Online Dating
 

It seems that online dating sites are very popular. Although I am single, I cant visualize going to one. I would be concerned that my match would be some crazy serial killer waiting to hack me to pieces.

I know this girl that works in our department. For the past 5 years, all of her fiancee's (about 3) found her online. What I find odd is that closer that it got to the wedding date, they all died?:eek: I know at some point that she'd give them money and all of the were supposedly in the military. That just sounds nuts to me.

Have you or do you know anyone who has met someone special through an online dating site? What was your experience? Do you think that it is possible to find your 'soul mate' online?

I met Mr. Tau online! Some online sites are okay, while others are cr@p. There's one called campuskiss.com/casualkiss.com and I personally DO NOT recommend that one.

My best friend met her husband in a politics-oriented chat room. 7 years later, they are the most amazing couple I know-- you look at them and know that in 30 years they're going to be the settled grandparents rocking on the porch swing and holding hands. I've never met two people more suited for each other-- and we all look back and marvel that had they not both been in the same chat room that night, they may never have met!

I think it is very strange that someone is willing to forgo meeting people in real life and would rather talk to people over the net in order to get a date.

Although, looking at the people on the commercials and the tv shows that promote online dating...well, it sort of makes sense.

I met people on IM in high school that I went on a date or two with, but only if we had a mutual friend that would vouche for them that they weren't a 46 year old nutjob. But that was also HS, not serious dating.

I think stuff like eHarmony that match you based on personality are interesting in that you know everyone on that site has one basic personality trait in common - their willing to do that kind of stuff. I think really it takes a certain kind of person to even be comfortable with that.

I think if I were still dating, I'd be more likely to go to a Christian Singles event, or even one of those orgainized "Speed Dating" kind of things before I'd do something (serious) on the internet.

I'm just glad that part of my life is over.

Why not use facebook or myspace like "normal people!"

haha j/k

A couple of girls in my sorority (and all of our girls were/are pretty much gorgeous model knockouts;)) did the online dating thing. It worked out for some of them, not for others. I don't think it matters what you look like.

One of my friends met her husband through an online dating site. My friends are mostly teachers, which means meeting single men at work are slim to none. It worked for her, so I can see why people try it.

I will be honest... the guy I'm currently dating I met through myspace.

He was a guy one of my friends knew, he had heard lots of stories about me from her, so when he saw me as one of her friends we started joking about our mutual friend and decided it would be fun to hang out, and after about 4 months of just being friends, well he decided that we should date.

I guess it would have been the same if we all decided to go out for drinks or something one night as a group, but it came from me finally getting a myspace profile.

So far so good for us! :)

But I also have friends who have met their husbands, fiances on sites like match.com and eharmony.com. I was simply looking for a way to keep in touch with some of my friends from HS and college.

Wow, how condecending.

I know I certainly can't wait until I catch me a man and my life can really get started!

Because you're always better WITH a man than without. Even if he's a psychotic asshole, you're still not complete without him

Wait, I missed the part where I said that everyone had to share my opinion that I'm glad I'm done with dating....where did I say that "I hate dating, and everyone else should too"???

I understand some people truely "are single and loving it", but I'm not one of those people.

So, once again:

I'm just glad that part in MY life is over.

Again... how condecending.

The explanation didn't really help. Sorry.

Ok, well, I still don't see how it's condecening, being that it's my opinion about my own life, but whatever.:rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Do you do this in real life? Because I really hope you do.

"I still don't see how it's condecending!" : rolleyes : : rolleyes :

For everyone: it's condescending.

I think all that Jess is trying to say is that she's glad she doesn't have to go through all the "getting to know you" crap of dating any more - similar to any of us saying (and I've seen it on here many times) "I'm so glad I don't have to deal with formal rush any more." It has nothing to do with "catching a man and getting your life started" - that isn't AT ALL what she said.

Jeez, people, quit being so oversensitive. And besides, if anyone has call to be oversensitive about something like this it's the women on here who are single and actually remember when Nixon was in office.

That's EXACTLY what I was trying to say. Why does everyone insist on reading something that isn't there???

Sorry, I still think it's crap. I think it's crap when she says it, I think it's crap when my girlfriends from college say it, I think it's crap when ANYONE says it.

Life is just life and it's a process. If you're just walking around saying dating is SUCH A BURDEN and ALL CRAP and I HATE IT SO MUCH I WISH I WAS MARRIED RIGHT NOW you're missing out on a lot of the great parts to being single, and a huge chunk of years and social stuff in your life.

Plus, it makes you sound like a jerk.

She never said that, nor did anyone else on this board.

I'm out dating again after many years of being in a relationship, and are there times I love it? Yes. Are there times I hate it? Yes. Am I going to marry the first chucklehead who asks just so I don't have to date anymore? HELL NO.

