Dating Younger Men
 

Would you date a younger man? If so, what is an acceptable age difference?

Given the fact that one or two of my Soror regulars have an idea how many candles I had on my last cake, I would date someone younger. Just not too young 'cause I don't wann sing the "Ballard of Cradle Rob and Me." Teena Marie fans will remember that song.
*smile*

Giggy, very interesting topic.

I honestly don't know whether I would date a younger man. I have learned in these last few years that age really is just a number. For example, I'm 24 but compared to some of my friends who are the around same age, I am old.

I think you should date someone who is in your same life stage, but not necessarily the same age. Does that make sense?

CK

I agree, date someone that can share in a lot of the same experiences that you have experienced, or currently experiencing. If they are much younger than you, it might be more of a mother/son type relationship where you are talking about what you are going through and he have no clue. Or he may be going through it and you provide him your personal experience. That is good to share ideas, but what can he do to share in your experiences. One key thing, if he makes you happy, then I am all for it.

I'm 35, 2 weeks from 36(and I look good and feel good). I've always had boyfriends and husbands my age or a few years older. But in the last few years, I've noticed that the men who approach me are younger by a few years, some up to 10 years younger. I'm presently happy and content in my 5 year relationship, but if that ever changes, I'll definitely date younger, would actually be looking forward to it.

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I wouldn't date someone significantly younger. That's just because I think we wouldn't have much in common. But, I would have to decide that on an individual basis and not group everyone together. But in GENERAL, I would stay away from men who were more than a year younger than me. Plus, I prefer dating older men. They are usually more comfortable with who they are.



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I hope yall don't mind me responding. I read the question, and decided to flip it. Would you all date a man considerably older? How much older?

Hello Mr. 06 :-)
To answer the first part...I actually had a brief spell with a man 5 years younger (it happens!lol) and I dated a man 10 years older.



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While I would never date a younger man (women mature faster), I have dated older men. I once dated a man in his 30's while I was in college. My husband is 12 years older than me and I STILL wonder sometimes http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif



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MCCOYRED
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Dynamic...Salient...Temperate...Since 1913

While I don't date younger men (women mature faster), I have dated older men. I once dated a man in his 30's while I was in college. My husband is 12 years older than me and I STILL wonder sometimes http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif



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MCCOYRED
Mu Psi '86
BaltCo Alumnae

Dynamic...Salient...Temperate...Since 1913

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I wouldn't date a man younger than me. I only date older men. Seeing as women mature faster than men you have to get someone older to be on the same maturity level as you. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif Don't mind the face I just thought it was cute
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LOL I like this emoticon on AOL 6.0 the one with the pouty face and the tongue sticking out...SOOOOOOO attitudinal!!!!


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Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Incorporated...Every Finer Woman's Dream!

I suggested the topic because as woman we are socialized to NOT date young men. Dating and marrying older men is the norm. In fact many of us have grandmothers who are 10 years younger than our grandfathers. That is (was since they are both deceased) the case in my family. I have never dated a younger man (in years, only younger by a few weeks). I have always dated older men five or more years older. However, as a get older I think a lot can be said for staying away from Men over 30. LOL

It's time for Giggy Z to get her groove back! :-)

I don't mean to scare you sista; but one day YOU'LL be over 30, and you wont feel or look like you're ready for the grave. Think about it.

Since I responded on Feb. 03rd, much has changed, and I have to answer this post again LOL.
Well maybe I better not on second thought.

Well, My b-friend of 3 years is 2 years younger than me..It can be a problem but to each his own

LOL...LOL...LOL...

Giggy over 30...now fancy that...nah, will never happen! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/biggrin.gif

Anyway, I think I've dated a man a year younger than I...I do think the challenge is maturity...I have dated older men who were less mature that I at the time (probably why they were dating a younger woman, eh), so I would be...surprised to find a young guy who was on the same page as an older woman (more than 5 year age difference).

Does that mean it can't happen? Of course not...one of my good male friends is a least 3-5 years younger than myself, and he is one of the most mature men I've ever met--as a result he usually dates women at least 5 years older.




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GiggyZ over 30, you're right it will never happen!!! even though she remembers Cradle Rob-n-Me .... LOL

as they say age is but a number ... it doesn't matter if you are 10, 20, 30 years younger or older it matters where the two of you are in your relationship. personally speaking the december-may relationship works well in my house.

Dear Mr. Original Ape,

My post was a joke. Most of the Zetas on this forum have an idea as to how young I am. I remember celebrating my 30th birthday back when Bush was president. Daddy Bush that is.

