!) but I sometimes the all important search button is forgotten about :)

Very true. We had a guy at my school who was known to be a player and would never commit. A couple of weeks before school ended, we were at a party and we started making out and he was all over me. This one girl was just standing there watching us and giving us weird looks so I'm like "what's her problem?" That following Monday, one of my sisters overheard his friends talking about his girlfriend. So I went on facebook to see who his girlfriend is, and it turned out to be the the girl who was watching us make out. Like seriously, WTF. If you just stand there and watch your boyfriend make out with other girls in front of you, I think that's a pretty good indication that the relationship will never work out.

I agree. I think people who cheat are still capable of doing so, but they have to fight the urge. I know I do anyway, LOL.

I think even people who DONT cheat or who have NEVER cheated have to fight the urge...