You're reading way too much into a simple comment. If you do have friends in their early-mid 20's who think that way...and it's bugging you this much...I'd say you need to find a new bunch of non-asshat friends.

FWIW, I've thought of giving the online dating thing a whirl, but it's because I don't get much of a chance to meet people. I work in the suburbs, very small office, travel mostly to nursing homes, and have a lot of paperwork at nights. Plus, there's this really romantic attitude that I've developed of "would I change this man's diaper, if necessary?" Kinda puts you off dating.

I've had friends who went through eharmony & match.com, some who've met Mr/Ms Right, some who haven't.

Edited to add: Sheila, I hear you!

You're still wrong. Sorry, but you are.

Can we at least agree that some people enjoy dating, and some don't?

I know that, newly coming out of a relationship, the very thought of dating is somewhat akin to blow drying my hair with a blowtorch.

Please explain what point you're trying to make with the Nixon reference in regard to a woman of that age and marital status. I'm trying to understand your point of view.

Okay, but how about this? You like dating the right guy, correct? It's fun, it's new, it's exciting to plan stuff. Then after awhile it's not new anymore but it's still great because it's comfortable, it's reliable, it's steady.

Nobody likes dating assholes, but I think most people like dating good people - even when it doesn't (gasp!) end in marriage.

I guess my point is, most relationships are like that - when you're getting into a new friendship with a woman, you have no idea if she's going to backstab you at work, or sleep with your boyfriend, or forget your birthday. But nobody would ever say, "Wow, I am SO GLAD I have all the friends I could EVER need and now I don't have to deal with making friends anymore!"

Essentially - relationships are imperfect, including marriages. Oh well. You make the best of what you've got, when you've got it.



And personally - if I was a guy, I would NOT be interested in women who walk around complaining about WHAT CRAP DATING IS and how once they're married they won't have to deal with this anymore.

How is this comment not just as condecending to someone who is married?? We obviously have different ideas of what we want in our life, but you can't get on me about making comments about being married, and then turn around and spout BS about how you're SO happy you're still single and have a social life.

Are you sure I'm the one acting like the jerk here?

I am one, FYI. :) I'm just saying if anyone has the right to be offended by someone allegedly saying "thank God I has me a mayun and my life has done begun and I don't have to be miserable like all you single girls!" it's the women who have already lived more of life.

But I'm NOT offended, because no one ever said that.

Well, that's certainly a way to put words in my mouth.

I have no comments about married life, as I've never been married. Maybe you could cut and paste the part where I said "I am SO happy I'm still single! I have a social life!"

Looks to me like your reading comprehension needs a little work.

This isn't an accurate comparison because unless you're a female polgamist (and hell, maybe you are, I don't know) one husband is all you're going to "ever need", and you DON'T have to date anymore.

A) You aren't a guy, so it's a moot point
B) I didn't think dating sucked when I was younger, but now that I'm married, I can't imagine doing it again.

Hi, pot! Meet kettle!

Um, great! I'm 25. How old do I have to be for you to give me the OK on this?

Just asking. Cause I thought it was understood that most people take offense to anytime someone says, "Thank God I'm not [in your situation]!" Including, "Thank God I'm not single anymore!", "Thank God I'm not female!", "Thank God I'm not white!", etc.

I must have missed it. I still don't see it.

Maybe your husband could help you break the sentences down into more managable segments?

I didn't say anyone DOES have the right, but if anyone did, it would be us old dried up biddies (sarcasm as I apparently have to label it). You missed the

IF

in my reply.

Oh, and I'm saying "Thank God I don't have to go through formal rush again" - wow, I just offended a large portion of people on here!!

In your own words:

Well, honestly, yeah. If I was going through rush and you told me you thought rush was the most stupid, vapid experience of your life, and full of crap, I'd be a little insulted.

Maybe I'm missing the point here, but to me, she threw out a thinly veiled snippy remark, and certainly not for the first time.

I think I'd be insulted if I WAS married. The dating got you the husband, right? And had a hand in developing how you interact with other people, react to situations, etc.? But I should be smug and nasty to everybody who's NOT married because my choices are for everyone?

Funny how when people get all smug and nasty I quit being nice to them.

You are reading WAY too much into this. Seriously. All I saw was someone saying what SHE PERSONALLY felt - not that everyone else in the world was pathetic because they weren't at the same place in their life.

Really? Seems incredibly simple to me.

I'm sorry your highness, I didn't realize that you were the only one who was allowed to be smug and nasty, I'll remember that next time.

Just so you know, because you're apparently clueless - most people are going to get smug and nasty when you start in on it first.