While I was getting my hair done yesterday I had my eye on this cute little 19 year old who was waiting for a barber. I know I should be ashamed of myself, but I was thinking if Stella can get her groove back, why not me? Anyway, after listening to him and all the other young guys go on and on about what color new jordans they're going to get and which stores get them in first, I decided that I need to stick with men my age and older. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif



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Back when I was in my late 20s (not that long ago), I was suddenly PLAGUED by 24 year old guys who wanted to date me. After dating two 24 year olds and being taken through the wringer, I put my hand on my stack of Essence magazines and SWORE I'd never look at another 24 year old again! I later married a man who is 8 years older than I am.

Would I date a younger man. I have...usually only a year younger...but I dated one 3 years younger not so long ago...The maturity issue definitely came up. I was ready for a lot more than he could handle and like Donell Jones in "Where I Wanna Be"...he bounced to mature while being single.

on the flip side...I used to ONLY date older men. Like no younger than 30, which was cool for a while, but then I realiZed I kept running into males who were either ready to settle down or recapture their youth.

Currently, I am happily dating someone 13 months older than me and that suits me just fine...but 3-4 years ago...it would have never happened...cause the maturity level just wouldn't have been there for him.

I realiZe that during the mid to late 20's or early 30's a male's maturity level catches up to a women's...but then there are some who will forever have the maturity level of a 16 yo...you've just got to figure out which is which...

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Aint' nuthin' wrong with likin' fresh fruit! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

Me too! I'm in my early 30's and for the last few years I've been very popular with the 24-26 yr olds. After a DISASTEROUS relationship wuth a 25 yr old when I was 30, I will not try that again. Life stages are too different.

My personal rule is 7 up, 1 down.
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Amy

So far in my life time which isn't that long, I am only 26. I have only dated one younger guy, but initially he lied to me about his age, so I didn't enter the relationship knowing he was younger than me by two years. It is my preference not to date men that are younger than myself. I find that they sometimes lack ambition, or are in a stage of life where they are still looking to obtain, what I have already worked hard to obtain and am currently reaping the benefits of. These days I also find that younger men are more into material things such as fast cars, and quick money and they simply aren't putting anything out there that I would find attractive. I am so not into that bling bling thing! More often than not I have attracted men that are always at least 7-10 years older than myself. An older man doesn't necessarily mean that is stuff is any more together than a younger guy, but at least if you are dating an older guy, you can weed things out earlier. Your not sitting there waiting for him to "become" He either is or isn't at that age.

Sorors,
My boyfriend of a year is almost 5 years younger (I am 29 and he just turned 25).
I wouldn't have dated him if I knew his age and would have missed out on the sweetest, most caring man I ever met.

Roshonda

Such a good topic. I have only dated 1 man younger than myself, by one year...Maturity was not the issue. I now date a gentleman who is 2 years older, and all is well. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif. IF I were looking for someone to date, I don't think I would go for someone more than a year younger. I would date someone older, but not old enough to be my daddy. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/eek.gif

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great subject
 

I would date a younger man. The real question is will you date an older man. A younger man can be satisfy you in way you are looking for, an older man might satisfy you mentally, and phisically but not the other way if you know what i mean. but if a younger man have the right mine set and is on your level then i say go for it.

to answer the question about older guys
 

I've been dating an older quy for 2 years and we just got engaged. He is 6 years older then me.;)

Younger? Well, I can't say that I would NEVER date a man younger than myself... But currently, I am not at all interested in pursuing the possibility. :D

Older... ? Shoooot yeah! Up to 10 or 12 years is within reason I think... :D
In fact, some of my best male friends are 5+ years older than me!

And given the chance I would... ;)

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FOR THE LONGEST I WAS LIKE I WANT ALL OLDER MEN-I DON'T WANT ANY YOUNG BUCKS-I'M ALSO ONLY 21, LOL GO FIGURE RIGHT.

BUT ANYWAY LATELY I'VE BEEN DATING THIS 21 YEAR OLD HE'S ALMOST TWO MONTHS YOUNGER THAN ME, BUT FACT IS I'VE ONLY DATED MEN 24 AND UP. SO TO ME HE'S YOUNG. YEA I HAD SOME SO CALLED CRADLE ROBBERS.

BUT ANYWAY-I GOT THIS GUY NOW AND HE'S LIKE WOW, I LIKE HIM ALOT. HE SEDUCES ME MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY. HE'S LIKE EVERYTHING I COULD ASK FOR I GET OFF WORK HE PICKS ME UP AND MASSAGES MY FEET AND BACK. I CALL HIM IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT BECAUSE I CAN'T SLEEP AND HE GETS UP AND TALKS TO ME UNTIL I FALL ASLEEP. I TELL HIM ABOUT MY BILLS, HE PAYS THEM. I WALK UP TO A DOOR, HE OPENS IT. SO I'M LIKE GETTING THE PAY OFF FOR ALL THE JERKS I HAD IN MY LIFE. I'M VERY HAPPY SO I'M JUST ENJOYING HIM ONE DAY AT A TIME.

I'm 26 and the guy I'm dating is 23. Frankly, I couldn't ask for anything better!:)